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LadyAussieAlone Parkes, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 12:30 AM CST : Dates/Meetings

Have had a few of these dates/meetings lately. Did you all know that the probability of being compatible is only about 3%? To begin with, I did not believe this. But over the years, I have found it to be about right. Last week, a lovely man and I had a meeting. He lives near here, and works in Education. Called in on the way back to his town. We chatted for ages. During the course of this, I recognised the lack of compatibility, in the form of a lack of chemistry.
Some ladies will know what I am talking about, when I mention that most men, if not wearing aftershave (not that there's anything wrong with aftershave), do have a natural 'scent' (and I am not trying to be funny here, it is a fact, men are that way, a bit moreso than ladies). Well, I noticed that he and I were not chemically compatible. In other words, I was not attracted to him. We sat at a table and talked, and then left. That was it. No sex, because neither of us was looking for it. Not even a kiss, just a handshake.
No doubt, the wags responding to this post will joke about it, but I was looking for a bit of intelligent discussion. This may be the wrong place for that.
Lack of compatibility: And so when he phoned today, looking for another meeting, it was with difficulty I advised we were not compatible. I did so assuring him, that there is nothing wrong with either of us.
The man is attractive, well-presented, a great conversationalist and a true gentleman. Just not my type. Good Luck to him, I say; because he deserves it. Those types of experiences are depressing, but you can't date someone whose body chemistry makes them a good friend, but nothing more. Think I am too analytical? Then you have not experienced what I am talking about, to the extent that I have. Can't date someone to whom I am not sexually attracted. It's an honesty thing. Oh, and he thanked me for my honesty. See? A real gentleman. On this site? I think so.

kizzy27 Nowra, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 1:28 AM CST : Dates/Meetings

Yes I get it exactly !!!Ive been systematically dating the eastern seaboard ,

Although ive met some really nice men & even havd some really nice romances I am yet to meet HIM
I Know who he is I just gotta find him
gotta feel right in the room ,in his arms, in his line of sight
you all know it
its what we all seek
The buffet that is Internet throws men & women in our path
but unless your prepared to settle for " reasonable compatable " as opposed to "undeniably yummo"'Your the one" "oh my god"
Its like a finding needle in a haystack

My wish for all of us
One day soon we all will be looking into our other halfs eyes & be able to say with all certainty
"What took you so long"

Kizzy

blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 2:06 AM CST : Dates/Meetings

that is why I don't even bother to meet up with men. 99% of men I have met over the years who I have met online I have felt absolutely no physical or sexual attraction for at all and yep.. I don't like the uncomfortableness of wanting to keep my distance or telling them I felt nothing other than friendship for them

it is all in the too hard basket and I can be bothered basket for me I am afraid

RadelaideGuy Adelaide, South Australia Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 2:11 AM CST : Dates/Meetings

I for one don't believe in chemical compatibility. Call me a whippersnapper who has no idea what he's talking about, but I believe that love is blind, but not deaf. As to whether it has a strong sense of smell is debateable.

In my view, communication is the most important thing in any relationship. I'm more happy and comfortable around someone I can talk to than someone who looks pretty hanging off my arm. The problem is, over a prolonged period of time, in my experiences, communication wanes and routine kicks in.

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” - George Bernard Shaw

kizzy27 Nowra, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 2:43 AM CST : Dates/Meetings

blondeaozichick: that is why I don't even bother to meet up with men. 99% of men I have met over the years who I have met online I have felt absolutely no physical or sexual attraction for at all and yep.. I don't like the uncomfortableness of wanting to keep my distance or telling them I felt nothing other than friendship for themit is all in the too hard basket and I can be bothered basket for me I am afraid

Bar humbug !!!!!
Dating grinch

blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 4:09 AM CST : Dates/Meetings

kizzy27: Bar humbug !!!!!
Dating grinch

well think of it this way... its one less woman out there after the dingle men so it leaves more for you

blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 4:10 AM CST : Dates/Meetings

sorry.. single not dingle

g33kgurl Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 4:13 AM CST : Dates/Meetings

