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I have a hard time believing you can get to know somebody on MSN. You don't see their faces, you don't know sometimes whether they're joking. And some people are excellent with the written language but can't talk or the other way around.

For me it is also important to hear the humanvoice. You get so much more out of that....

Yeah I'm with you two, you can't fall in love on MSN lol. I don't think you can even fall in love online. You need that tone, that voice, the look in the eyes, the movement, the touch, the tangible interaction before you can have a relationship of any substance.

I'll chat with anyone on MSN: PunkassPrincess05@hotmail.com


But all it amounts to is chatting. exchanging ides, filling in times of boredom, giving advice, having an unknown entity to bounce ideas off, having an anonymous shoulder to cry on... ect... I'm not saying its useless actually online friends are da bomb coz they fulfill all those needs I just stated but, you can't fall in love online. It could start it off or be the beginning but.... yeah you know what I mean.

I agree with the ladies here. You can't have a relationship soley (sp?) based on messengers and the internet. I think its great when you meet someone and get to know one another online but there will have to come a time where you will have to meet face to face and its only until then you will be able to tell if its love or not.

I know personaly I could never have a relationship the cyber way. I am way too physical for that. It would drive me insane.

well ladies my 2 cents worth says that you may not be able to fall in love on messenger or on the net period but.....it can afford you a wonderful chance to get to know a little bit about the person and gauge if you would like to meet them too see if there really is anything more to it than chat.
i personally have not fallen in love through messenger but it did play a big part in my last 2 meetings and relationships.
again this is just my 2 cents worth and humble opinion.
cheers

Well Msn is not really a way to fall in love with someone. But you can talk to people and get to know some stuff about then and then if you want you can choose to meet the person that you are talking to in person if you so feel the need too. I know someone that started talking to someone online moved to msn and then meet and know the got ingaged and not to long ago got maried. (sorry I am bad a spelling). They are very happy togeather. U never know what can happen.
Mabe msn is a gateway to romance but you are never going to be able to fully get a handle on someone unless you meet them in person and see what they are like in person
Just my thoughts on this

I remember having that discussion with the ladies quite a few times;-)

I think you can have a connection and then perhaps it goes on from there...if... and only if...

ya Rosey,
quick IMing me...for crying out loud.
LOL
just kidding.

so that means we're not meeting at 12pm my time like you had messaged me earlier?!


just kidding!

Talking on messenger is no different than thread posts as a sort of a 'gauge' as to how the person is in regards to topics of all sorts. You are true, that can't help you ascertain tone, body language, or anything else that you may see if on cam.. but at the same time I'd rather do it person to person, live.

Body language tells alot of things, and if you study body language long enough you can tell when someone is lying even if they think they are capable of hiding it.

As for getting to know them on any messenger.. that's fine, but it'll have to go far past that and still have things on the same level in time for it to be a solid 'relationship' in that respect, I feel.

-true +correct

..."Messanger is a tool like everything thing else in cyber land. You can get to know people quite well using it, if you willing to put in the time. It's not hard to chat with people when you have something in common with each other. The conversation will flow just as it does in person.

It is not a substitute for meeting someone in person though, but it does build the ground work for a meeting to happen in the future...."


This is someone's reply from the Int'l forum...i happen to agree with this posters view...and thought it was well said...

What do you think??

Exactly!

Messengers are a good communicative tool in getting to know someone and then when and if you decide to meet then that is when you will know if there is a true chemistry or not.

Still trying to "muddle" my way through this one...

Would like to know how a person can tell if the "interest" is still there after some time has passed...(I think i have an answer, but would still like to hear yours...)

Folks can certainly make connections on MSN. Fall in love? That takes time...face to face, in person kind of time.

I think we can fall in love with the IDEA of someone based on fantasy and imagination. I use a webcam and microphone sometimes. This kicks MSN "up a notch", because now I can hear the other person's voice and see them "live", without having to disclose a phone number. Then again I only use the mike and webcam after I've established a decent rapport with someone. I like the microphone, it's handy. I wish more folks would use them on MSN.

I also feel that sites such as these are really just ice breakers. If two people develop that strong of feelings for each other, wouldn't it be time to get off MSN and start getting together in person?

yes i think it can happen.after the first one or 2 e mails i like to voice chat with the culpret.i have met a few of my online dates and it has been terrific.not great enough to tie the knot but great enough to include them as great friends.i know its easy to type anything down but after awhile i get a feel about the person and know if they are sincere or a player.one thing for sure its alot easier than the old days by writing back and forth and how many pen pals have actually married.thousands i think. good luck and carp-diem!

I have. I've mentioned the situation before, but it started years ago when this person needed my help with many personal issues she was having, and I was just nice and helped out. After several months, things got started between us, and it lasted for almost 4 years. It only ended just a few months ago, when my medication for social anxiety disorder was getting the better of me in terms of how much energy I had to be able to be online. Despite the fact that she broke her promise to be patient and understanding of my issues, I must confess that I still love her and if she ever wanted to come back to me, all I'd want is a sincere apology for the pain she's caused me.

In a more...general perspective, I guess, the internet is a great way for me to bypass most of my social difficulties when communicating with people. I also don't try to trick people into believing I'm someone I'm not. Although I may or may not be good at expressing myself online, I always make it clear that in real life I am a much more reserved and shy person.

In short, I think it is very possible, providing both parties are completely honest and forthcoming with regards to themselves and their traits.

I have heard someone tell me just that via MSN, but convinced her that is not what she could be feeling, since we had only interacted in the one dimension.

The phone adds another dimension as well, however, I do not believe in truly falling in love until you have physically spent time with that person (and not meaning that in a sexual sense, but time sense.)

"Can a person really "fall in love" using "messenger"??"

Can pheromones be passed through the ether?

No, on both counts.