Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

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dragondog4 Hastings, Hawkes Bay New Zealand

Tue Apr 15, 2008 4:26 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

Yeah here we go

Profiles
The Female Profile (Don't ask me about men i don't read them)has a trend. They promote Positivity.
E.g. Must have sense of Humor, Going Out, walks on the beach,

Anything and everything; all implying the same thing. Get me out of the house and wine and dine me. Not sitting around this place waiting for you to come Home and bitch and moan.

But Reality first. Please. No one can be class clown all the time. Everybody deals with stress differently. One must take the ups with downs. No Male is going to entertain you 24/7 (Not even in the Bedroom) So what happens on those days your stuck at home. Are you as your profile suggests going to be so buzzing because you feel fenced in; and that your going to blow your top at the slightest slight. Or are you going to curl up on the couch with your Womens Weekly or Soap and be content and Happy, Knowing your Partner is sitting somewhere scratching himself and picking his nose.

What am i getting at. How about writing what you do. Not what you'd like to do, or appreciate doing.

Going out cost's money. And if one enjoy's it so much then go on your own and meet people.

If we did that we wouldn't be on here trying to meet people/someone.

Oh I can understand reasonings. In most case's one has finished a relationship where the last few years/months have been very serious. Laughter a rare treasure. Stuck at home never going out and socialising. This is true and sad. But does promoting these wants portray the real you.

In a relationship a sense of humor is part of the character you fall for. It won't be at the fore front everyday. Humor is also generally the main player in the mating ritual. And in the dating game you are going to take each other out regularly(Its expected). Its only when you move in together that the relationship begins to change.

So why wish for something that is expected at the beginning. Tell us who you are and what you do in the meantime whilst your waiting. So we know what to expect after we get past the first few months/weeks of dating.

Zarah dublin, Dublin Ireland

Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:10 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

dragondog4: Yeah here we goProfiles
The Female Profile (Don't ask me about men i don't read them)has a trend. They promote Positivity.
E.g. Must have sense of Humor, Going Out, walks on the beach,

Anything and everything; all implying the same thing. Get me out of the house and wine and dine me. Not sitting around this place waiting for you to come Home and bitch and moan.

But Reality first. Please. No one can be class clown all the time. Everybody deals with stress differently. One must take the ups with downs. No Male is going to entertain you 24/7 (Not even in the Bedroom) So what happens on those days your stuck at home. Are you as your profile suggests going to be so buzzing because you feel fenced in; and that your going to blow your top at the slightest slight. Or are you going to curl up on the couch with your Womens Weekly or Soap and be content and Happy, Knowing your Partner is sitting somewhere scratching himself and picking his nose.

What am i getting at. How about writing what you do. Not what you'd like to do, or appreciate doing.

Going out cost's money. And if one enjoy's it so much then go on your own and meet people. If we did that we wouldn't be on here trying to meet people/someone.

Oh I can understand reasonings. In most case's one has finished a relationship where the last few years/months have been very serious. Laughter a rare treasure. Stuck at home never going out and socialising. This is true and sad. But does promoting these wants portray the real you.

In a relationship a sense of humor is part of the character you fall for. It won't be at the fore front everyday. Humor is also generally the main player in the mating ritual. And in the dating game you are going to take each other out regularly(Its expected). Its only when you move in together that the relationship begins to change.

So why wish for something that is expected at the beginning. Tell us who you are and what you do in the meantime whilst your waiting. So we know what to expect after we get past the first few months/weeks of dating.

Yeah...and at midnight turn into a six pack and a roast beef sandwich..

dragondog4 Hastings, Hawkes Bay New Zealand

Tue Apr 15, 2008 5:36 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

Zarah: Yeah...and at midnight turn into a six pack and a roast beef sandwich..

And this applies how.

I don't expect this is something you want everynight. And its not something a guy wants everynight.

So its not realism. I ain't Positivity. And depending on how it is read. Neither is it Negativity.

Zarah dublin, Dublin Ireland

Tue Apr 15, 2008 6:02 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

dragondog4: Yeah here we goProfiles
The Female Profile (Don't ask me about men i don't read them)has a trend. They promote Positivity.
E.g. Must have sense of Humor, Going Out, walks on the beach,

Anything and everything; all implying the same thing. Get me out of the house and wine and dine me. Not sitting around this place waiting for you to come Home and bitch and moan.

