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I don’t like skinny women. I like a curvy bubbly women which I think make women look nice and cute as long is not over weight.
I think also all of us got many thing nice which if we know how to use them can hide the negative think that we do our best to hide.
Being positive is all about.

I was reading some of these responses, and notice that it seems exceptable for a bigger woman to basically"cut up" a small woman, but not the other way around!I am a small and petite woman with almost no curves, but I get hit on all the time......so.... PREFERENCE is the key word here, and nothing wrong with your body if YOU are happy with it! But, I dont think its fair to call small woman "sticks" or"10 year old boys", cause everyone has a different metabolism.I dont go on here saying bigger woman is like sleeping with jello, or some other rude analogy, small people dont like to be insulted any more than big ones!

I will apologize for making you feel the comment was to insult "Healthy" skinny/slim people.

My comment was more directed to how the marketing media uses people that look so slime or skinny. The ones giving women (and men) the impression that is what they HAVE to look like. Larger people have been made to feel they are freaks, at restaurants, airlines company's, in medical situations, and when buying clothes and even jobs. Imagine being turned away from a gym.

Larger people have been ostracized because of their size. Not all have gotten that size because they eat too much.

My boyfriend lost over 87 pounds and has lots of loose skin. He still has lots of weight to loose but people assume he eats large sized meals, and to have made comments about him.

After I had my 3 kids, I had gained enough weight to wear Jr sized clothes, (size 7 adult). After I go sick, due to medication, I blossomed to 258 lbs, size 28. It has taken a lot of work to get down to regular adult size 14. Not taking into consideration why I was so large, my mother, brother and some friends had nasty comments regarding my larger size.

No offense, but a slimmer person has more of a chance to get a job, clothing that is not just designed for "larger" people, and if you want nice looking clothing, at a higher cost. A slimmer person will be viewed as more attractive than a slimmer person. Have you ever sat on a bus and listened to comments people make about another, or at some social situation where you can hear what others are saying about another?


Besides, Georgie Girl, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, Shampoo, movies Queen Latifah, & Cameron Manheim have stared in, what other larger stars/ have been a success ?? More has been made about how slim and what diet the female movie stars use to keep their slim size. Just this week alone, it was all about how Angelina got back her figure after having twins.

Sorry for the long post folks. To Alberta girl, you are beautiful! To newchick, the comments were not meant as an insult. Beauty comes from with in not from what size we are.

After all these posts, I will show that I am the odd one again.

The women that I tend to be attracted to, tend to be the lean, wirey, athetic,and smaller brearted. Of course, there is flexiblity. But there is a point, that extra padding turns me off.

I consider myself as lean, and do not have the spare tire around my middle.

But than again I am the one, that has ended up being single.

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A slimmer person will be viewed as more attractive than a slimmer person ...
( this is what we are told via medium etc.)

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A slimmer person will be viewed as more attractive than a more rubinesque person ...
( this is what we are told via medium etc.)

What is one person's version of being large can be very different from yours loner.

From the posts you have made on here, and letting us get to know you, I do not feel you are single because of what you just said.

When I studied ballet (18 yrs), I was a judgmental about what size a person might be ... hopefully people learn from silly notions they had when younger.

... what others opinions may be, also help us learn, grow and show how diverse we all are. How boring it might be if we all looked, acted and thought the same....

Thanks Kim

It seems that as females, we are inundated over and over and everywhere with very thin women - and that thinness is equated to success/happiness/sexiness/worthiness etc. I don't think that anyone of us is completely immune to this way of thinking.

I know men who love bigger women, I have good friends who are "plus size" and are in very happy and rewarding long term relationships/marriages. They also radiate happiness and kindness and yes, sexiness. They are happy and it shows, they are confident and it shows, they are healthy but, for whatever reasons, they are bigger...so what? I also know some very thin women, who are not happy or healthy and are miserable and alone. My point? I really don't think body type or size has that much influence on one's ability to attract or keep a partner.

