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I have same problem, i think its because they think u wont have the time for them and also a lot of ppl dont want to have to deal with the every day things that we as parents have to deal with. and unfortunatly so many ppl just dont like other ppls children, sweety if i livd closer i wud meet u fjor sure lol:hug:

In a way I found that it rules out a lot of non-parents from understanding you - even if they want to.

If you're a single parent you understand what other single parents go through. There are the demands, priorities and sacrifices everyone makes in parenthood. add to the mix that for the sake of your children you need to have dealings with your ex even if you rather not. For some this is way too much.

Without trying to upset non-parents, they have to understand they have to take second place sometimes, in the end it makes it all harder.

The hardest part for me is finding the time to give a man the attention he needs and deserves. It would be easier If I could meet someone that lives closer, but that hasn't happened so far, so its a case of maybe being able to meet up twice a month. Not really conducive to a meaningful relationship. Although the internet does help keep the communication going.

Why?... Why does a non-parent have to take second place?

Nobody has to take second place. That's why single parents are just that... single parents!

Should have worded that a little better.

I meant that any partner to someone with kids, needs to be prepared to give some space sometimes.

That includes myself towards someone else's kids.

you guys are all awsome alot of great advice and somme confidence building statements.....

it is real hard though caause i dont really get a chance cause im up front from the begining and u watch themm run but im glad to some degree because they are not the people for me really...

THANKS GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!

in my experience men who have their kids from previous relationship are no longer that enthusiastic to want more children.so if a woman who dont have children would love to have her own someday and this man with baggage donot want.there will be complications later on..so why start something that cant last?

JMO!! not most likely to happen .. as both parties need to be upfront and discuss it before it goes to the next level of bonding.

shoresingledad has already stated he would like to meet another single parent with a package.


once again JMO

.....Common sense prevails at last.......

Hey.....have met also a lot 'woman' with heaps of 'Baggage'....its not only a 'Man' thing concerning 'Baggage' .and No,I beg to differ,there many Man and Woman who have had Children from other previous relationships who once have bonded and truly Love and have that 'commitment',decided to start a family....and good on them too........

personally... i think it all depends on how desperate people are for a relationship as to what they will 'accept'

Hi all, I've just joined and was just looking about what this has.
I've been divorced since July '04. Yes I have 5 kids, 4 still at home. I'm finding it hard to meet someone. I'm 52. Times I feel like giving up, but I'm sure there is someone out there with similar situations. I'm in Melb S/E area.

Remember that show "Dennis the Menace"?

A person that does not have kids now. May someday have kids in the future and might end up a single parent themselves!

Im a single mum, and my child is 3. Its a very 'interesting' to watch people run away when your upfront from the start or eventually let them know after meeting with them a few times. Its nice to get out, I wish (so does my family) that I could get out more, expand my horizons, go forth and... Not necessarily procreate, but have a good time.

Some non parents I have come across with do have the oppinon that single parents are selfish and I have been called selfish. I do have the absolute desire to spend as much time as I can with the other half, but I doubt that they would like to move in straight away so I can see them everyday. Late nights are out too. Babysitters are unreliable and I feel like a dill when I cancel. Its not fair to them, and I can definitely understand when someone says I am selfish. But I do feel like a b*tch too when plans fall through, or I seem to make promises (which I do intend to keep) and end up falling through.

Dating other parents, understandably is a bit easier because we get the kids together, they play (and fight) and humor each other. You get to spend time together and see how each other acts. Generally its easier to see what the other person is like when they are in the thick of it with their kids in tow.

Even then its still hard. Both parents have their schedules. I think the last time I dated a single father, we ended up enrolling our kids into the same swimming lessons, child care/preschool and planning activities together. In what would of taken 6-9 months to learn, I figured out in 3 months and the relationship was over. So in some ways, its good. Our kids still see each other and I occasionally run into him. But thats as far as it goes.

I so agree with the oppinons here, that your absolutely yum. And if I was closer, would have you for a coffee. Im sure you will find what your looking for and wish you the best!

Dam bloody straight.

I can even say I've had friends who I call 'hard work' friends, because of their baggage and their inability to get over it

As a single parent myself, i shy away from people who don't have kids coz i definetly ain't going there again and unless they don't want kids, I would feel like i was robbing my partner of that experience.

its about juggling everyones needs by all involved .....

its not so hard to meet new ppl, its just about juggling everyone needs. what number priority do you have meet new ppl on your list of things to do? what was it before you had kids? is it the same as it was or different?

i think the secret is to let ppl get to know you as yourself first before you get right into the parent issue first or try and find other single parents that are on the same wave you are.

jmo