LadyAussieAlone: Have had a few of these dates/meetings lately. Did you all know that the probability of being compatible is only about 3%? To begin with, I did not believe this. But over the years, I have found it to be about right. Last week, a lovely man and I had a meeting. He lives near here, and works in Education. Called in on the way back to his town. We chatted for ages. During the course of this, I recognised the lack of compatibility, in the form of a lack of chemistry.
Some ladies will know what I am talking about, when I mention that most men, if not wearing aftershave (not that there's anything wrong with aftershave), do have a natural 'scent' (and I am not trying to be funny here, it is a fact, men are that way, a bit moreso than ladies). Well, I noticed that he and I were not chemically compatible. In other words, I was not attracted to him. We sat at a table and talked, and then left. That was it. No sex, because neither of us was looking for it. Not even a kiss, just a handshake.
No doubt, the wags responding to this post will joke about it, but I was looking for a bit of intelligent discussion. This may be the wrong place for that.
Lack of compatibility: And so when he phoned today, looking for another meeting, it was with difficulty I advised we were not compatible. I did so assuring him, that there is nothing wrong with either of us.
The man is attractive, well-presented, a great conversationalist and a true gentleman. Just not my type. Good Luck to him, I say; because he deserves it. Those types of experiences are depressing, but you can't date someone whose body chemistry makes them a good friend, but nothing more. Think I am too analytical? Then you have not experienced what I am talking about, to the extent that I have. Can't date someone to whom I am not sexually attracted. It's an honesty thing. Oh, and he thanked me for my honesty. See? A real gentleman. On this site? I think so.

i applaud your sincerity and couldnt have agreed more... keep well!

jessjessjess Forster, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 9:31 AM CST : Dates/Meetings

i know exactly what yu mean about the chemistry thing....

i think that we all search for that special one that we feel attracted to....

it is not just sexual attraction though, it is also the attraction of just wanting to be with that person....

n just wanting them....

n wanting....

sex?

ok sexual attraction is important!!!!!

virgiomonkey Auckland, Auckland New Zealand

Mon May 25, 2009 4:41 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

.....Well written......and agree with everything you said...and thank for the word 'Gentleman'....and can I return the compliment back to you....to talk a Lady....that is 'honest'.......my respect and admiration to you....

J.D

sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 5:21 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

blondeaozichick: that is why I don't even bother to meet up with men. 99% of men I have met over the years who I have met online I have felt absolutely no physical or sexual attraction for at all and yep.. I don't like the uncomfortableness of wanting to keep my distance or telling them I felt nothing other than friendship for themit is all in the too hard basket and I can be bothered basket for me I am afraid

I agree.

WaterDragpn Toowoomba, Queensland Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 7:32 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

Well said LAA from Parkes (ex Condo myself, many moons ago!). I couldn't have said it better myself!

And YES, Radelaide Guy, I will call you a "young whippersnapper who doesn't know a thing" because without the chemistry conversation doesn't even get started!!!

LadyAussieAlone Parkes, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 8:44 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

RadelaideGuy: I for one don't believe in chemical compatibility. Call me a whippersnapper who has no idea what he's talking about, but I believe that love is blind, but not deaf. As to whether it has a strong sense of smell is debateable.

In my view, communication is the most important thing in any relationship. I'm more happy and comfortable around someone I can talk to than someone who looks pretty hanging off my arm. The problem is, over a prolonged period of time, in my experiences, communication wanes and routine kicks in.

