Why do so many males not want a girlfriend

bbwandcute
Tauranga, Bay of Plenty New Zealand

Posted: Jan 18, 2008, 6:14 AM CST

Internet dating is about numbers... eventually your number has to come up with success, scams, bad eggs, guys just after sex, guys who are impotent, guys who have emotional baggage etc.... it is a minefield to try and work your way around all of this. The fun is when you are successful and you find someone that you get on with and you go out and have a nice time and you want to see them again and them you. Then all the harder side falls away and it makes it worth while. You just got to keep going. I like internet you get to chat and see if you are compatable first. If not then no loss. Move on to the next person. Sorry maybe i sound as if i have been on here too long but it has taught me tenacity, patience and hope....you just got to have hope!!

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viper3310
Gladstone, Queensland Australia

Posted: Jan 18, 2008, 7:32 AM CST

Hey i like that last bit, hope, love the way that sounds right now.

I have noticed there seem to be alot of people who think they are gods gift on here and can tell that just reading thier profile (god i hope i don't sound like that).

I just figure you gotta be out looking to friends first and foremost, nothing can happen with anyone if you don't start from that point. It might take a week or a year or 10 years it will happen when its meant to happen, hence i like the hope bit.

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Jimi123499
Central, Victoria Australia

Posted: Jan 18, 2008, 6:18 PM CST

yes I should have been sleeping at that time not typing....lol

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Jimi123499
Central, Victoria Australia

Posted: Jan 18, 2008, 6:23 PM CST

Well you will just have to wait another 200,000,000 year for evolution to take place or science advances beyond belief....sorry lol

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relaxin
somewhere, Queensland Australia

Posted: Jan 19, 2008, 7:32 AM CST

bbwandcute wrote:

My dearest Annie... thought you had been quiet. Hugs girlfriend am assuming some bstrd has just burnt your kind wee heart again.

It is a numbers game annie... you have to ply the bad with the good. Unfortunately when it comes to internet dating there are a lot of guys who have a lot of baggage, kids, emotional issues, finanacial issues or something in their past to keep them on phobic mode...!! . Keep your head up and your heart safe and make em work for the sex. Men are true hunter gatherers. My saying is that you are worthy of being loved well not just loved. Anyone can say they love you it is how they demonstrate it that makes the difference. If a man is interested in you he will do the chasing. If he is not going to then we have to learn to leave well alone otherwise we get hurt. But nooooo we still persisit in trying to make them like us. This should be both our new years resolutions. Treat em mean ....keeps em keen. !!! You are worthy of being loved well Annie you are such a great lady.

this sounds like a good thing to do....
guys say that they dont want to play the game, but they are usually some kind of sport buff. its what wakes them up ...

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snoopyau
Brisbane, Queensland Australia

Posted: Jan 21, 2008, 5:48 PM CST

I could see a lot of arseholes and jerks could use dating sites
as a new way to increase the tally of one night stands .

Ive had a few gfs in the past and one friend with benfits that ended
up being a gf . Unfortanly from my exp that girl wanted the benfits
of bf/gf and she became real wierd stalker that didnt know what No
was . Anyway moving onto the topic .

Maybe people should list what they want in the profile or the
website be updated to support this .
This way females and males that do want a no releationship bonk
can find others that want that aswell.

I would like to find some female friends that I can socialise with
that I have some common interests and also I would like to find
some nice girls to date and hopefully find a nice girl I can develop
a great longterm relationship with . If I find a fun girl to have
a bit of casual bedroom fun that would be great , horny single
guys need a bit of ecchiness from time to time but I wouldnt
activly look for that kind of girl all the time.

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mikesoh
brisbane, Queensland Australia

Posted: Jan 22, 2008, 8:57 PM CST

Hi, I'm a guy, & this is my opinion, There are two types of guys, I am only generalising but this is the basic gist;

MEN OF SUBSTANCE, these guys have real charactor, they are not selfish , are faithfull, have self control, they treat sex as something special that is reserved for true love & commitment & they reserve themselves until they find this commitment. They understand themselves & know what they need in a woman,( it is usualy some one that reserves herself for commitment) therefore they don't bother with casual relationships as they already know this will not make them happy & are strong enough not to waste there time.

SHAGAHOLICS, In my experience there are a lot more of these guys around. Their general philosophy is "the root you knock back is the one you never get" as you could be dead tommorow. Unfortunately, this attitude lacks for future planning, & lives for the day that is here now. So any thought of LONG TERM planning for REAL commitment is the furtherest thing from their mind. OH & girls, he will tell you anything you want to here to get his way with you, as its not you he is concerned obout, only his second head.

Of coarse there can always be exeptions to this, dont get me wrong but in general its pretty acurate.

so girls if your in a casual thing & wondering why he's a bit shy, to commit , consider what I have just said.

