runner1958: Met a man on here, really liked him. We spent weekends together and after the second weekend he wanted me to be more open. I thought he wanted to move too fast. He became very aggressive and I wanted help him understand me better by explaining. By the forth weekend he is telling me that he didn't have a good time at the auction because I didn't talk to other people enough. He told me that when I have trouble in my community I should manipulate instead of confronting the issues. He said I must be one of those people who likes to be upset at people all the time . When I attempted to share some of my experiences to give him a fuller picture of who I am. He said I was being argumentative and defensive. I am confused. Feed back please.
Big Red flag ...
When I attempted to share some of my experiences to give him a fuller picture of who I am. He said I was being argumentative and defensive. I am confused. Feed back please.Everything in your post screams to me of a very negative person. The way he appears in your post, is negative, critical about you. The "Move too fast", is also a big red flag.
All of the things you have described about his comments,negativity and moving very fast, are considered signs of a controlling (potential for abuse) type person. It is odd that he wants you to talk more, when most times males would like the woman to be less talkative.
He does not seem to appreciate who you really are. You are not afraid to confront things, that is a great quality to have. JMO ... the comment about "manipulate instead of confront", made me feel uncomfortable.
Sorry, but hope you do not mind my saying ... you deserve someone that is more positive about who you are, respects and appreciates it, even if you both differ in some ways.