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I have been seeing this awesome man for a little over two weeks and I have to say that we have really connected, but he may have to move from St. Johns to Central for family reasons.... it may only be temporary, but at leasr for several months. He wants me to do the long distance thing... I really like him, but that is so hard, did it once before for over a year....

What would u do....

Is there no way for you two to get together once in a while to stoke the fire?


If I 'really' connected with someone, I'd do the long distance thing and wait it out if it was only going to be a short term thing - those great connections are hard to come by. But that's just me and my two cents!!

Good luck to you in whatever you choose to do!!

thanks for ur two cents believe me!! I am really stuck because he seems to have all this stuff going on and yet he says he wants me in his life even if he moves, I just dont want to add to the crap u know.

LD is very hard, he would be moving in the next month or so and this thing is so new.

Anyway thanks again

Sexymomma

I understand! For me, it seems that in the past, everytime I met someone that is a 'feel good', there's been so much other stuff going on in my life or his that it became hard to sustain without a tremendous amount of work. That's a lot of 'investment' in something that's so new, but it really depends on how strongly you feel about the longer term proscpects for a relationship developing.

I feel for you...I think that I've let some good ones go because of the 'other stuff' ... no regrets 'cause timing wasn't right and they were so new that one couldn't know, but I sometimes wonder what could have been!!

I can handle a long distance relationship, but many can't and I understand because it is hard and both people have to be really committed to it...maybe you could just let it play itself out and see if you can make it work!

It's such a small world and yet there are so many miles between us!

Isn't life complicated sometimes?? Damn!!

He just has so many things, his grandmother passed and his family wants him to move to Central to be with his grandfather.... he has a very demanding job and now family staying with him too. For example he may be visiting me today, but I wont know for sure until he literally knocks on my door, but I also have a small child and appointments etc....

He wants to do the LD thing and if he stays out there have us move... He treats me like Gold when he is here and he understands that my daughter comes first... plus the chemistry is amazing... we make eachother laugh.... and he seems to genuinely care for me.

But I have been seriously burned by me ex and have trust issues... any ideas on that lol

I hear caution and see red flags....ie treats me like gold "when he is here" and "seems" to care for me....sweetie two weeks is VERY EARLY DAYS!! take your time...maybe long distance will be a good chance to develop things further......trust your instincts and good luck!

Well you are still early in the relationship so I can definatly understand your mixed feelings.

I like you have already been in a LD relationship and it is not easy I agree and I don't think I could ever do it again. Just too much stress for me that I do not need.

Just take things slow. Take time to get to know one another. Maybe being apart for awhile will help to determine if the relationship will last. Take it as a test for you both. Who knows how it will go.

Good Luck to you!

"But I have been seriously burned by me ex and have trust issues... any ideas on that lol". ..

Hmmm....don't we all in some way? LOL

I work really hard at looking at each person I meet as someone completely new who isn't necessarily going to be like the ex! He may very well be right for you ... maybe distance will help to decide for you!

Personally I wouldn't just write him off ... unless it's going to drive me crazy wondering what he's 'up to'... in which case it's probably best to walk away in the interest of sanity!! LOL

The ones that treat us like gold and understand our commitment to our children are hard to come by ... at least in reality ... I'm still looking for the one that lives by it!! LOL

I seem to be experiencing an emotional connection to this problem of yours!!!

ya,,, i agree,, caution and red flags,, get over you liking him,, find someone right there where you are,, much safer on your heart

So Im not nuts, those things seem a little strange to u too... I really like him and he constantly tells me that he really cares about me.. but there are the flags too... am I just crazy lol maybe hes married with 2 kids!!

How far away will he be moving and will you be able to travel there? Does he have a problem with you visiting his new place? The answers to those questions will answer the married question!

No, you're not nuts...if you're like me, you don't give your intuition enough credit and then you kick yourself afterwards for not listening to that little voice!! LOL

a adult to hear of the family,when is going about love or job.hahaha.
he`s is not the right guy for you.give him a kick in his ... .when he`s loving you so much ,i don`t understand why he hear more on the family as the heart he himself
give him a day to under one condition.only you or the family.
T.F thing now about it after