I have been "every size" (it feels like), had 4 children and several surgeries. I am far from "perfect" or "ideal", but I am me...I try to stay in shape, for me, no one else. I have curves, I have boobs, I can't change that...it is the way I am made. Yes, we all have our preferences and that is our right and we really don't need to justify our reasons. The "just right" person will come along and AlbertaGirl, in the meantime, dazzle them with genuine confidence, kindness, smile and flirt, be a little sexy and maybe one of those guys you have your eye on will see you for you....and reevaluate his own ideals.

Yes two each is thier own, this is way i posted this to see what people really thought, i am not judging the people who have honest posts up here. I was once skinny when i was younger and did get alot of heads turning my way but after having kids my body has changed and i am ok with this change and have accepted it. But in the back of my mind it is always how i use to look and the guys that looked at the way i was "skinny" but the past is the past and since i have had both sides of this size chart i am now open minded to so much more people, cause i know even though you dont or you may like it but people and yourself change its life......... It is.. what is in side that counts!!!

Sorry, not meaning to hijack your thread Alberta, but seen this on the Int'l Forum and just had to paste it here - somehow "fits"

Exercise

Walking can add minutes to your life. This enables you at 85 years old to spend an additional 5 months in a nursing home at $7000 per month.
My grandpa started walking five miles a day when he was 60. Now he's 97 years old and we don't know where he is.

I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.

The only reason I would take up walking is so that I could hear heavy breathing again.

I have to walk early in the morning, before my brain figures out what I'm doing.

I joined a health club last year, spent about 400 bucks. Haven't lost a pound. Apparently you have to go there.

Every time I hear the dirty word 'exercise', I wash my mouth out with chocolate.

I do have flabby thighs, but fortunately my stomach covers them.

The advantage of exercising every day is so when you die, they'll say, 'Well, he looks good doesn't he.'

If you are going to try cross-country skiing, start with a small country.

I know I got a lot of exercise the last few years, just getting over the hill.

We all get heavier as we get older, because there's a lot more information in our heads. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

AND

Every time I start thinking too much about how I look, I just find a bar and by the time I leave, I look just fine.

I am glad you didnt actually mean anything you said to be nasty, but when I read these things, to me, it hurt my feelings a bit. I have friends who are bigger woman, and they have the occasional problem as well, but I also want to add that small woman get hurt too. I called an ambulance at 4 in the morning to come and take me to the hospital last year, because of a medical condition. The ambulance drivers treated me like crap when they arrived.They were obviously assuming that I was a junkie because of what time it was, and how thin I am.They made me walk behind them to the ambulance, and made me sit down in the back, with a bed I could have been lying in directly in front of me. I was sooooo cold, but he wouldnt give me a blanket when I asked for one. He told me the blanket was for the bed. Need I go on? Theres more...but its pissing me off thinking about it! Anyways, belive me when I say,"Its not always a bowl of cherries!"

new chik i totly under stand bean ther in some ways my spelling is bad dew too being deslexick and other reasons being with a disability that no one wold evin kno i get treeted qwote normel but as soon as eney one finds out your deslexic thay treet you like you are lesser a person and look down at you on top of this im bypoler i fownd out 3 yers back and im medacated for life witch is fine as it has inprooved my life in a lot of ways but to evry gaine on my meds ther is a loss or a negitive wate gaine is one and i have gained a bitt of wate witch i dont like but i have to deal with it as well as i have to watch waht other off the shelff meds im useing like advill i cant have as it destroys kidnys on my meds and coffsuerip i cold go in to coma it suks to be me at times lol


i fownd that if the norme ever had to go throo the indegnity
that you or i have had to its like a bully in an adult form riping your close off in front of the hole world in day lite with 1000 peple watching them dooing this atrosety to you and condoning it for ther entertainement

you kno humin beings are some times no beter than chikins in a chickin coop picking at the one sick chikin tell it diyes o waht a wonderfull world we live n


if this has afended eney one my apoligys but its my poyint of vew and im sticking to it naaaaaa lol

o i nead my meds now lol

I not here to get into an arguement or hurt anyone. A question was asked. I admitted that yes, that I am one that prefers the tinner females. I will also admitt that may have been brutal in saying so.

