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Because most male's dont want to be tied down..

Because most male's dont want to be tied down..

Lou, I hate to say it but I've heard the same thing from a number of guys that I've talked to.
One who was and may still be living with his girlfriend who he didn't get along with. I haven't talked to him quite a while now. I think he's mad at me for telling him how I felt about him contacting and meeting other women while he was still in a relationship.
Whether it's over in his mind or not is irrelevant considering they were still living together and she didn't know it was over. I asked him how the hell do you think she's going to feel when she finds out? He didn't give me an answer.
There are a few others that seem to "talk" to a whole pile of women and with the intention of meeting them but from what they say I have my doubts that their intentions are honourable.
This makes it extremely difficult for the guys out there who are really after a more meaningful relationship with the intentions of long term or even marriage. Or those who are looking for nothing more than friendship.
The few dishonest ones really do ruin it for the good ones and I don't blame anyone for being suspicious of EVERYTHING most guys have to say. It's sad that the dating scene is like this but I think it was long before online dating came around. Just now it's easier considering how many "singles" are on dating stes like this one. I've heard that as many as 70% of singles in North America have at least one profile on a dating site for one reason or another.
There are women who are just as bad so I don't see this as being one sided. It's not likely that the number of women is as high though.
I guess so long as everyone is honest about their intentions right from the start then it's probably not so bad, but leading others on under the premise of wanting to be together and really only wanting sex isn't cool no matter where you meet.
As far as the ones who are honest about just looking for a FF and tell you this right from the start. What could be better? At least they aren't handing you a line of shit and leading you to believe something else when they're really only after one thing anyway. The choice is there for you to make and you can say yes or no. Nobody is forcing you to get laid!
Me, I'm still here for friends and the forums for the most part, but one never knows when that proverbial frying pan might nail me upside the head and WHAMMO!
There are a lot of wonderful women here on CS.

OK throwing this question out to the universe lol

So everyone why is most males, well ones I seem to meet/date, only want a casual bonk or shag buddy - not saying that is negative - we all have our needs and agendas. But beats me how so many can't be open to a mind connection with someone and let it develop if chemistry is there.

Maybe fear who knows.... I just find it all very frustrating....

Can be frustrating for us too; wanting one but having an uncontrollable fear of rejection/making a mistake - fear is the driving factor in my experience. G'day friend! Long time! Wats doing?