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why do guys do this??

in a 55yr old males profile has ...... prefer womens age range 18 to 55yrs. what is the go? his daughters or grand daughters could be that age... 1 chap replied that it seem to be the trend and might as well go with the flow!! WTF i wanted to know if he'd follow ppl who jump off bridges (with out bungi straps)

Can guys please explain what happen to common decent standards

He's just opening his range to accomodate a larger scale......lol

I think some guys are just younger in their minds.........or loins...... whichever........

I have also met some very intelligent younger people in my life but you cannot beat lifes experience.....

They say you have to live the blues to play the Blues properly......

JMO

Im not to sure what happend to them but i do know id rather be with someone close to my own age or just that bit older then myself. In my oppinion i really don't see the point in being with someone who is young enough to be your grand daughter, dosn't seem right to me, not judging anyone who is in one of these relationships but thats just my oppinion, i mean why would you be with someone who is way to young and immature in the first place?....i honestly am not to sure.

hmmm well i have to say i have lived those blues and advise others to think wisely about skipping out on a few yrs of experiencing those yrs and what wonderful things go with them

BBWomen is what he should be opening his scale up to.... and u know then up to and including 99yrs old lol its all fair

your alright u know !!

Under 35 they can`t hold a conversation,
and who the hell wants the rug rats at their feet now?
I adore my grandkids love even more giving them back!!!!!
I can take them to the pics the beach fishing
buy the best presents
I get the greatest huggs ever, I don`t have to be the bad guy
youngies are cute,
but get real

Hey Relaxin.

To incriminate myself but to try and give you some insight to why.

We open ourselves to a backlash like this with how we fill out out profiles. But if we filled out our Profiles differently we could deny ourselves the opportunity.

I ask around my work place as I try to suss out how other men are coping without coming right out and asking blunt questions. On the whole men are married to Woman younger than them (In my Work Place) but mostly it is no more than 5 yrs.
Which to most people is neither here nor there. I know of two exceptions. One seems to have a twenty year difference. He is from England. She seems to have married for money. They are in bitter disharmony at the moment, But she has him by the balls. Stuff about money.
The other is a significant age gap but how big I don't honestly know. But he has just gone through cancer therapy and they still seem harmonious. So age is not the deciding factor.

Now then the incriminating part. It is all about mental conditioning. Every skin magazine you see, Every porn flick, Every Movie, Every TV Show. The Female that is the most sexual (Both having and looking) seems to come from a certain age bracket and they aren't over 50.

Ask the Male to be Blatantly honest about what he miss's about marriage and he will say sex. Ask most men about what went wrong in their marriage and they will reply. "She stopped loving me,She stopped having sex. Or sex was a Battle it wasn't given readily". The general response will be something along these lines.

So there minds are conditioned to the fact that the young are gorgeous, Beautiful, and sex fanatics. This (as said) is done by the media across the board in both written and visual form. It also depicts that the older the Heroine the harder the hero has to try to get her into the bedroom. I.E the more Romantic he has to be.

So here is the single Male 40+ generally (Although it probably doesn't even need to be age bracketed) He wants Sex. He wants Love; and He wants understanding. He wants a few affairs and then wants a long standing relationship.

Now the Intelligent ones (and the world weary) realise they are unlikely to find all three in the one package. So what do they really want. And here is the Question I can't answer. But they leave there flexibility open. They know they won't go older than a set age except in infrequent situations. But they aren't going to shut themselves out of the fantasy. If it happens great, If it doesn't they can say to themselves that they gave themselves the chance.

But you get a Male to admit that openly to you; one on one, face to face. Not one of us would even come close to it unless we had known you for over six months and very aware of where we stood.

I hope this helps Relaxin without putting a theoretical bullet to my own chances in the world of second chances.

oh wow

so then the poor women that havent had sex for sumtime, who would just about pledge that they would have more fun than they ever did b4 and have more experience in area only youngester could never imagine and just put as side for when guys have had their fill of mindless pleasure with the others that they have used

lol that sounds very harsh when its put like that

will be over your shoulder to keep you from harm for being so straight

also it almost seems criminal for an oldie to be preying on a youngster... small age gapes arent anything because females are a head of guys anyway in developmental area. but to be recapturing they youth at an other expense is just a bit on the wrong side... gold digger are just a species of their own that need to be placed on a remote island

a lot of men out there could learn a lot of things from you.

teaching young 1's constructive things for them to hand down to their children is a wonderful thing and there should be more of it.

as for youngsters not being able to hold a conversation, i believe that they are seed of what we have planted and need to be fed the right information to balance their personalities with society acceptability behaviour. but sometimes we lose the battle

its great to see that there are males out there that dont think that getting some1 just above legal age is a wonderful thing.

still got my rug rats at my feet

Some younger women actively chase older men, mostly for money...

BUT....

If you can't compete... get out of the race

not in a race.... knock back youngster offers just sick of the older guys offers

but hey if your in the race go hard or go home

Maybe what you are looking for aint there.

It is Theoretically criminal. And long term will be unsatisfying.

But few in this very materialistic age think long term.
And who in this world can deny that a younger version is physically more attractive than the older version.

You mention an older person who has been on the sidelines for a while who would be very willing and knows plenty from experience.
But will they still be that willing and adventurous two weeks later or three months later. Or will it be, as most world weary people presume; after the first Week it will be back to once a month or less as the Drive just isn't there like it might of been ten or twenty years previously.

Honestly I know none of us can answer that. Each and every situation/Person will be different. And the real answer will really depend on how well, the couple initially blended and satisfied each other.

mayb mayb not who knows just and meeting ppl at this point in my life.

i question many things not just what ppl seek and why they do it.

and a good olde natter is always fun

I suppose its not just the men doing this pick up the younger version and your right the younger version is possible more physically appealing... theres no guarantee with any1 partner at any stage wether they are going to keep up the pace for any length of time. i believe the a relationship is 95% friendship and 5% sex so the physical charm is short lived with those percentages.

so ppl just open up their chances for the younger but the equalent age or older does appeal to them, its a bit like a larger person saying that they only want skinny and beautiful but yet what they offer is about the opposite.

Yeah, a good olde natter is always fun.... Enjoy!


The more you question, the more you will be confused.

Have you ever questioned the meaning of life?

nope dont question something that big

it would take to many drinks and i think i would just finish where i started. bit like the chicken and egg

just like to know the in's and out's of how we think and act and due to influences.

We think irrationally....

We act on our thoughts....

And alcohol is a great influence

Enjoy!

i think we think survival

our thoughts are limited by our knowledge or lack there of

alcohol is great for allowing those unluck ppl to have 1niters for centuries ........ and taste worse coming up then it did going down ...... allowing loss of memory of drastic events that every1 else remember you doing