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Someone from my past has come back into my life after her finding me, she held my name on piece of paper and in her heart for near 30 years never did I think she would ever get a hold of me and the way she got a hold of me was really cool too. Now I will say I am not the best writer in the land but here goes. Now normally I would never even consider doing this but its time I did because I want a real friend for life. I have fallin in love with this woman I cant get her out of my head all she and I have done has been msn and the phone when she phoned me after getting to me in a strange but affective way. Now I have seen her pic and she is hot, but that is not what I’m in love with, she sounds like me she likes the same thing as I do we sound the same to me. Anyway to shorten this up is the task at hand. My wife has been more or less has been gone for two years now, but we still live together I still love her, but I know she is seeing someone else we have talked about it and she says she has no intention of stopping this relationship when I say gone I mean she is never here for me anymore and do so want her very much and she knows it I have never ever looked at another woman because she was my first love and we have been married for over 17 years now we have a child together. I guess I should get to my point. Is it wrong of me to have fallin in love with another woman she is all I can think about this is really starting to keep me up at nights thinking of her everything I do I can’t seem to get her out of my head and she wants to come see me she does not know I feel this way about her or maybe she does I don’t know I have not asked her because even this way she is like a sister and that way I would never loose her, and the rest of the question, what would you do cause I am lost now? Just lokin for different perspective.

oh you must be honest with yourself to start with, and honest with her too. Tell her you have feelings for her, and see if she is on the same page. You could save yourself a lot of grief by finding out early if it is not meant to be.
Sorry to hear that your marriage has fallen on dim times, I know what it is like to live with someone who does not reciprocate your love.

But now with your new knowledge you can look for the woman you dream of, or at least have a better idea in your mind what you really desire and deserve from a relationship.

Good luck, and happy hunting!

Speak honestly from your heart to both women. If your marriage is over with your wife maybe you need to let it go and should leave and that way it opens up the way for you to meet another women without complications or misunderstandings. Personally, I may think it slightly strange that a guy is still with his ex wife when she is seeing someone else and still living with her. Could be offputting to anyone potentially interested maybe? Depends of course. But i think you need to seal the deal and end the first marriage before you start seeing someone new.. if your new lady has waited this long she will wait another few months to get yourself relocated and loose ends tied up. I thnk that is the only fair option for any new relationships to flourish. Tell her what you are wanting to do and how you are going to do it and ask for her advice about where to relocate or buy a house etc... or ask for assistance in redecorating lol!!
Escuse to get to know each other a bit better. Honesty is always the best policy though. YOu may be pleasantly surprised. However i would definatley leave the first before going near the second lady. Both deserve that respect. Best of luck

we are still married and trying so hard to keep the faith but it starting fade

There's some good advice here - I can't think of anything further to add. Honesty is the best policy though - otherwise people could be hurt.

Just so you all know I have decided to leave my wife. As ther is nothing to mend here, i have given to much time now. I have told the other girl my intentions and i will leave it at that. she is the best friend I belive I want so only time will bring us together and i am so looking foreward to it. Thank you for time and chow as i will be deleting my account here. soon and have no intention in looking for anyone ellse.

Rbadmc

Cool, i am sure any end of a marriage is a sad and confusing time, but i am sure that whatever decisions you make you are making from your heart so they will be the right ones for you.
I wish you all the best and hope it works out with the other lady and you have time to clear your head and heal your heart and pursue your next relationship with a clear conscience.

All the best. ps maybe a nice gesture to your new lady would be to send your new lady a lovely small gift for valentines day.... doesnt have to be expensive, sometimes something small and cheesy is more effective lol..women love that sort of thing.. then she knows you are thinking about her.

Good luck!!