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relaxin somewhere, Queensland Australia
Wed Apr 15, 2009 3:09 PM CST : snippet of my real world
i wanted to go camping for a night and couldnt find the tent pegs. while ringing my gal i ask if she knew where they were, she asked her dad if she could come. drop off time that i was told was between 12 and 3pm (i heard her ask for these later times). this is the day after camping

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You dropped child off to work this morning, isnt this your easter and your contact time? Can you explain to me what is going on?



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Yes She wanted to go back over to your place for a couple of days and as always I agreed. Yes it was my Easter but you as always manipulate everything and rang her the other day to go camping with you as I remember it. That was when you told her she would be home around 9.00am yesterday and you never showed until 2.30pm. Thanks a heap as I did not know if she had an accident or not. I was very, very concerned for we saw a car and van that was involved in an accident when we went somewhere on Friday. You probably don't even understand what it is to worry about someone else except unless its you. But that is your normal thing as you do not know how to think of other people except you. Quite honestly I have had a guts full of your mind games bullshit so do us all a favour and just enjoy child and give it all a rest. She is going to give me a call when she wants to come back over. Don't bother to answer this email unless you have something possitive to add, as I will not answer your bullshit.

this is a mild one
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Shell225 Brisbane, Queensland Australia
Wed Apr 15, 2009 4:05 PM CST : snippet of my real world
Heya, its a difficult road isnt it.

It seems to me, from his response, that he requires a certain level of communication (his issue not yours). Personally I would email/text him an outline everytime.

'as discussed, I will collect ..... at .... am, because we are returning from .... and I may be delayed by traffic, I will return her to your work between 12 and 3 on the .....'

This way he cannot say that he was not informed, he cannot say that he did not agree, and he cannot attempt to emotionally blackmail you further without looking like the inept, controlling tosser he clearly is. I ALWAYS communicate with the ex in a written format (keeps a record for future) when things were really bad, I had to send it registered because he'd claim that we hadnt spoken, he hadnt received the letter.
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kizzy27 Nowra, New South Wales Australia
Wed Apr 15, 2009 5:32 PM CST : snippet of my real world
The eaiest way is to take yourself out of the equasion If he cant be reasonable give your children a mob phone get him to contact them in regards to access/times /dates etc they can ask you if it suits you can contact them if your worried


and NEVER the twain shall meet




Kizzy
wine
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sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia
Wed Apr 15, 2009 5:50 PM CST : snippet of my real world
Jesus D I remember those days doh

Poor thing keep strong it will get easier as they get older.

And remember kids are not silly hug bouquet
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relaxin somewhere, Queensland Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 2:44 AM CST : snippet of my real world
teddybear teddybear

Thanks Shell, Kizzy and T



dunno i email and txt every time just this once sigh uh oh

he cracks up cause i only want emails, i txt and he calls me..

frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated

sxc your right kids arent silly and mine has worked out how to extract money from dad with minium time with him and that is just using him..... so wrong - then i am a bitch when i make her stay for couple of hours

not morals i want for my kids frustrated frustrated
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relaxin somewhere, Queensland Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 2:51 AM CST : snippet of my real world
Shell225: Heya, its a difficult road isnt it.

It seems to me, from his response, that he requires a certain level of communication (his issue not yours). Personally I would email/text him an outline everytime.

'as discussed, I will collect ..... at .... am, because we are returning from .... and I may be delayed by traffic, I will return her to your work between 12 and 3 on the .....'