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” - George Bernard Shaw

Chemical compatibility does not involve someone pretty hanging off your arm. Don't confuse visual physical appeal with chemical physical appeal. They are different. Smell? Mate, you seem to overlook that we are mammals. Sorry to frighten you, but we are animals and driven by scent. The experts who have studied it, say people wearing perfume and aftershave all the time, can finish up with someone who is not their chemical partner, and this may be one reason for breakups, the final exposure to the real scent.But I am not saying the only reason.
George Bernard Shaw - clever, but how is he an authority on communication? Shaw wrote about many things, and speaks of the population in general. He is a great one for generalising. Maybe not so relevant here. No sense in giving up on communication. There are so many differences: culture,gender,upbringing etc that no 2 people ever truly (read 100%) understand each other, and surely we all know this. That is why it is not just words, but body language, and scent which assist us to know each other. For a relationship to continue and not become routine, 2 people have to work at it. 'Nothing worthwhile is ever easy' That's another quote, sorry, don't know who said it. But who said it is not relevant, either.
'Yes, you are young, and show the signs of it. But keep talking because we learn from you, as you may learn from us.'Not that it is relevant, but that quote is by me.

LadyAussieAlone Parkes, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 8:47 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

blondeaozichick: that is why I don't even bother to meet up with men. 99% of men I have met over the years who I have met online I have felt absolutely no physical or sexual attraction for at all and yep.. I don't like the uncomfortableness of wanting to keep my distance or telling them I felt nothing other than friendship for themit is all in the too hard basket and I can be bothered basket for me I am afraid

And yet you have a sexy photo on site: You never know, he may find you, without you even trying. Even if you have given up, never close your mind to the possibility.
If I was an attractive female, maybe I would use the visual to attract them. I am just a thin, late 40s lady who some say is well-preserved, but I don't think so.

LadyAussieAlone Parkes, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 8:53 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

kizzy27: Yes I get it exactly !!!Ive been systematically dating the eastern seaboard ,
Although ive met some really nice men & even havd some really nice romances I am yet to meet HIM
I Know who he is I just gotta find him
gotta feel right in the room ,in his arms, in his line of sight
you all know it
its what we all seek
The buffet that is Internet throws men & women in our path
but unless your prepared to settle for " reasonable compatable " as opposed to "undeniably yummo"'Your the one" "oh my god"
Its like a finding needle in a haystack

My wish for all of us
One day soon we all will be looking into our other halfs eyes & be able to say with all certainty
"What took you so long"

Kizzy

Thankyou. Appreciated, and I will think positive thoughts for us both. 'Those who seek the ultimate with strength of purpose, deserve with equal strength, to receive it.' (That quote is me, just made it up).

LadyAussieAlone Parkes, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 8:56 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

g33kgurl: i applaud your sincerity and couldnt have agreed more... keep well!

Thankyou. May you find exactly what you seek, from this site. Because you have a kind heart.

LadyAussieAlone Parkes, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 8:57 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

jessjessjess: i know exactly what yu mean about the chemistry thing....

i think that we all search for that special one that we feel attracted to....

it is not just sexual attraction though, it is also the attraction of just wanting to be with that person....

n just wanting them....

n wanting....

sex?
ok sexual attraction is important!!!!!

Good one. Keeping it light, and real. Hope your wishes eventuate, too.

LadyAussieAlone Parkes, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 9:00 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

jessjessjess: i know exactly what yu mean about the chemistry thing....

i think that we all search for that special one that we feel attracted to....

it is not just sexual attraction though, it is also the attraction of just wanting to be with that person....

n just wanting them....

n wanting....

sex?
ok sexual attraction is important!!!!!

And also...body chemistry and scent, is part of sexual attraction. But then, that is stating the obvious, as you would know it.

LadyAussieAlone Parkes, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 9:02 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

sxc666: I agree.

You, too have a very sweet photo, so you may not need to do anything, to eventually find him. If you have not already found him.

LadyAussieAlone Parkes, New South Wales Australia

Mon May 25, 2009 9:04 PM CST : Dates/Meetings

virgiomonkey: .....Well written......and agree with everything you said...and thank for the word 'Gentleman'....and can I return the compliment back to you....to talk a Lady....that is 'honest'.......my respect and admiration to you.... J.D

Good Sir, your Lady may be just around the corner. Good-hearted people are not alone for long.

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