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For me Kind man its the whole package but formost I find integrety, honesty ,& zest for life my three main attractants .I love a man who is relaxed & just himself who shows his inner child & is confident with who he is .
If anyone out there has these qualities man youll melt me .
Ofcourse I like a man who looks after himself physically too,But without these other qualities...keep walking
Kizzy

Well that counts me out better start walking.

Damn!!!!

ps I like walkin lol

Me too especially when its my fingers doing the walkin..

mmm you talk the talk but...... Do you walk the walk?


Kizzy

For me it is a combination of honesty, humour, personal hygene, a love of kids & animals, the ability to empathise with others (including animals), a love of intimacy, passion, a sense of adventure, love of outdoors, art and I really like a man who is smarter than me. I definately need someone who can take my stupid moments with good humour!

I'd agree with all that! Except the part about them being smarter than you lol. I like someone thats my equal, but can stretch and/or question my way of thinking - broaden my horizons.

Looks fade away eventually. You might be a studmuffin at in your 20s/30s/40s, but eventually those looks fade away to grey hairs, wrinkles and flabby bits.
Give me a man with substance any day lol.

Money, I don't care about. I've never been surrounded by money, so I don't see what the big fuss is to be honest. I'd rather have a poor man who has a good work ethic, than a rich one who gets things handed to them on a silver platter ya know?

It's whats inside that matters to me. Someone that shows and has respect for everyone (and everything), has an open mind, a sense of humour, can laugh at themselves and life, and has integrity. Having common ideals and interests is almost important, but it's also important that people have individuality as well.

Fail so far---

There-there! It's never too late to change IF YOU WANT TO. I stress that because I think it's a mistake for someone else to try to change you. Otherwise they might as well have chosen someone else at the start. But probably there is someone who will love you just the way you are & you'll be perfect for each other!

The qualities I look for?

Someone who can provide me with mental stimulation, is on the same wavelength as me (ie. warped), who accepts my way of thinking (oh yeah, my views are different alright!), is totally random, respects & supports my mission (to CHANGE the world).

Yeah thats all really. Money makes no difference either. "Love don't cost a thing".

Sam

OK Sam I'm intrigued. I've seen warped on here. Lets hear how warped. I like some alternative dialogue. lets see how far you can stretch us (The CS community)

Word of warning though Sam. We had a chap in the Forums a few months back who walked a different street who got savaged by the CS pack. Yet we have another who the pack accept like a senile uncle.

I would love to change the world. But not go forward go backwards.

Hi Mr DragonDog,

The way I see it, people either accept me or they don't. However I will still put posts on here anyway bacause I enjoy the diversity these conversations bring. Part of my job as an engineer is to be able to inter-culturally interact, meaning accept others views and ways they do things, but not to be conformed to them. I do not beleive there is a right or wrong answer, but an answer that could be the best one. I am mindful of how I react to others answers because I do not want to offend. I am a team player therefore it is of utmost importance that I maintain a good relationship with people. At the end of the day, a team that doesn't get along is unproductive.

Do you see where I am coming from?

Sam

Good question!!

I think it really depends on the stage of life your in and your personal experiences. Everyone's individual. The basics are obvious, like honesty, integrity, reliability, stuff we would like in any relationship, whether with friends or family.

I think attraction is something that happens and is not easily explained. I know my tastes have changed over time and what I want in a person has changed as well.

Sad to say but when I was younger, I was just happy if someone showed me interest. I've made so many poor choices but I've learnt that it's best to take your time and get to know someone as a friend before jumping into anything.

Don't try hard to make people like you or try and fit into other people's expectations. When someone truly loves you they'll accept and appreciate who you are and support and encourage you to be the best you can be. We are all learning...

A team that does get along but is completely incompetant is even more unproductive

In the real world, things get done by people who can actually do them

Yes Sam i quite agree with rhetoric. Words spun by a good spin dr. But it doesn't show your warped. i was seeking the warped side of you. This just shows that your People skills and political skills ned little polishing.

Now please Sam this next bit is not a personal attack. just a little debating.

Reading between the lines of what you've written. Expanding on what bourbon wrote.

As you write, there is no right or wrong answer but there is a way that satisfies more people. So this is considered the most correct way to do things. But it is rarely explained to the group like that. Instead they say it in the first person implying it is my way or the Highway.

But as stated by Bourbon, just getting a group to get on with each other does not make a group a productive group.

And someone who is mindful of how they react with others is said by others to be Wishy Washy. As they watch that one Flip and flop trying to satisfy all.

It is important to note; In these sorts of HR statements they fail to recognise the individual. Yet it is the individual who will make or break a team.
The Hero is always the individual who stepped outside the team for the good of themselves and the team. Every team needs a leader and a good leader is rarely a good team player. They inspire and lead by example, not merge and try and be everyones friend.

Aas an after thought. I will also say the villan is also someone who stepped outside the team and selfishly stuffed it up for everyone.
It's a very fine line between Hero and villan.

Thanks in advance though Sam, To allow a bit of debate in the Forum.

Very good!

well to me it is whats on the insdie that counts would you go out with a guy or girl that where nasty andcheated on you plus the world is to blame everywhere it is pushed onto us that you must look like a super model books mag tv movies everything.

where we should be teaching and saying that everyone on in this world is equal no matter what colour,relgion,sex we are all human and should be equal

You all ready know good luck with your search dude