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lovlee21
port macquarie, New South Wales Australia

Posted: Jan 22, 2008, 9:11 PM CST

some men are players and some are genuine, just keep trying till the right one comes along. Keep your chin up girl and keep rocking on

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gabrielhot
cinto India

Posted: Jan 23, 2008, 7:27 AM CST

Hey, there are many adult websites on the net but they are payable but I know a 100 free adult dating site among of them called www.vertigosex.com there are lots of peoples looking sex from all over the world and finally you don’t need to pay to meet guys online. Hope this will help you.
Cheers!

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zothen
Maryborough, Queensland Australia

Posted: Jan 31, 2008, 9:22 PM CST

gabrielhot wrote:

Hey, there are many adult websites on the net but they are payable but I know a 100 free adult dating site among of them called www.vertigosex.com there are lots of peoples looking sex from all over the world and finally you don’t need to pay to meet guys online. Hope this will help you.
Cheers!

beware of that web site www.vertigosex.com, you can not delete your profile. some idiot, made a profile of me on it, and posted my photo from here, and i can not remove it.

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thegreek03
adelaide, South Australia Australia

Posted: Mar 4, 2008, 4:30 AM CST

Lou79 wrote:

They are morons.. plain and simple.

hi..I don't get on here very often but the subject caught my eye and ur comment is worthy of an intelligent reply.
Yes there r alot of men out there who want a fuck buddy but not all men r like that all thier lives.
I was like that up till the age of 22,I then married a great lady and our marriage lasted 22 yrs.why we slit up is a long story..
I have been single about a yr now and have not had the slightest inclination of finding a fuck buddy..
a fuck is useless without emotional content..and a woman is more than just a portable pussy..
I will not waste my time with a woman unless there is a very strong emotioal attraction and a future together..

In my experience, I have encountered those that want a fuck buddy, and oh those that also want a fuck buddy..

Male thing perhaps? scared? (doubt it!) I met a guy last year, a family friend so not off a site, and he was telling me how he is on some sites and meets up with chicks and counts how many notches in his belt he can get.. then he gets pics of the chicky babes (xxx ones) and brags to his mates.. This is the MAIN reason I would rather stay single.

The using and abusing and bragging is what I find a huge turn off and thus far, I have only really met this kind of male.

Still searching for a nice honest one and I think I will be searching a loooooong time!

I don't know why they aren't into Dating/relationship, I think there is so much "variety" on the net now that they can all be picky and choosy and only want sex not the whole package.. Goes for women too but I find the men are more into the internet dating and finding randoms and not wanting commitment.

Hope you're well chickadee.. have fun!

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newbie80
Newcastle, New South Wales Australia

Posted: Mar 5, 2008, 6:18 AM CST

c'mon gogirl. you just haven't met the right one yet. t's good to be back I see nothings changed. gogirl still in the casual shag dilemma ( if u call it that) I'm sure bbw is having realtionship problems and yet again I'm still single well it 'll nice one day when we can all flip the script on this thing called fate and forge a new future with a great balnce of love and sex here's a big cheers to 2008 guys and the wind of change ( and please no fart jokes people )

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Artythis
Inverell, New South Wales Australia

Posted: Mar 7, 2008, 5:00 AM CST

I agree totally with Mikesoh, the majority of males can be divided up between those who genuinly want a long lasting relationship and then there are those who only think with their head in the lower regions and how to get that belt up a notch. I've been around alot of male in my time the majority are either friends or asociates and unfortunantly most of them i hear them talking about how they like this person and that person and that they'd like to do this and that person. In my personal oppinion i find that attitude appauling. Even so it's not just males that think like this, ther are some females who do the same as well but their much more rarer.

In my years of school i've never actually had a relatioinship, weird is what some people whould think but to be honest i had other things on mind like getting a decent education but even so i was looking at others relationships were going in those school years and from them and the like and learning from them. Its been like 4 years since i've actually started wanting a relationship and i've had alot of time to think about it, i know for sure i would like to meet someone i could possibly spend the rest of my days with, i know i'm ready for comitment and to put my significant other first befor my needs but i woun't be doing anything extreame again like moving to America again......i don't recomend anyone doing that unless your 110% certaint that things will work out.

Anyways that my oppinion

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limbo
melbourne, Victoria Australia

Posted: Mar 10, 2008, 7:32 PM CST

what aload of crap i have been trying for a girlfriend for years the problem is with you women you will not settle for anything less than mr perfect and the only lump in the trousers a girl these days is intrested in is the one in the back pocket doesnt matter if your claen sober non violent and honest i find you all prfessional victims baa humbugg!!!