I maybe blessed/cursed with the genetics of not having to worry about watching my weight. Likwise the same can be said about most of my immediate family.

But look at this way. Many here with, whatever kind of body you have, have gone on and produced the next generation. This @@@@@@@ has not reproduced his own genetics. At my age the chances of me having childen of my own are next to nil and getting less so,as more time passes. I am sure your kids accept you as you are.

I absolutely agree about being careful of drawing the 'colourful' analogies which are hurtful in either direction from 'ideal weight". Poundage is such a sensitive issue and YES many of us realistically do need to be more fit and healthy whether by eating and exercising better, more or less to get where we are comfortable for our lifestyle and in good health.

A friend of mine just lost her daughter to anorexia and believe me it was not pretty. Even though the young woman had a beautiful face and was model thin, she suffered every bit as much as the obese women who envied her. Extremes in either direction are simply unattractive and usually indicative of emotional problems, baggage, trauma that needs to be dealt with, sorry but that is reality.

Personal preferrences do matter and thankfully we don't all have the same taste in men, women, size, shape, personality, etc. If I was a jogger I would want someone who was capable of jogging at my side. However, I am more of a walk, hike type and would love to find someone who is capable of physically being with me on my adventures and I on theirs. There is nothing wrong or bad about wanting this, it is just the way the world works. People like people similar to themselves.

What ticks me off is the guy who doesn't bother to take care of himself but still insists on having a hot model type babe on his arm for show and has the nerve to make fun of women who don't fit his ideal, which he can not himself live up to. Same goes for women too.

Rather than bemoaning the cute hunk with the six pack who is heat seeking after the young model type and ignoring us we should be seeking the people who fit with our lives, dreams, preferrences.

There is also nothing wrong with admiring a good strong butt, however, if the person sitting on it is an ass, well then it doesn't matter how physically attractive they are does it. The first impression may be visual, physical but the nature of the soul will shine through if you are in an environment where it can be appreciated.

Bars are not the place to judge how attracted people are to us. These meat meet markets are useful for helping weed out the ones who approach us only interested in our physical appearance. We need to find places to meet people where our substance is evident and that requires more interaction than flashing coloured dim lights, booze and loud music.

I am by no means skinny and have many abdominal scars but men still find me very attractive because of my attitude and how I make them feel when they are with me. I have confidence, flare, grace, personality and intelligence to add to my physical presence.

As I already stated big or small is not the issue for me
does the individual take care of herself , is she active, are we compatible and do we share similar values and her personality
I think we all have a preference to whom we are attracted to whether we want to admit it or not
Anorexic women have a serious health issue as well as an obese individual with a health issue and if a person chooses not be involved or attracted to either than it
is there decision or preference
It is ashame that the marketing industry (commercials, magazines etc.) exploit women and men to sell a product
Be confident and be proud of who you are for it it is not the outer wrap but the inner gift that matters

Dear Alberta Girl,

Just out of curiousity I checked out the other photos in your profile and happened to notice that you are not smiling in any of them. I would bet that you would turn a lot more heads and get a lot more approaches with a smile so big that lit up you eyes, and then no one would care so much about the size of the thighs. (sorry or the ryhme but it fit). Let what is inside shine out through the pearly whites.

very troo aprochability by a frendly welcoming smile helps emencley i totely a gree

I know i should smile but i just dont smile in pics i dont know why but i never have, but out of pics i smile when things are funny and when people make me laugh, i guess you say i might feel fake smiling in pics.

AlbertaGirl.... your eyes are unbelievable.... With those eyse, you are going to knock some lucky fellow on his a$$.

Smiles say a lot, but there are so many on here that have non smiling photos.
You are not a lone. (if it was not for my son and his friend making jokes and poking fun while taking my photos, and then my dog deciding to surprise me by jumping on my lap, I would not be smiling in my photos.)

You are beautiful... don't worry about what some idiots might think. Be yourself ... some lucky guy will notice.