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A little advice to the ladies. Please accept it in the non-judgemental, instructive and helpful manner in which it was meant.

Thank you.

We all know the e-dating world can be a daunting one for women. That's a given and we men accept it.

However, there is something I don't understand, leaves me perplexed and frankly somewhat frustrated.

It takes a some courage for a man to take the time and trouble to put together a brief note to someone of interest.

I can't tell you how many times I get absolutely no response to these notes of interest to women on this site and others.

These women are just plain inconsiderate, impolite and frankly ignorant. I think they need a serious attitude adjustment.

And before you jump to your predictable conclusion that I'm being too impatient, or outspoken or not doing it right, trust me I am writing very neutral, innocent and short notes expressing interest.

What women need to do is pretend that these notes are actually people standing in front of them, which would make no response very difficult, if not impossible.

Does that make sense? I thought you'd all agree.

So let's have a little more respect for our fellow man (and I do mean male in this case).

I don't think I'm being unreasonable.

I don't think your being unreasonable Gary, but there are times I just don't answer back to someone. If you are writing 'a short note' then I would answer you - if I get an e-mail that says "hey beautiful" and nothing more - nope. If the guy is to young sometimes I ignore it, or if I get a I'd like to know more abou you - you have to tell me what more you'd like to know.
There are many reasons why we (being women and men) don't respond. If I send something off to a man and get no response - oh well no biggie - such is life on the date sites.

Wrong

Wrong

Wrong

There are no excuses for a lack of response to a polite and civil overture.

Do you stand in mute silence when a person talks to you or on the phone?

Same thing goes here. I really don't like saying these things. Makes me sound like I'm lecturing an adolescent.

But it needs saying -- and more importantly, reading. Most importantly accepting and applying.

Ohhh I'm a bad girl Take a poll - hopefully people will be honest about it.

yes I believe in manners but to tell you the truth - you will get a lot more e-mails than phone calls or live people approching you. If someone walked up to me face to face and said 'hello beautiful' without even knowing me - yes I would likely walk away -

Hello beautiful

Gee Capn, didn't know you cared. Thanks, though.

Hey what happened in the game? I missed it.

Guess yours SSS SSe Sens lost, by the lack of celebratory bravado, eh?

Look again Bucko, the beautiful was a typo

gary, u know i've been guilty of this and i think u accepted my regrets!

we both know that cris set me straight on this or i might not have known how it can be hurtful...i now answer all my mail, negatively as u know, but still i do answer..sometimes it takes a special person to make someone realize.

u two would get along great if only her heart wasnt in 'another world' right now! she glows!

wish u the best always

woman get thi attitude also. l myself have typed many little notes of interest and have recieved not even a hello back. But l have learned that this is a dating site and if there not interested, there not interested but l do have to agree that a hello and a not my type or just friends is a good thing. l respond to each and every email l get unless its one of those hey beautiful, hey sexy l want you ones.

Thank you canadian angel i was about to type that when i read your answer.
Yes guys are the same they don't answer either! I have 6 unopened messages in my mailbox for the last month so i deleted them. Guys are just as disrespectful not just women!

The emails were unopened. Hello!!!! How in hell can you answer something you don't read???
Isn't it disrespectful to judge with out the facts?

Captain I think she means in her outbox - ones she has sent out.

i totally agree..

a person should always reply,,

just acknowledgement..

and out of courtesy and

most of all respect and common

decency.

While yes, it is rude not to reply or acknowledge someones email.....the plain fact is in probably 99% of the cases......the other person just is NOT interested in the one who has emailed them!!! Why not just take that "hint" and move on??

Yes, rude, yes inconsiderate, but for a person who may recieve alot of emails, it would be very time consuming to answer all!! Even with just a short "no thanks", which in more cases than not spurs another email from the orginal person, sometimes with "why" or "what is it about me you don't like" or did I say something to offend you"....or "maybe we can be chat buddies".....the list goes on!!!

And speaking only for myself, Iam on a couple dating sites for only one purpose....to find the one!! So it does get time consuming, when you work alot and are not on the computer all the time to take that preciuos time that you do have going back and forth with someone that does NOT interest you romantically.

Can anyone understan where I'm coming from???

Kimmer1, i agree with you. To be honest, i, too, do not respond to 'notes/flowers' sent to me. I quickly review the sender's profile and photo, make a decision, then either i delete the note and block them, or i send them an email. If the sender requests an email back whether i'm interested or not, i do exactly that and just send a message with a 'no, thanks' on the subject line and tell them that i don't think we're compatible.

In person or online dating, attraction is still of importance, whether it is in actual meeting with someone or via photo. This, combined with what little personality we all get from someone's profile and background (providing the information given is an honest truth), it is only a matter of a few seconds to make that decision.