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Lok_Simpson: emotional abuse would be constant putting down of someone , like not giving nice compliments , like always saying they are doing the wrong thing , that nothing they wn looks good on them.. Basically anything anti-complimentary could be classed as some form of emotional abuse.

thats my thoughts anyway

Ralf74: Well you must be the butt of a lot of jokes being Irish, you gotta have thick skin.

Lok_Simpson: emotional abuse would be constant putting down of someone , like not giving nice compliments , like always saying they are doing the wrong thing , that nothing they wn looks good on them.. Basically anything anti-complimentary could be classed as some form of emotional abuse.

thats my thoughts anyway

bourbon: I think that emotional abuse is deliberately hurting someone emotionally. Making a comment that someone finds offensive can hardly be seen as emotional abuse. How are we to know what someone might, or might not, take offense to?

Where do you draw the line?... I mean jesus fucking christ, some people still find blasphemy offensive.

blondeaozichick: yep,,,I agree Lok

I have been on the receiving end of that... it isn't nice

Shell225: Personally I think that there is a line in the sand when it comes to having a good insulting argument and emotional abuse.

I believe its abuse when the insult/s are constant, an everyday occurrence. When one constantly tells a child/partner they are fat, useless, whatever that becomes abuse.

It takes a long time, to come back from that, to rebuild ones confidence. Thats when you know that you've been abused.

nuala: i find that comment abusive Ralf......me being irish!!!! I am only jokin ok, love ya really and i am back to torment ya all

Magenta: As u all know, i am prone to speaking my mind
I cant stand hypocrisy and injustice.

However, i think there is a width of definition between emotional abuse and speaking ones mind.

Emotional abuse is bullying, denigrating or berating someone.

Free-speach can b disagreeing with someone, and perhaps pointing out hypocrisy, but not making it personal

Ralf74: How do we define emotional abuse? I have heard the terms of abuse thrown around and sexual abuse can be defined and physical abuse can also but how do we know when we have crossed the line of emotional abuse?

I often come out with things that people find offensive but i don't give it a second thought because I would not find it offensive. I don't like to offend others but I find I often have to find ways of saying things diplomatically or bite my tongue. It really does my head in sometimes knowing that I can't just say what is on my mind for the sake of others.

Shell225: Sad that DD still thinks after 10 years that there is hope her parents will reconcile.

Darkhorseman: How about ... someone has to have an emotional attatchment to someone else before they can "Emotionally Abuse" them.

For instance, If we meet at the pub and after an evening of drinks and pleasant reparte I say something disrespectful about your football team. Can you say that I am being emotionally abusive or would you be more correct in saying that I just don't know d1ck about football?

It has nothing to do with it... if you say your team is crap.. that is not emotional abuse... if you say.. you are a dumb idiot for supporting that team.. THAT is emotional abuse

On the other hand, If we have been exclusively bonking for several months and I start flirting wth your friend because she supports my football team is that emotional abuse?

If your flirting with my friend then you shouldnt be with me in my opinion... I would think.. stop thinking with your dick it has nothing to do with emotional abuse. that is just being a wanker

Now I love a happy ending to a story ... Soooooooo ... Her friend was gay and didn't know d1ck about football either. Their team ended up at the bottom of the ladder and the girlfriend's team won the premiership. At the Grand Final celebration the girlfriend was introduced to the team captain and that was the last anyone saw of either of them until the start of next season.

Has that helped?

not at all.. you dont know what emotional abuse is if you use examples like that

Ralf74: How do we define emotional abuse? I have heard the terms of abuse thrown around and sexual abuse can be defined and physical abuse can also but how do we know when we have crossed the line of emotional abuse?

I often come out with things that people find offensive but i don't give it a second thought because I would not find it offensive. I don't like to offend others but I find I often have to find ways of saying things diplomatically or bite my tongue. It really does my head in sometimes knowing that I can't just say what is on my mind for the sake of others.

TheWriteStuff: I think emotional abuse would be the saying of anything that harms someone psychologically.

I don't think it is reasonable to include comments that are simply undiplomatic. To be abusive, it needs to be harmful and usually on going.

Emotional abuse would include derogatory racist or sexist comments; religious, political or sexual orientation intolerance, personal insults or put downs, or anything calculated to weaken someone in a harmful way.

It particularly includes put downs in situations where there is a power imbalance and where their weakened position makes it difficult for the victim to defend him or herself. That would include adults abusing children; employers abusing staff members and health workers abusing patients or clients.

Emotional abuse is a serious problem as it does indeed damage the psyche. Ironically, it is always motivated by psychological problems within the abuser. Not all of those problems are necessarily permanent ones.

blondeaozichick: Darkhorseman: How about ... someone has to have an emotional attatchment to someone else before they can "Emotionally Abuse" them.

For instance, If we meet at the pub and after an evening of drinks and pleasant reparte I say something disrespectful about your football team. Can you say that I am being emotionally abusive or would you be more correct in saying that I just don't know d1ck about football?


blondeaozichick:It has nothing to do with it... if you say your team is crap.. that is not emotional abuse... if you say.. you are a dumb idiot for supporting that team.. THAT is emotional abuse

On the other hand, If we have been exclusively bonking for several months and I start flirting wth your friend because she supports my football team is that emotional abuse?

blondeaozichick:If your flirting with my friend then you shouldnt be with me in my opinion... I would think.. stop thinking with your dick it has nothing to do with emotional abuse. that is just being a wanker

Now I love a happy ending to a story ... Soooooooo ... Her friend was gay and didn't know d1ck about football either. Their team ended up at the bottom of the ladder and the girlfriend's team won the premiership. At the Grand Final celebration the girlfriend was introduced to the team captain and that was the last anyone saw of either of them until the start of next season.

Has that helped?

blondeaozichick:not at all.. you dont know what emotional abuse is if you use examples like that

Darkhorseman: I think I've been EMOTIONALLY ABUSED!

TheWriteStuff: I think emotional abuse would be the saying of anything that harms someone psychologically.

I don't think it is reasonable to include comments that are simply undiplomatic. To be abusive, it needs to be harmful and usually on going.

Emotional abuse would include derogatory racist or sexist comments; religious, political or sexual orientation intolerance, personal insults or put downs, or anything calculated to weaken someone in a harmful way.

It particularly includes put downs in situations where there is a power imbalance and where their weakened position makes it difficult for the victim to defend him or herself. That would include adults abusing children; employers abusing staff members and health workers abusing patients or clients.

Emotional abuse is a serious problem as it does indeed damage the psyche. Ironically, it is always motivated by psychological problems within the abuser. Not all of those problems are necessarily permanent ones.