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So, me and my girlfriend were at the grocery store this weekend. We get to the till and the girl working was wearing these funky shoe's. My girlfriend lean's over to me and say's "I can't believe she'd wear those shoe's. They're horrible". Now, she said this right in front of the cashier and she said it loud enough that I'm certain the cashier heard it? We got to the car and I kinda gave my girlfriend shit for being rude. Her reply to me was "What, I'm not allowed to have an opinion?". I tried to explain to her that I wasn't upset that she had an opinion, I was upset with her because as far as I'm concerned that kinda thing is rude. She couldn't grasp my view. I'm just wondering, am I wrong?

I agree with you dougie. Rude is rude. Not cool in my world.

Hey dougie, bring her into the forums. lol.

Did she mean for the cashier to over hear her comment?

Nope, your right.
I'm not much for that eaither.
Your more than entitled to an opinion, but at least have the respect to keep it to yourselve.
LOL
My opinion anyways.....

I tend to notice shoes..nail polish etc. . but I never mention it in public..especially in front of the person. My thinking is that she either didn't realize she was speaking so loudly or she meant for the girl to hear her.

Well I know she didn't mean for the cashier to hear the comment. I told her she's entitled to have an opinion, but she should keep it to herself. I also told her that if someone were to do that to me in public, I'd react. As far as I'm concerned, that kinda thing is just starting shit! We actually got into an arguement over this! Like I said, she couldn't grasp what i was getting at.

i agree with you superdougie

My friend does things of that nature too ..will make comments about people that I know they can hear. I've told her more than once it's a good way to have your nose broken .. but she doesn't think it's a big deal. To her, she's just expressing herself and so the other person shouldn't be offended.

Well Dougie, I agree with you. Sometimes I do the same thing and regret it when I sober up. Did I say that? When have you ever seen me sober?

Superdougie,

No, I personally don't believe you were wrong. While it is ok to have an opinion about things, I don't think it is ok to voice a negative comment that may cause hurt feelings and embarrassment for someone. Like my Mom always told us growing up. If you have any questions or comments that would not make someone smile, keep them to yourself until you can discuss it at an appropriate place and time with that person.

I told her that I didn't want to be with someone who start's shit. I also said that I'm nervous about going out in public with her cause I'm alway's wondering if she's going to say something that she shouldn't? Her arguement was along the line's "Well I'm just saying what's on my mind. People use to say thing's to my face all the time when I was growing up". I told her that she can't go around just saying whatever she want's, to whoever she want's. Like I mentioned, if someone were to do that to me, I'd be getting in their face about it!

My mother is like that too .. although she's more likely to go into the bra department and hold up a training bra and ask if that's my size.

I apologize .. As I said, I need to increase my meds.

Anyhow Dougie ..

What are you going to do about it?

Reminds me of a few threads bumping around here on just such a topic dougie. If her intent was to say it so the cashier heard, she only wanted to hurt her feelings. Not cool, sorry. It's only a pair of shoes. Seems really trivial to start crap over or to hurt someones feelings over when there are bigger issues going on in the world today. Is she a little rebellious, due to the way she grew up?

I wouldn't say she's rebellious. She just seem's to lack alot of common sense! This isn't the first time she's done this, it's just the first time I actually said something to her. She grew up in a very sheltered environment, and she seem's to lack people skill's.

Well, maybe it's just a maturity thing then, especially if she was sheltered and not given the opportunity to express herself so now she is experimenting. Thing is, if she's not mindful of other people's feelings, she may hurt someone, stranger or not, or, get she might get smacked by someone who really takes offence to something. Would hate for that to happen, but you know how people are nowadays.

Well that's what I was trying to explain to her. Making comment's like that is a good way to get punched! I know I'd be getting in someone's face if they made comment's like that to me! Not saying I'd hit them, but I would defineatly be saying something to them!

Is probably maturity and testing her boundaries in the outside world. Will learn fast, as you know we all did and do dougie...huggs to ya.

Yes she will learn someday! I know I did after taking a few beating's!

definatly rude.