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Just reading a profile from a 19-year-old member of CS. And it suddenly hit me.

Women are right. Men, most men, anyway, ARE jerks. They think with their dicks.

Twice in a very short profile she had to mention that sex was not everything a relationship was about.

How true. However, what really shook me up was that I read this all the time. All the time in the profiles of women.

Women I've spoken to from this and other sites all too frequently mention that the men used them for sex.

I know I'm guilty as much if not more than most for lots of flirty chats with sexual innuendos.

Maybe sometimes I take it too far. It's got to be a problem if it's mentioned in profiles and in brief talks I've had with women from these sites.

No wonder they're so cautious in responding and taking things further.

If things ever have a chance of improving, it's who men must do the changing. That's all I can say.

Ahhh Gary ! Gary! Gary!

All you say is true, but not all men are jerks. There are some great guys out there, and even tho most are thinking with thier dicks they don't always follow the little head.
Flirting can be fun and very arousing but there is a line and it's not always clear on both sides.


Upside >>>> your one of the few who READS the profile. Way to go man!

Most men aren't jerks, and like everything else, only some are.

Can't say I disagree with Taz or Gary.
As in everything in life,there's good and bad.Unfortunately sometimes the bad ruin it for the good but most people can see the truth of each situation.
Just have pick the apple without the worm.

Gary, you're a jerk

i think it was very honorable and brave

for u to post this..

..

i also think alot of women like to

pretend they are "virgins"


it's really hard where to know

to draw the line.

well we can view this one of two ways...

either you are sincerely

or posting this will help to win you brownie points with the ladies

or perhaps you are sincere & it will still win you the brownie points... hmmm you may be onto something here - wonder if the other men will pick up on it?



Seriously though... good for you for admitting your flaws & weaknesses!

Ummmm OK lost here. See as humans you have a choice.
Thus makes us different than animals.
Looking is one thing, doing is another. I look at profiles and see what people say.
Not like I'm ohhhh ahhhh or whatever. If theres a party thread will go look in there profile.
See what they have to say. Flirt is flirt in chat, its not like your going to say. He id like to kiss the person above me, they say back OK kiss away. And when you meet the next time you will actually kiss. This topic is off on many areas lol. Lady's and Men all do the same things.
Its just a matter of personal choice, and who the person is.

It true, my OP was ambiguous.

Cyber sex is one thing, and using people in the real, phsical sense, for gain one's own satisfaction, is something different.

My concern is about the latter, and I stand by the judgement that a lot of men are guilty.

They are guilty that they will say, act and do whatever they have to in order to further there chances of getting women in the bedroom.

By no means are all men guilty of this. Obviously, that's impossible.

However, I did observe, that a lot of women mention the importance of honesty.

What I found particularly disturbing was the frequency with which they mentioned that sex was not what they were looking for primarily. They were not into one-night, promiscuous sex.

Now I ask you, when you hear that message over and over again, what does that tell you?

What conclusion would you draw?

I happen to read some where. I don't remeber where but some where in this great big web. That alot of people will say thing's in their profiles that they don't want. But deep down inside thats exactly what there looking for.

Kinda like taking a kid to a toy store, and then telling him not to touch anything. I don't know. Who will ever know?


We just do our thing, and hope that we happen to connect with someone, that will lead to happiness.

If you changed everything about yourself then you wouldn't be yourself anymore. Sometimes change is good for the person doing the changing but that is for them to decide. If you change just to please the other what will that person expect you to change next? Meanwhile they are not working on themselves.

Sex is an enjoyable experience with the right person. Sometimes mentioning it negatively reflects a strict religious background (Sex is Sin) where the person is just parroting what they have been taught or they may have legitimately experienced some form of sexual abuse to which they are reacting.

I think we've all had both good and bad experiences in the past. Bad experiences do not make us view every man (or woman) as evil.

A woman can only be "used for sex" if she allows it.

Flirting is fun. It's a way to feel out what another person thinks in a non-threatening way. However, if you get "coarse", that illicites a far different response. You might get a slap on the wrist for that one.

So what do you want?

I.R. what I.R.

I just wanna be me. I'm a pigg, I'm not ashamed to admit it. Not every one likes it. But I know where and when it is appropiate.

Just live life and hopefully enjoy what I can of it. Lifes way to long not to be able to enjoy it.

Good answer..being who you are is important, so is knowing where and when.

well put, we all have the ability to make our choices in life whether they are right or wrong

Many women want sex just as bad as men.

Not all on men.