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Hey Lou
nah !! bugger that
thats their insecurities not yours
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Hey Lou,

gotta agree with ya its a shit of a situation to be put in. What do ya do go off ya nut, put up with it or walk away from the friendship, no matter how you handle it ya come off lookin like the bitch or you got something to hide. Definately sucks.

I have been on a different situation where one of my exboyfriends got jealous of a friendship i had with a guy, knowing full well that i had know him since i was a teenager, and on top of that the guy was gay, but i was still accused of doing the wrong thing talkin to him. Hence some of the reason our relationship never worked

I do gotta agree with friendships come first, boyfriends always come and go but friends are there for good and why let someone screw that up for ya. Good friends are too bloody hard to find these days.

Anyway enough from me on that lol.

Hope all settles down for ya.

I think people react that way cause if they stand up for themselves they end up on a singles site called Connecting Singles..........

Maybe you have too much Charisma Lou!!!!

Hey Lou,

I know exactly wat your talking about... i've had friends come and go due to there new partners being insecure about me being a friend. Unfortunatly i dont argue with friends anymore, i once would of but as experiance has shown me it never does any good.
In a way, friends come into our lives for a reason, and some will always be there yet some move out of our lives for they have out grown us or us out grown them, it's the way it works in my world.

When i have a b'f on the scene, i 95% of the time still go and see my mates, even if it is under protest by the b'f, if you let them know upfront that your life has good friends whom you love and that they are just as important as everything else in ur life, then that sends a message that says i will not stop seeing my friends just because of you.

Then again sometimes people think if i see my friends when the b/f-g/f dont want me to that they will leave me. so in most cases it's both parties that are insecure, one is prob jealous and insecure the other insecure, it's just we see the new person as being the main problem.

Final words are: Everyone has choices, so people choose what they think is best for themselves at the time.

Jeez i hope this all makes sence, i'm not good at writing what i mean sometimes. so sorry if it doesn't make sence...

Not a chance! They're my friends and I won't give them up for anyone!

I had one woman who I was talking to for several months get jealous because I have a number of female friends. She asked me not to be friendly towards them and give her all of my attention. I should have told her to F**K OFF right there and then, but I didn't.
Stupid me thought maybe she would see why I like my friends and even become friends with them herself. Didn't happen! I'm happy to say, she's gone and I still have my friends.

--- well it must be them that are insecure in their relationship
--- then again lou -- youre a pretty hot chick

Spot on...

As for hot chick i second that....

I can kinda relate but from a male perspective, my ex was very jelous of some of the girls i had as friends, i think it was because we were rather close and that i've known them alot longer then my ex. I mean nothing would happen beetween these friends and myself for one, they all have boyfriends and 2 our friendships are that close that we are more like brother and sisters in a way.

It's rather sad when you have to choose between friends and that so called loved one, unfortunantly i made the wrong choice when i went to America to be with my ex, i thought i lost my friends for good but when i got back i caught up with them and well, i never lost them, they just gave me a hug and said" don't ever do that again ok?".

I couldn't agree more with what people have said here, friend and good ones at that are incredibly hard to come by in these times, their worth more then any amount of money or what not and nothing should get in between that friendship and yourself and if the person in question whats you to leave your friends then their certaintly not worht the trouble, i've learnt that and never again will it happen.

I think it's too easy to realte to your same predicament. It's funny how the same sex see you as a threat. Soemtimes I take it as a compliment but a lot of the time it's a pain in the arse. The thing is you can't actually do a thing about it. If you've made your intentions clear from the get go, then it's up to the friend and their partners to grow up. I'd also be careful about what friends say tot ehir partners. I had a friend tell her husband that she once had a crush on me and that did not go over well with him. i;ve had another friend jade in the same boat except her male friend told the girl friend that they'd slept together even though they hadn't . it was a plan to make the girlfriend jealous and to prove to her that he could pull attractive girls before her. as a result she was very icy to my friend jade even though they hadn;t even kissed. so there you go men can be equally as lame and crazy as the ladies. notice how much they change when you finally do get a partner though. it's like you;ve just stepped down or something.

Friends Will Be Friends..

It would be great if life was like the TV sitcom "Friends"!!

wow you certainly have a way with words
i agree

Good morning Lou.

Words from the otherside.

"Friends" are just that Friends. They aren't your Life Partner. Most are not there when you really need them. And how many will hold your head and comfort you whilst your throwing up.
Few friends care about your financial position, and doing things with you and for you with your financial position in mind.

You want a good friend, Find out who's there when you really need them. Those are the ones you should look into dating and taking on as a life partner.

I lost my EX to one of her Supposed "Friends". She was sleeping with him before we broke up and I didn't know.

You as a friend should face your friends situation and ask yourself why do I want to cause them this stress. As a good friend I should be reducing this stress for them.
Now in case they are a little dense tell them outright. "Look here Friend, to reduce the friction between you and your partner; I will pull back from hanging out with you. If you want me to hang out with you give us a call, I'll be there because your a mate; But under the assumption your partner knows I'll be there". Then leave it in their hands. If you hear from them, You hear from them. If you don't, you don't. At least you find out how much of a friend they really are.

But as a good friend why are you hanging around causing stress for them. A good friend shouldn't do that, And A good mate shouldn't choose a bedroom partner who see's you as a problem.
In my book they aren't much of a mate, OR they are using this bedroom partner for there own gain until they are sick of them. Which means this person isn't much of a person are they, using a person for sex only.

In my book you ain't being a good friend to them and they aren't being a good friend to you for letting this situation rise. So why would you guys want each other as friends.

In my book your Life Partner / Fiance comes before your Friends. But notice I say Life Partner / Fiance. That means you are at least two or three months into the relationship and have decided that this person has something and means something to you.

Sorry Lou that is an opinion from the other side. And it is just an opinion from a nobody who doesn't know the real situation. But i have been stung By so called "FRIENDS" on more than one occasion.

In my play book Friends are more hassle than they're worth. But a best friend is worth more than a lottery win. So get a best friend and lose all those other so called friends. Down grade them to acquaintances or someone to hang out with occasionally. Its cheaper; and with less expectations, far less stress.

Just thought I'd add this thought.

Most Rape cases are committed by so called "FRIENDS".

Just another reason for partners to fear distrust significant others friends.

I have lots of friends, gee I might get lucky yet!

Gee Jimi so you like it rough.


They say I guy can't be raped. If he can get it up he must be willing.

the fear pumps the adrenlin in !!

maybe the rapist is very manipulating

thought the little monster had a mind of its own

<<<<<<<<<< wonder how much $$$$$$$ ? opening wallet will they take 100 i wonder?

you had better enjoy it

hope it helps you out

I does. For some stupid reason when i'm thinking about Woman it gets very jealous and pops out going ME Me Me.

Its no wonder we Men get bad reps, When parts of our body are so possesive.