But Reality first. Please. No one can be class clown all the time. Everybody deals with stress differently. One must take the ups with downs. No Male is going to entertain you 24/7 (Not even in the Bedroom) So what happens on those days your stuck at home. Are you as your profile suggests going to be so buzzing because you feel fenced in; and that your going to blow your top at the slightest slight. Or are you going to curl up on the couch with your Womens Weekly or Soap and be content and Happy, Knowing your Partner is sitting somewhere scratching himself and picking his nose.

What am i getting at. How about writing what you do. Not what you'd like to do, or appreciate doing.

Going out cost's money. And if one enjoy's it so much then go on your own and meet people. If we did that we wouldn't be on here trying to meet people/someone.

Oh I can understand reasonings. In most case's one has finished a relationship where the last few years/months have been very serious. Laughter a rare treasure. Stuck at home never going out and socialising. This is true and sad. But does promoting these wants portray the real you.

In a relationship a sense of humor is part of the character you fall for. It won't be at the fore front everyday. Humor is also generally the main player in the mating ritual. And in the dating game you are going to take each other out regularly(Its expected). Its only when you move in together that the relationship begins to change.

So why wish for something that is expected at the beginning. Tell us who you are and what you do in the meantime whilst your waiting. So we know what to expect after we get past the first few months/weeks of dating.

CuspofMagic Crystal City, South Australia Australia

Tue Apr 15, 2008 7:25 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

Its all relative

dragondog4 Hastings, Hawkes Bay New Zealand

Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:03 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

CuspofMagic: Its all relative

Only theoretically.

CuspofMagic Crystal City, South Australia Australia

Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:30 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

dragondog4: Only theoretically.

bourbon Sunshine Coast, Queensland Australia

Wed Apr 16, 2008 5:57 AM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

CuspofMagic: Its all relative

Only Tasmanians date their relatives

dragondog4 Hastings, Hawkes Bay New Zealand

Wed Apr 16, 2008 1:35 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

bourbon: Only Tasmanians date their relatives

You forgot about them from Arkansas, Texas, and Tennessee.

And it is rumoured Greece and Turkey and those of certain religions.

Actually if you believe in Christianity We're all relatives.

bourbon Sunshine Coast, Queensland Australia

Thu Apr 17, 2008 6:34 AM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

dragondog4: You forgot about them from Arkansas, Texas, and Tennessee.

And it is rumoured Greece and Turkey and those of certain religions.

Actually if you believe in Christianity We're all relatives.

Now there's a good reason to be an atheist!

relaxin somewhere, Queensland Australia

Tue Apr 22, 2008 7:14 AM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

now where would all the fun be in that, what the good of knowing whats on the inside of a present cause it takes all of the fun out of it....

besides how you and someone else describes one thing could be completely different... eg i like to read books, once a blue moon but i could loose myself in it for hours if the kids away days only stopping to eat and shower but sumone else might only pick up a mag for an hour..

blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Sat Dec 27, 2008 5:28 AM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

dragondog4: Yeah here we goProfiles
The Female Profile (Don't ask me about men i don't read them)has a trend. They promote Positivity.
E.g. Must have sense of Humor, Going Out, walks on the beach,

Anything and everything; all implying the same thing. Get me out of the house and wine and dine me. Not sitting around this place waiting for you to come Home and bitch and moan.

But Reality first. Please. No one can be class clown all the time. Everybody deals with stress differently. One must take the ups with downs. No Male is going to entertain you 24/7 (Not even in the Bedroom) So what happens on those days your stuck at home. Are you as your profile suggests going to be so buzzing because you feel fenced in; and that your going to blow your top at the slightest slight. Or are you going to curl up on the couch with your Womens Weekly or Soap and be content and Happy, Knowing your Partner is sitting somewhere scratching himself and picking his nose.

What am i getting at. How about writing what you do. Not what you'd like to do, or appreciate doing.

Going out cost's money. And if one enjoy's it so much then go on your own and meet people. If we did that we wouldn't be on here trying to meet people/someone.