This way he cannot say that he was not informed, he cannot say that he did not agree, and he cannot attempt to emotionally blackmail you further without looking like the inept, controlling tosser he clearly is. I ALWAYS communicate with the ex in a written format (keeps a record for future) when things were really bad, I had to send it registered because he'd claim that we hadnt spoken, he hadnt received the letter.


yep and i just love emails... i like stable plans and appointments booked when kids arent with me, so to just relax an d run around after kids then. he lands them at my place or work willy nilly with no return time or day
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kizzy27 Nowra, New South Wales Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 3:55 AM CST : snippet of my real world
relaxin: yep and i just love emails... i like stable plans and appointments booked when kids arent with me, so to just relax an d run around after kids then. he lands them at my place or work willy nilly with no return time or day


It gets easier D , sadley when one partner is immature the games can go on on on & on maybe try mediation get some parenting orders inplace most family relationship centres hold free mediation might be worth investigating for your peace as well as the kids
Kizzy
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relaxin somewhere, Queensland Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 4:04 AM CST : snippet of my real world
kizzy27: It gets easier D , sadley when one partner is immature the games can go on on on & on maybe try mediation get some parenting orders inplace most family relationship centres hold free mediation might be worth investigating for your peace as well as the kids
Kizzy


we are in the process now

it is so draining

but have a week of just me
rolling on the floor laughing nudist camp for a week woooo hoooo rolling on the floor laughing
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blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 4:23 AM CST : snippet of my real world
relaxin: we are in the process now

it is so draining

but have a week of just me
nudist camp for a week woooo hoooo


I agree with the majority here Re.. get everything in writing.. I know its hard ... but if he rings.. say... is this an emergency.. if not can you put it in writing and hang up
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relaxin somewhere, Queensland Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 4:29 AM CST : snippet of my real world
blondeaozichick: I agree with the majority here Re.. get everything in writing.. I know its hard ... but if he rings.. say... is this an emergency.. if not can you put it in writing and hang up



i wont talk to him because of the whole heap of stuff that is said that isnt necessary so i do email or txt mgs thats saved

emergencies we have had.

my poor gal

one parent on either side of the bed

or he comes and i leave.

i once thought the hospital trip was goodish we sat in the room for an hour... apparently it didnt rolling on the floor laughing we didnt speak apparently it was a problem
confused
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blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 4:55 AM CST : snippet of my real world
relaxin: i wont talk to him because of the whole heap of stuff that is said that isnt necessary so i do email or txt mgs thats saved

emergencies we have had.

my poor gal

one parent on either side of the bed

or he comes and I leave.

I once thought the hospital trip was goodish we sat in the room for an hour... apparently it didnt we didnt speak apparently it was a problem


I don't know if this helps Re but it does get easier.. my ex and I are good now.. we can talk and laugh and respect each other now..we have family get togethers for the boys birthdays and special events... in fact me, my ex, and two boys are going out for my youngest sons belated birthday dinner on sunday
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Twodawgz melbourne, Victoria Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 5:17 AM CST : snippet of my real world
I think kids should enjoy the love of both parents without excessive demands placed upon them and feel proud of both parents and to be able to respect them ..Most of all see their parents behave towards each other with at least minimal courtesy, consideration and respect,although this does not always seems to be the case and the child suffers ..

But what would i know about parenting..
laugh
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blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 5:23 AM CST : snippet of my real world
Twodawgz: I think kids should enjoy the love of both parents without excessive demands placed upon them and feel proud of both parents and to be able to respect them ..Most of all see their parents behave towards each other with at least minimal courtesy, consideration and respect,although this does not always seems to be the case and the child suffers ..

But what would i know about parenting..


considering you don't have kids.. you know a hell of a lot!!! hug grin VERY wise words dawgzy kiss
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Twodawgz melbourne, Victoria Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 5:37 AM CST : snippet of my real world
blondeaozichick: considering you don't have kids.. you know a hell of a lot!!! VERY wise words dawgzy


handshake now all i need is a couple of off springs.. uh oh
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relaxin somewhere, Queensland Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 6:42 AM CST : snippet of my real world
Twodawgz: I think kids should enjoy the love of both parents without excessive demands placed upon them and feel proud of both parents and to be able to respect them ..Most of all see their parents behave towards each other with at least minimal courtesy, consideration and respect,although this does not always seems to be the case and the child suffers ..

But what would i know about parenting..



thinking is gr8


actually getting to that point is something else







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relaxin somewhere, Queensland Australia
Fri Apr 17, 2009 6:44 AM CST : snippet of my real world
Twodawgz: now all i need is a couple of off springs..


practise makes perfectrolling on the floor laughing
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