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When a person brings in their problems.
Such as : Constant talk of the ex. That baggage needs to be unpacked and put away.

Baggage... aka ex nagging wives

i think it has more to do with if you meet someone and he or she is bringing negitivitey with them from there last relationship or some people would say that if a lady has a child who's father is still on the scene then most guys will feel thats baggage. but theres other ways it can be taken aswell.

Its bringing the crap you put up with in your last relationship and bringing it to the new. When you bring your bad vibes and negativity in the relationship.

i agree with your post except for the "bringing the crap that you put up with to the new"
I personally think that it is more a matter of bringing the past relationship into the new, as it takes two to make it what it was. I think that we have to take that as a learning experience and bring neither to the next relationship.
No offense intended. just additional thoughts to what you have already stated.

So true.

JMO ... bringing anything negative from your past, and allowing it to still keep things negative and not allowing that person to see what is good not wanting to move away from the past.

Unfortunately when some people have gone through something tragic, they may be very traumatized, and this might be viewed as baggage. I'm not sure if this is really "baggage".

(I am not talking about myself, just from experiences when helping others that have.)

unresolved issues from the past

Okay, thought about this for a couple of days. Now this is what it is to me.

Baggage is issues that people have that stop them from being able to or getting in their way of functioning in the here and now in a way that inhibits their full potential. The source of these issues could be anywhere, parents, siblings, ex's....past lives even. Only when we are not aware of our own personal baggage does this actually cause a problem, but awareness gives us the control to stay in the here and now and the power to step around it. I would say that not all baggage is bad and not all is good. Just what we do with it that matters.


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Sounds like you hit the nail on the head Geo

Regurgitation of the past will be toxic to a new relationship

Baggage is what it is... extra weight it comes in many forms emotional,financial,X's,kids.. individuals all have some form of past which carries on into a new relationship
Some baggage should be discarded before starting a new relationship and what can't be dumped should be discussed to see if this is going to have a negative effect on the new relationship JMO

Not having the understanding that since we can not control others actions they can not hurt us. Until that point is reached baggage will be carried forward making a positive outcome incapable of happening