Oh I can understand reasonings. In most case's one has finished a relationship where the last few years/months have been very serious. Laughter a rare treasure. Stuck at home never going out and socialising. This is true and sad. But does promoting these wants portray the real you.

In a relationship a sense of humor is part of the character you fall for. It won't be at the fore front everyday. Humor is also generally the main player in the mating ritual. And in the dating game you are going to take each other out regularly(Its expected). Its only when you move in together that the relationship begins to change.

So why wish for something that is expected at the beginning. Tell us who you are and what you do in the meantime whilst your waiting. So we know what to expect after we get past the first few months/weeks of dating.

awwwwww but I only asked for someone who looks like Johnny Depp... dont tell me that is asking for too much

dragonfly88 valencia, Valenciana Spain

Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:04 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

blondeaozichick: awwwwww but I only asked for someone who looks like Johnny Depp... dont tell me that is asking for too much

asking for too much would be asking that he lived right next door to you

TamarTas Gravelly Beach, Tasmania Australia

Sun Dec 28, 2008 6:27 PM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

I steer well clear of any profile that even jokingly says something like, 'if you look like Johnny Depp (or Tom Cruise etc) that'd be great'. To me it says, 'I will never be satisfied with a normal person'.

Sure we can all desire someone perfect, but to come right out and say it is pretty off putting. Or maybe it's the putting a name to it.

Just imagine if the mens profile say, 'if you look like Elle MacPherson (or whoever the bint latest is) you're welcome' :-) How does that make you feel? Do you measure up to her?

blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Mon Dec 29, 2008 12:58 AM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

TamarTas: I steer well clear of any profile that even jokingly says something like, 'if you look like Johnny Depp (or Tom Cruise etc) that'd be great'. To me it says, 'I will never be satisfied with a normal person'.

Sure we can all desire someone perfect, but to come right out and say it is pretty off putting. Or maybe it's the putting a name to it.

Just imagine if the mens profile say, 'if you look like Elle MacPherson (or whoever the bint latest is) you're welcome' :-) How does that make you feel? Do you measure up to her?

lucky I am not here looking for anyone then hey?

blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Mon Dec 29, 2008 1:00 AM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

dragonfly88: asking for too much would be asking that he lived right next door to you

awwwwwwwwwww really?

I better take that bit out of my profile then

psuedonym adelaide, South Australia Australia

Mon Dec 29, 2008 2:32 AM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

TamarTas: I steer well clear of any profile that even jokingly says something like, 'if you look like Johnny Depp (or Tom Cruise etc) that'd be great'. To me it says, 'I will never be satisfied with a normal person'.

Sure we can all desire someone perfect, but to come right out and say it is pretty off putting. Or maybe it's the putting a name to it.

Just imagine if the mens profile say, 'if you look like Elle MacPherson (or whoever the bint latest is) you're welcome' :-) How does that make you feel? Do you measure up to her?

but if a woman wants tom cruise or johnny depp or their appearance equivalent, isnt it their right to say so, if i want pammy boobs blonde hair and virginal qualities in a woman then i'd put it in my profile under ideal match. no different than having an age range preference is it? it's a preference and it's the profile writers choice what they put in it. so long as they put accuracy in their choices, and don't lead guys on there's no problem

blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia

Mon Dec 29, 2008 5:24 AM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

psuedonym: but if a woman wants tom cruise or johnny depp or their appearance equivalent, isnt it their right to say so, if i want pammy boobs blonde hair and virginal qualities in a woman then i'd put it in my profile under ideal match. no different than having an age range preference is it? it's a preference and it's the profile writers choice what they put in it. so long as they put accuracy in their choices, and don't lead guys on there's no problem

well said my friend!!.. some people just dont get IT do they

redozichick Brisbane, Queensland Australia

Mon Dec 29, 2008 7:00 AM CST : Realism vs Negativity vs Positivity

psuedonym: but if a woman wants tom cruise or johnny depp or their appearance equivalent, isnt it their right to say so, if i want pammy boobs blonde hair and virginal qualities in a woman then i'd put it in my profile under ideal match. no different than having an age range preference is it? it's a preference and it's the profile writers choice what they put in it. so long as they put accuracy in their choices, and don't lead guys on there's no problem

As Blonde said... well said Psuedo

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