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Three times now i have been drawn into relationships with men who turn out to be cheating on their partners..ending with a call from the partner!!! and being totally cut off no explanation nothing..

what am i doing wrong?? i dont rush in taking my time but always seem to pick the losers!! I am just about to give this whole dating site thing away..please if anyone has some advice would love to hear from you

Best idea I think is make one of your dates a BBQ with his friends ....male & female that way your going to know he is on the level.
If he seems hesitant its one of 3 things either he doesnt think your good enough to introduce to his friends {loser}
2:He has a little woman tucked away somewheres.{loser}
3:Or He has no friendsto invite to a BBQ {loser}

If this is the case your better off

Hi there Sunset,
I am sorry for your pain.
This burden is the mens burden to bear
You have not done anything wrong so you can hold your head up high.
The path to true love is never easy so they say.
The ladies advice above is great as well, get to know them slowly and in different ways.

Hang in there we are not all like that. Maybe you are giving your contact details a little to soon,too trusting maybe. I know that being on your own is tough and very lonely I have been now for 7yrs so know how that feels. When to give your contact details is a hard one to answer, maybe keeping in contact through forums could be a start untill you can trust the person. from sacop (n.z.)

Cheers Kizzy..will remembe that one

Your right sweet..its a helluva a bumpy road so far feel like im 4WDriving

Tell me sacop why is it all the nice people live over seas?? lol

maybe i do give my contact details out too soon..have to change tack i think..cheers

YOUR VERY WELCOME

why is it all the nice people live over seas?? lol

Cause your in Oz Joke, I luv you all really, honest.

Blimey is there still some one over there in Kiwi land?? ;) he he

Just me and a few million people. Think I'm the only one in these forums...lOl

I`m staying to turn out the lights

Hey nz is not overseas just over the ditch! isnt Aussie a sub terrority of NZ (lols) just joking. I have read the rest of your recent answers the one about the bbq is a neat idea it would sort out the pretenders!!
I dont know if this is appropiate or not but if you want a pen pal to write to,look for mine I would be more than happy to keep in contact and I WILL reply up to ouy bye for now. sacop nz

Just because a person choose's an alternative lifestyle Kizzy; Does not make that person a loser. A social person with lots of contacts is more likely to be cheating on his significant other then the reclusive or loner.

Why? Because the social person regards all contacts equal. Places no special significance on people. (Figuartively speaking). The reclusive or loner treasures those they let inside there personal space. And since those people let inside that personal space are limited they will respect and protect those contacts.

Now I'm not saying the loner/Reclusive won't cheat on there significant other. But I am saying they are less likely to do it than the Socialite. I am also saying the Reclusive/loner/Shy person is not a
Loser. They are people to. And if your interested in them, then try harder. If you can't be bothered then just accept them as people to; and not as losers.

---this happens to men also -

-- at least its given their partners a chance to get rid of them

Todays dating is very different from years back, some people like the idea of sport some like the thrill, can't blame yourself for what other people do, I'm glad I am at an age where I don't let stuff like this bother me, the more you stress over it you waste you own time, lotsa different kind of people out there,

I'm Single never married and sure am not into waking up with something I can't wipe off

maybe you come across as an easy target? im not saying you are , but you could be.. Anyone could be!

Not that it matters , but i alway check for a ring mark on the appropriate finger ( im single , i look to see if there are possible single people out there in the world )

If by chance it happens again , and you get a call from the "partner" , then explain you didnt know , and that maybe they need to change something to stop the husband cheating on them , and if they dont , it will happen again and again and again.. its not your fault , just remember that!!

lets hope they take it . . .