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Post: please dont conpare me to others i never got dumped for non commitment if any thing i left in those situations because i don't want to break hearts, i like to read one page at a time and maybe plan to prepare to read the next i don't rush to the back of the book to see if its a happy ending and try to create one if its not, please dont take anything i say personal or one sided or a personal attack i am only being in the convo and given ya's an understanding, most men would say to me shut up because its the fact that women don't understand men is the security door to our minds and it all go's bothways. the end


It seems you and I live a similar life. I could say we may be tarred with the same brush.

I understand exactly where you are coming from and agree with you whole heartedly with every post you have made on this thread.

This post in particular explains why I like this forum of communication. I can read the post think about it and then make my response. Any other way is going to lead to someone putting their foot in their mouth. I often wish i could be given the time to do this in a heated argument. But i always end up in one of two situations, because i am not given the time to stop and think properly.

But talking on the Internet can be easily misinterpreted. Because we miss tone and body language. Tone especially. Even I get the sense that these posts may be getting heated. But all we are giving is an opinion, and not personal attacks.

This is too simplified. There is a big step between Indecisive and contemplative. Decisions are made in several ways.

Just like there are different ways people learn there are different ways people come to understanding.

It is another consideration when finding a suitable partner. You should not seek someone who thinks like you, but who balances your mental process's. Yes this will cause disruption from time to time, But it will mean longer periods of peace and love.

yep for sure if i had to have this conversation face to face to a woman it would most likkey end in knock on the head with the rolling pin, this a great way to vent things that you store in your head i feel a lost has come from this forum and i am pleased to of joined in time to be here

i feel a lot has come from this forum and i am pleased to of joined in time to be here(correction)

Join in anytime Justabloke.

It is rare we get serious conversation here.

It's rare we got a lot of conversation of any kind!

Why are the previous posts not showing when you respond to them!!!
Whats up with that???
Gain one thing lose another....

OMG i can feel the testosterone gaining momentum....

Maybe i am wrong in my thinking and my decisions but i think i did the right thing for the right reasons.

It can still be done Karen but it just takes a little more effort. It is no longer a click but a case o cut and pasting. Using the Quote button below.

Can I be cheeky and say "Notice how the men came out in the serious thread but have stayed away from the frivolous threads"

<---- Ducking thrown Flower vases.

Karen

That is so true Harry. Your turn tomorrow to incite some topical dicussion.

it's funny when you look at the things said when talking to someone and no matter what you do it gets twisted back at you and your real point never gets there, it's like offering a bit of an apple to be asked why whats in it sleeping pills, ill tell one good advise never try to have a D&M through sms on ya phone its a sure thing for crossed wires

found this thought some might like to read

Science is confirming what most women know: When given the choice for a mate, men go for good looks.

And guys will not be surprised to learn that women are much choosier about partners than they are.

"Just because people say they're looking for a particular set of characteristics in a mate, someone like themselves, doesn't mean that is what they'll end up choosing," Peter M Todd, of the cognitive science program at Indiana University, Bloomington, said in a telephone interview.

Researchers led by Todd report in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences that their study found humans were similar to most other mammals, "following Darwin's principle of choosy females and competitive males, even if humans say something different."

Their study involved 26 men and 20 women in Munich, Germany.

Participants ranged in age from 26 to their early 40s and took part in "speed dating," short meetings of three to seven minutes in which people chat, then move on to meet another dater.

Afterward, participants check off the people they'd like to meet again, and dates can be arranged between pairs who select one another.

Speed dating let researchers look at a lot of mate choices in a short time, Todd said.

In the study, participants were asked before the session to fill out a questionnaire about what they were looking for in a mate, listing such categories as wealth and status, family commitment, physical appearance, healthiness and attractiveness.

After the session, the researchers compared what the participants said they were looking for with the people they actually chose to ask for another date.

Men's choices did not reflect their stated preferences, the researchers concluded. Instead, men appeared to base their decisions mostly on the women's physical attractiveness.

