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I think I would call him My Man.... possesive or not.... he better be true only to me..... or else.... just like I would be his woman... but thats just me

Hmmm people forget we are not married and refer to him as my husband. In my case ... "Fiancee". Not man friend... sounds ... immature ... if my mother is in a mood she refers to him as "Kim's Friend"...

who cares .. drop yer laundry an be happy.silence is golden .dont worry about words

Mmmm....why not just call him by his name and not worry about titles?

geo

I always call 'em .. "new mechanic" .. and explain that we are seeing each other over the carburetor or timing belt .. it is an ice breaker .. and it makes other singles out there comfortable that they have a hope in Hades with the chap, too!

Ummm...think there is a bit of a misunderstanding...or perhaps I worded this question wrong?? {More than likely}
I call him by name or certain endearments no problem...
My question is I was wondering how, when we all get to different stages in our lives, relationship wise included, do we refer to our "partner" to others...Example, he goes to hospital to see my son and help with his meds....I let nurses know that my "partner" will be up to help with meds and they then refer to him as my son's stepfather.
I needed to fill out an emergency contact form for myself and needed to define the "relationship to me"....
I know very well who we are and who he is to me....society in general has expectations and the need for definitions... lies my conundrum.
Just wanted to know if others have run into this and I guess...the simplest is boyfriend... albeit somewhat of a flashback

I understood what you were meaning. And yes, I would agree in some situations a clarification of your relationship is necessary.

On the other hand, as far as society in general is concerned and their expectations, (just my opinion), is that it is none of their business. Call him your friend and that pretty much leaves them to make all the assumptions they want and puts you in control of who and what you tell. I look at it from the point of view that our relationships with other people are ours, not societies.

Last person I was in a relationship with, I made no reference to them other than their name. Everybody else referred to her as 'my friend'. I do understand the situation, society needs everything pigeonholed.

But, it is really up to you and what you feel comfortable with. That is the real way to go.

geo

...or maybe just very close friend or something like that. The boyfriend thing...yeah, sounds like grade 8 doesn't it? :roll

geo

Exactly....better one yet, he often refers to himself as my old man...
However, I have a hard time calling him that...for whatever reason; it's weird. Yet, he calls me his girlfriend and it works; NOT the old lady.
Perhaps I have uncovered somewhat of a double standard.

i dated a man twelve years older and it felt odd to call him my boyfriend, so i always introduced him as my friend. The only one it bothered was my friend. He still liked the word boyfriend.
i guess it really is each to their own. and yes there can be double standards to that.

Hi

why not old man, he certainly has a sense of humour. If he referred you to being the old lady would be disrespectfull. I would refer to you as my girlfriend or maybe to add spice in family life, My fiancee. Shuts others up and causes some disturbance in the granny club.

My ex husband always referred to me as 'her indoors'

A more recent guy that I was seeing referred to me (when talking to ppl on the phone etc) as his darlin'

... Old man is other name ... but do use the term "my or MINE" ...

He refers to himself as Kim's Pin in the butt ... so when he calls my mother... she will tell everyone it's Kim's pain in the butt calling.... or here it's your pain in the butt on the phone,....

my lover

...then there is that really endearing term....the old battleaxe. Or how about...Long John?

Okay, okay....

geo

I have no problem saying boyfriend. I sometimes will say S/O for short for significant other but usualy I say boyfriend.

Tracy

I usually call a woman "My Lady".

"Beloved" was what I called my ex-fiance.

I GOT IT!!!! FINALLY!!!! Call him Lucky! Lucky cause he got you!!!



geo

i usta refer to my ex as "the ol blister" swole up wet underneathand usually painful