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You certainly got me there!

Lou, I hate to say it but I've heard the same thing from a number of guys that I've talked to.
One who was and may still be living with his girlfriend who he didn't get along with. I haven't talked to him quite a while now. I think he's mad at me for telling him how I felt about him contacting and meeting other women while he was still in a relationship.
Whether it's over in his mind or not is irrelevant considering they were still living together and she didn't know it was over. I asked him how the hell do you think she's going to feel when she finds out? He didn't give me an answer.
There are a few others that seem to "talk" to a whole pile of women and with the intention of meeting them but from what they say I have my doubts that their intentions are honourable.
This makes it extremely difficult for the guys out there who are really after a more meaningful relationship with the intentions of long term or even marriage. Or those who are looking for nothing more than friendship.
The few dishonest ones really do ruin it for the good ones and I don't blame anyone for being suspicious of EVERYTHING most guys have to say. It's sad that the dating scene is like this but I think it was long before online dating came around. Just now it's easier considering how many "singles" are on dating stes like this one. I've heard that as many as 70% of singles in North America have at least one profile on a dating site for one reason or another.
There are women who are just as bad so I don't see this as being one sided. It's not likely that the number of women is as high though.
I guess so long as everyone is honest about their intentions right from the start then it's probably not so bad, but leading others on under the premise of wanting to be together and really only wanting sex isn't cool no matter where you meet.
As far as the ones who are honest about just looking for a FF and tell you this right from the start. What could be better? At least they aren't handing you a line of shit and leading you to believe something else when they're really only after one thing anyway. The choice is there for you to make and you can say yes or no. Nobody is forcing you to get laid!
Me, I'm still here for friends and the forums for the most part, but one never knows when that proverbial frying pan might nail me upside the head and WHAMMO!
There are a lot of wonderful women here on CS.

Can't trick a tricker !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Harry what a sweet thing to say.... it is true real gentleman are the the most sexiest....

hi there,

can't say that i would disagree with anything that has been said about the dating game so far, weather it be normal or online dating. One thing that i have learnt is that no matter how long it takes you will always see someones true colors in the end.... speaking from experience here.

I am guessing that the only way to know if they are only in it for the sex is to be the best thing a woman can be and that's a bitch. Play the game with them and then say no when they do hit you up. If they really mean what they have said to you then they will keep trying and prove to you that it isn't just a physical encounter they are after.

I believe guys can do exactly the same to a woman if they aren't sure too.

Really at the end of the day if the feelings are truthful then you will know and they will be willing to prove it to you, and that goes for both sexes.

Who knows what goes on in any one persons mind though really. I definately agree... very frustrating.

Ok... 101 reasons why women have issues with men on dating sites.

Him:Hello Beautiful Lady

Me: Hello

Him: Do you want to know what i did last night when i was bored

Me: What

Him: You are going to think i am weird

Me: Why

Him: It is a bit weird do you want to know what i did

( Tempting to say no not really but i will bite.)

Me What

Him;: Do you really want to know?

Me: What

Him: I shaved one of my legs and my chest.

Me: Do you think i am weird

Him: Yes

Me: Are you serious

Him: Yeah

Me: Are you taking the mickey

Him No :-(

Me: BLOCK BUTTON

I mean if he said he had shaved both legs i wouldn't have minded but to shave only one and his chest what the fk is with that ?



True story... happened five minutes ago... god i love the internet... just when you get down something happens to make you piss yoursefl
You cannot take things seriously on here... !!!

What a pisser Karen..

ohh how funny.. !

well i think it all go's both ways ppl in general only want sex if they don't see you as a fitting partner but you have enough to fill a desire if this is for one time or many but it always come down to choice if you want to play the game or not best bet is to know what the others interest is before you just go for it.

I think alot of men out there are scared of commitment.

I think alot of men out there are scared of commitment

Some are, but I think most are simply scared of committing to the wrong woman. I can't think of anyone who wants to start a relationship thinking of how it'll end.

Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts, feelings and experiences - especially Karen Louie and *gulps* lol I think....Drags

Knowing I am not alone is a comfort and I guess at the end of the day one has to be true to themselves whatever their feelings, needs and wants - thank God for my toys

If I grow old alone so what rather be single than with someone for the sake of it or a lifetime of casual encounters lol

I honestly don't know any more - think born wrong era but hey we are here for the journey so let's hope the adventure is a good one :) I guess up to each one of us ultimately.