The men also appeared to be much less choosy. Men tended to select nearly every woman above a certain minimum attractiveness threshold, Todd said.

Women's actual choices, like men's, did not reflect their stated preferences, but they made more discriminating choices, the researchers found.

The scientists said women were aware of the importance of their own attractiveness to men, and adjusted their expectations to select the more desirable guys.

"Women made offers to men who had overall qualities that were on a par with the women's self-rated attractiveness. They didn't greatly overshoot their attractiveness," Todd said, "because part of the goal for women is to choose men who would stay with them."

But, he added, "they didn't go lower. They knew what they could get and aimed for that level."

So, it turns out, the women's attractiveness influenced the choices of the men and the women.

I just like a guy with broad shoulders

Damn science!!! Now they're telling us what and who we're attracted to. Like Hollywood and advertising wasn't good enough or something. Who's next? Aliens?

WOW I did well with this thread hey guys lol Getting lots of comments, opinions and interest - justabloke your last thread was very interesting - it all makes you think hey. I saw this article on a website and thought it was quite appropriate to what we have been talking about and kinda made sense, even if we don't always understand...just copied first part of it if of any interest the link is at the end to read the rest... see what you think......

Why Men Want Sex and Women Want Love
By Elena Solomon, www.soulmades.com.au

Men are frustrated with women because they never want sex.
Women are frustrated with men because they always want sex.

Women blame men they don’t know how to love.
Men blame women that they only talk about love but don’t want to make it.

Whether you are a man or a woman, reading this article can change your life - finally, you will be able to get rid of your frustrations about the opposite gender.

The reason humans want sex is due to the hormone testosterone, which is predominantly male hormone. A normal male’s body produces 20 times more of this hormone than a female’s.

In other words, a male feels the same way after one day without sex as a female after 20 days without sex. A male that has not had sex in 20 days feels the same way as a female after more than a year without sex.

Knowing this simple difference, you can already understand the pain of the opposite gender. It’s NOT their fault: they are made this way! It’s in our genes! This is the reason why men are men and women are women.

Men and women are DIFFERENT.
Not better or worse, just different.

http://www.soulmades.com.au/dating_tips/sex_love.htm

Cheers everyone
Annie

Cheers gogirl and thanks JustaBloke. These last posts give some sound scientific founding.

Now if i may. May i ask this Query.

Using the rating system of 1-10; 10 being best.

If a woman who is rated around 4 goes in and has plastic surgery and upgrades herself to an 8.

Does she still look for a man rated aroud 4 or does she upgrade her personal criteria and start hunting for eights in men as well.
As she has only upgraded her external picture not how she percieves herself mentally.

Now if the answer is yes, Then men there is a very good lesson to learn here.
"Don't go upgrading girlfriends breasts to suit your lustings, As the upgrade could cause her to go off looking for a better looking guy"

If a woman who is rated around 4 goes in and has plastic surgery and upgrades herself to an 8.


If she up grades it's on auto relisting to a higher level as men will automaticlly spot the adjustments, study is avised; to fine tune adjusted levels to the male quality meter, leading male No7 rating local members and lower are concerned as supplies on No5 women are on an all time low

hey guys, just a little input from me, i was reading in one of those body language type books, appartently a female will look for a differnt build of man depending on what time of the month it is. It said that if a woman was ovulating she would look for the guy that had more fat on him so to speak as subconsiously she would feel that he would be able to provide for a family better as he obviously has been able to eat more. And apparently men do a similar thing, depends on hormone levels the notice how well the woman can take care of herself which reflects how well she could take care of him.


I thought it was intersting. Would quote the book but can't find it to do that... sorry.

I fully agree with this. I have seen it happen.

interesting Vipper
body language is a great tool but its seems to only apply in silance because when you react to it most times the person was unaware they were makeing a jesture, but when you get it right is usually when sparks fly another reason ya at a loss with net dating body language tells you alot about someone this is why most ppl are so self aware when you first meet don't want to give to much away to quick Hey

funny u should say that......i just finished exactly what u r talking about...........its not just males......find me a girl who wants to be serious and im there.......