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Jimi123499
Central, Victoria Australia

Posted: Mar 11, 2008, 1:16 AM CST

limbo wrote:

what aload of crap i have been trying for a girlfriend for years the problem is with you women you will not settle for anything less than mr perfect and the only lump in the trousers a girl these days is intrested in is the one in the back pocket doesnt matter if your claen sober non violent and honest i find you all prfessional victims baa humbugg!!!

I bet you will so excited this year waiting for Christmas, until then I have given some decorations for you to cheer you up....wtf....

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GoGirl1302
Sunshine Coast, Queensland Australia

Posted: Mar 11, 2008, 8:29 AM CST

"Help I need somebodyyyyyyyyyyyyyy" words from a Beatles song, correct me if I am wrong

Behind your negative bravado Mr Limbo boy lurks a very sensitive soul who is yearning to find true love.

And I guess if you continue with the mind set you displayed and no doubt from past bad experiences that all women are the same and only interested in $$$$$, then more often that not you will get what you focus on.

Good and bad with all males and females and one just has to work on oneself to be the best they can be then the law of attraction will attract who will compliment each other.

I have been dating a guy for a whole month now lol a record for me

and sure early days but he has reinstated to me that there are good guys out there with heart and soul and who want to treat their partners in special, caring ways.

So never give up Mr Limbo as there are some amazing, special people out there.

ps Big Huggles & Smooches to Newbie

and thanks everyone for your thoughts, experiences and opinions.

Cheers

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crash
melbourne, Victoria Australia

Posted: Mar 12, 2008, 4:17 AM CST

i too have met women that just want to have someone they
can showcase to thier friends
i think if your really looking for a relathionship it is time and work
to really find someone that wants the same thing as you
i have dated many women from here and other sites and the ones that work are the ones that when you finally meet set all your bells off
and are great (says single dan)
talk to everyone and connect with the people you like and you never know
i currently have 2 fuck buddies i could visit but i choose not too

they are morons.. plain and simple.

In my experience, I have encountered those that want a fuck buddy, and oh those that also want a fuck buddy..

Male thing perhaps? scared? (doubt it!) I met a guy last year, a family friend so not off a site, and he was telling me how he is on some sites and meets up with chicks and counts how many notches in his belt he can get.. then he gets pics of the chicky babes (xxx ones) and brags to his mates.. This is the MAIN reason I would rather stay single.

The using and abusing and bragging is what I find a huge turn off and thus far, I have only really met this kind of male.

Still searching for a nice honest one and I think I will be searching a loooooong time!

I don't know why they aren't into Dating/relationship, I think there is so much "variety" on the net now that they can all be picky and choosy and only want sex not the whole package.. Goes for women too but I find the men are more into the internet dating and finding randoms and not wanting commitment.

Hope you're well chickadee.. have fun![/quote]

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crash
melbourne, Victoria Australia

Posted: Mar 12, 2008, 4:27 AM CST

thats a classic !
i wish the girl i used to go out with had emailed me
instead of writing me a letter
i dont have a scanner but believe me it was as whacked out as that

101 reasons why women have issues with men on dating sites.

Him:Hello Beautiful Lady

Me: Hello

Him: Do you want to know what i did last night when i was bored

Me: What

Him: You are going to think i am weird

Me: Why

Him: It is a bit weird do you want to know what i did

( Tempting to say no not really but i will bite.)

Me What

Him;: Do you really want to know?

Me: What

Him: I shaved one of my legs and my chest.

Me: Do you think i am weird

Him: Yes

Me: Are you serious

Him: Yeah

Me: Are you taking the mickey

Him No :-(

Me: BLOCK BUTTON

I mean if he said he had shaved both legs i wouldn't have minded but to shave only one and his chest what the fk is with that ?
True story... happened five minutes ago... god i love the internet... just when you get down something happens to make you piss yoursefl
You cannot take things seriously on here... !!![/quote]

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xyb0rx
Fremantle, Western Australia Australia

Posted: Apr 6, 2008, 7:23 PM CST

I don't know what your complaining about, at least you got some sex. 'Frustrating' - you wouldn't know what the word meant. Just wait until your too old and ugly to get laid, then you will get close to understanding. You really should try to appreciate what you have got now as it will not last forever.

GoGirl1302 wrote:

OK throwing this question out to the universe lol

So everyone why is most males, well ones I seem to meet/date, only want a casual bonk or shag buddy - not saying that is negative - we all have our needs and agendas. But beats me how so many can't be open to a mind connection with someone and let it develop if chemistry is there.

Maybe fear who knows.... I just find it all very frustrating....

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xenagurl
Tokoroa, Waikato New Zealand

Posted: Apr 6, 2008, 8:19 PM CST

Because most male's dont want to be tied down..

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