(( Big Hugs ))
Annie xox

Yes i totally agree with you Justabloke. You hit it right on the head clearly. Like anything both parties have to have the same agenda otherwise one will enevitable be hurt. If you dont have enough communication to ensure this than you are in trouble.

I think both sexes as they get older are more aware of hurt, and its not neccesarily we dont want a b'friend or g'friend but I think fear holds us back a lot.

As you get older instead of going into a relationship blind, you are more aware, more fussy even.

JMO.

T

hey kim
young man are still in more of a self mode till at least 21, older men get women that want commitmen on demand this can be scary but it all comes down to what they want you for and what you think of them, communication early will help, look for the one in the background waiting for you to notice him, because thats always been someone like me you know their there but 99% of women focus on the fools paying with your attenting

i think i our first relationships we are care free our concern is not on much just things to be done an there is no need to question your love, if something is not broke dont go trying to fix it or nagging a man how to fix it if it dose,
this is what you call a hangup on your past if you can't clear it and go into a relationship thats when ppl scare eachother, i know i want to be in a strong relationship but a women should never think just because they are a women i have to commit myself i have to work out myself if your the one, in other words if your with a guy for 6mths unless you susspect he is fooling around don't hassell him be carefree and wait for the day to come, whats the worst you could be single again free to do what you want, its a great sensation it's almost addictive i like being dumped

getting back to the real question "Why do so many males not want a girlfriend" if someone dose not want a relationship and you do move on because the time you waist with that person my be when you would meet someone that whats to really know you and myself if i know you an see you with another and i liked you my mind will change if i feel i was you last choice or was even in with chance, in saying this men are also aware of what they can loose when a long term relationship go's wrong and this ladys is more scary then a women with pmt, (hope that didn't affend) so when a man commits he is not just saying i love you forever.
in my mind all men want a girlfriend you just need to be the right one most time you will find that the one for you is the one that can't get your attention or dose not know how.

You sound just like my ex.... i dumped him because after two months he could not make up his mind. I dont understand this male concept.
Never will, you either get on or you dont. We spoke for two to three hours most nights and well if he didnt understand who i was or have a fair idea then sorry you snooze you lose.

Whats the difference between a decisive women and indecisive man - problems. Women like to feel as if the man knows what he wants and where he is going, if he = indecisiveness she finds this a weak quality so is far more hesitant to stick around.

please dont conpare me to others i never got dumped for non commitment if any thing i left in those situations because i don't want to break hearts, i like to read one page at a time and maybe plan to prepare to read the next i don't rush to the back of the book to see if its a happy ending and try to create one if its not, please dont take anything i say personal or one sided or a personal attack i am only being in the convo and given ya's an understanding, most men would say to me shut up because its the fact that women don't understand men is the security door to our minds and it all go's bothways. the end

really when we look at it all from outside the box, don't both men and women have committments issues at some level. I think it just depends on the relationship in question and the people involved.

I think if you are both comfortable just let things progress by themselves and don't push anything. If you push it too early then of course the committment thing is going to rear its ugly head. That can come of either the male or the female.

Hey we all only live life once so lets live it to the fullest and enjoy the moment at hand, and leave the future until tomorrow.

Alls cool...i do not mean to compare but i had a long conversation with him about the sam things you are saying very similar to what he said so it is good to hear it from a different perspective. I am talking again to him so i suppose i am wrestling with my own demons and neurosis..and a tadge cynical or scared about whether i am doing the right thing. I never try and go back but he has kept niggling at me..

It is great for a guy to post his views and please dont let me stop you posting your views. You sound like a decent intelligent honest guy and we need some more of them on here.

Anyways it is soooo stinkin hot here today and i suppose my normal sweet demeanour...err hem... is wearing thin today....god somone get some ice !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

yes viper so true, sometimes it hard to turn the page for fear on whats within and everyone has there own fears an expectations a perfect match is a million to one, i wish every one happy stories, i will leave this with a question i ask my sister a long time ago; i asked how do women think? she looks at me with a concerned frown an said; the same way you do brother.