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Soulmates: Fact or Fiction?

What is the best argument against the possibility of one true love?

Every writer that has ever attempted to use their craft to discuss the world of love and relationships has at one point or another stumbled upon the notion of soulmates. I must admit, I got the idea from a Sex and the City re-run that I watched recently, but nonetheless, the idea that there’s one perfect someone out there for each and every one of us is probably inexhaustible. It’s such a romantic and fantastic theory. It tells every little girl not to worry because her Prince Charming has been designated by the cosmos and she won’t even have to look for him. He’ll just drop out of the sky one day and sweep her off her feet. I’m sure that’s happened for some people. Okay, maybe not the falling out of the sky part, but still, people do find love everyday.

But what about the assertion that there is one perfect person for each of us? That’s a lot of pressure isn’t it? I mean there are billions of people on the planet and we will never meet most of them, so how are we supposed to find the one person that is supposed to complete us? Fate? Those who are more skeptical of this fairytale concept would definitely take issue with this, but amazingly, there are still people who believe it. Personally, I’ve decided that the traditional idea of a soulmate is completely unrealistic and I think it’s time for an update.

Complete Yourself

Ladies, it’s the 21st century and every day we are being told that it’s time for us to stand on our own two feet and take care of ourselves. Despite that, a common misconception that many still hold dear is that everyone needs another person in order to feel whole. This, in my personal opinion, is one of the major reasons for failure in relationships. We’ve heard time and time again to strengthen ourselves before we commit to another. Why? Because if we don’t know ourselves, inside and out, if we are not 100 per cent comfortable with the person that we are, it is impossible to be in a healthy and strong relationship.

Though many would like to believe that this so-called soulmate that is hiding somewhere out in the world, waiting for the perfect moment to make an appearance into our lives, is all that we need in order to be happy, I’d like to put these rumours to rest. You can’t look outside of yourself to find what’s missing, you have to look within.

Just One?

Like I said before, there are billions of people on this planet. For argument's sake let’s say that half of these are of the appropriate gender to be the object of our affection. This still leaves billions of people that could potentially take up the position of our one true love and this makes the idea that there’s only one perfect person out there for each of us totally preposterous. Call me critical, but seriously, it’s hard enough to find a good dry cleaner or a reliable accountant, how are we supposed to find a soulmate? Sure it’s a nice fairytale and I’m sure at some point or another, each of us can say that we’ve felt the person we were involved with could be that very special person. How many times have those relationships fallen apart? Does that mean we’ve lost our chances for a fulfilling and true love? How unfair is that!