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now i know what u r going to say and yes i realize that i am making a general statement and that there will be men who do, but so far, in my own prsonal experience, i have found it not to be the case. sometimes it doesnt take long to discern this and other times it has taken weeks. is it a case of me being particularly good at attracting weasels, that my instincts dont work in text and are sometimes confused when meeting, that i need to lower my expectations and align them to those of the men i seem to be running in to or that i am a loony and dont know what i am talking about lol.
feel free to share your two cents worth, male or female. i just want to see if i am the only one who is coming across this at the moment.
thanks

Lookn: I wish i could give you a response that settled your mind. Over the last few weeks i am questioning myself black and Blue on what i want and why I am here on this site.

The one thing I will say is: Don't lower your expectations. It will leave you unsatisfied and incomplete if you do. The relationship would be short and unsatisfactory if you did.

I will say; try changing the way you approach things on the internet. Think of the Internet as a car and your going to tour the virtual Highway. You turn the power on and start to drive.

So you are now in control. Now to maintain control you approach others, Don't wait for them to approach you. You chase those whom you think worthy. It means your in control and your only going to waste time on those that you think are worthy of wasting your time on. For those you approach supposedly meet your criteria.

As for those that approach you. Take each one individually. Grade them and answer them as you see fit. But the key to virtual harmony is to believe you are in control of the choices you make. As soon as you start questioning your choices, and that you feel they are being forced on you; that is when it is time to bail and take a break.

Don't be afraid of being insane Even our imagination sometimes has more depth than some of our dates. Besides I hear those padded cells are quite warm. Where as my flat can be quite cold.

Lol, yeah I know what you mean. But in order to be a free prostitute sourced through relationship the relationship would have to be free. And if you come across one of those your doing way better than me, which of course wouldnt take much.
Prostitutes, "a friend of mine.." oh never mind.

Well heres you not alone I would have to say majority, sorry any genuine nice guys lol, want a casual root or a shag buddy on these sites and in general in the "real world" - not saying anything wrong with that if expectation is the same on both sides - but generally guys will tell you anything to get you in the sack which is wrong to be played. Rather a guy say upfront honestly what he is looking for and if not on same page or at least same chapter can move on.

I have been single 8 years now and no angel but I am selective. To find that body mind soul heart connection with a best friend/lover can be like trying to find the proverbial holy grail

But something in me still believes that special connection is there so I make the most of my life and thank God for my toys lol

How about the people who seem great until they get a phone number and become magically interested in phone sex

I have no problem with anyone who is interested in this activity.

However I believe they should be able to ring the available numbers and pay for the service.

Not expect to receive it for free from some unsuspecting internet friend !!!

I agree with you, there are a few people out there that treat these sites as a smorgasboard for free sex, phone sex, webcam etc.. but there are people who maybe unsuspectingly fall into that trap that are novice internet players.. It is easy, make them work for it. If they are not truly intersted they will drop you after a few emails and find some easier prey... it sorts the players out.
I find you get a better calibre of men if you put down that you are only interested in friendship as well. If your profile is overtly sexual filled with innuendo then they are going to try.. so you cant really blame them. On the other hand there are also lots of guys on these sites that are open and honest and say they are only looking for sex, with no ties.. as long as both parties go into something with the same agenda no one gets hurt, it is when one of the parties changes the agenda and the game rules that someone inevitably gets hurt.
Buyer beware... go slowly, go cautiously, look at becoming friends and if things go right then that is fine, i think the trick is not be too quick to jump into things and think that this person is the right one because you have shared a few emails or texts etc.. meeting someone in person is quite different. Getting to know them and all their good and bad points takes time, if the chemistry is there than that is great, pursue it if it is worth pursuing but if not walk away as there are plenty of people around. Also dont look at internet being your only tool, use your friends, get out and socialise at clubs, courses etc.. the trick is not to really look too hard and it will come to you naturally... Good luck sweetie hope it all works out for you.

All of the above.

Are you all vegeterians here?

It sucks to read through the threads and see so many comments about "The Typical Male." That almost all males are players on these sites.

I wish these game players would just bugger off and die somewhere lonley. It may sound harsh but why come on here and play games, GET A LIFE.

There are some decent guys out there, may not be many but we do exist

Do women on these sites really want sex or are they just useing the site to get a ready made husband/relationship?

Hey Stryker...

Just wanted to say you seem a top guy, genuine, caring, open and honest and is refreshing to see!

If only I was younger boo hoo

The lucky lady who wins your heart will have it all - hope she is not far away!

Cheers

Only guaranteed way of getting "sex" alpha is try the yellow pages - otherwise all I can say with your attitude is good luck

Hey hey GoGirl

I dont mind how far away she may be right now as being single/seperated has taught me many good lessons in life. One thing i have learnt is that true friends are hard to find but when you do it makes life so much easier to deal with.

One day i know that i will meet her, and i look forward to that day. I am in no rush and I am looking forward to the jurny to get there. If i can collect lots of good friends on the way its going to be all worth it.

Nice one mate! We can do without these fellahs givin us serious fellahs a bad name eh?

That was a reply to stryker, by the way.... I just clicked on wrong window!

Hey suck,geta life and die.it may sound harsh as u put it.

hey the reason most of these sites dont work is prob because DUMB statement like that and the bitch approuch I dont want Yada Yada Yada

Lot of women looking for root & down load real crap pics and its not there face unless its gain hair

ya dont get nothin fa nothin watt ever ya lookin for an i tell ya watt its hard tryin t find vegetarians who arnt on some sorta health kick.

oh mandrake and I thought i had problems lol

farout GoGirl Watt sorta problems could a woman who likes the simple things in life have?