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I'm kinda new to CS and I'm trying to make friends, chat with men. I have recently been writing to a guy, for about a week. He seems nice and friendly. we have hardly gotten past hello, how are you... and today I get a short letter from him and in it he says " I love you" I AM FREEKING OUT: wow: what???? I don't know the first thing about him yet and I haven't told him any thing of any true value about me. The "L" bomb is a BIG thing to me. I save saying I LOVE YOU for a wile. I mean it when I say it. This sets off warning bells in my head. And this is the second warning bell to go off. I am a bit skittish when it comes to men hitting on me, too much to soon too fast turns me off. It makes me think it’s all lies to get me into bed or they are not all there in the head. I need time to warm up to a man. Get to know me first, I need to get to know them the best way to get me in the mood is with a long intimate conversation. my #1 trun on is trust and that takes time to build.

any thoughts?

"and this is the second warning bell to go off" ..................... hhm ....... I'd trust my instincts (I've ignored them in the past and lived to regret it - hindsights everything) .... so don't ignore your own good judgment.

Listen to your instincts..... PLEASE!!!!

P.S. you are very smart for asking this question and being this honest about how much it is scaring you.

You are thinking wisely. As others have said, go with your instincts.

And thanks for the question for I have learned something today.

thanks to all of you for confirming that I should trust my feelings.

to loner1960 what was it that you learned?

It is freaky when someone u don't know drops the ......i love you.......hey i've had it sent along with a flower before even saying HI to the guy. That's the down side of dating sites.
Most times either they turn out to be scammers who love ur bankaccount or canadian status or they can be out for a quickie.
It IS possible to meet love online ,but it doesn't happen over night.If something feels wrong......ask urself why and think things out before moving ahead.

Wishing u all the best

A scammers eh? well if he wants into my bank ,he can have at it, cause there is no $$$ in there. A male gold gigger. or looking to get into Canada.....hmmm. well thats better then being nuts, I guess.

OMG, does that mean you lied when you told me you love me and want to have my children ??

Oh Jen, I feel so..................... used

What have I learned?

When getting to know people, especially women, I tend to be cautious.
Maybe too cautious. When I find myself alone again. I never seem to know whether I moved too fast, too slow, or said something stupid again. Your "L" bomb story taught me that going slowly is OK.

Well, you certainly have the right idea on what you do or don't want in a friendship. Yes, there are Women like yourself that do want more conversation time, and a long slow dance, before hearing the "I love you." Go with your first instinct, and keep yourself safe.

In todays society the 'L' word is thrown around far too often imo.Maybe he is one of those people who 'love' everything and anything or he's a stalker

Best to follow your gut feeling about this and maybe ask him why he would say this after only talking with you using email

Best of luck

Joseph