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Not all women are just as not all men are you just need to find a woman that suites you!!!!---by make the statment you have "all women" that in itself is judgemental---we arent all that way keep trying follow you instincts and things will be fine in the end!!

If you care to read what he actually wrote:



I don't see "all women" there, or anywhere else in his post.

A lot of men are the same. Its human nature I guess. Everyone wants what pleases them. Try being a single mum with young kids. Then you'll find out how shallow some men can be.

Not to be a jerk or anything, but why or how can anyone "expect" anyone else to be responsible for another's children.
Not saying that it doesn't happen and it doesn't work, but to call someone shallow because they aren't willing or can't accept it isn't fair either.

Simply because I don't expect them to be responsible for my kids. I meet guys when my kids are with their dad, they don't even need to see them, just the thought sends them screaming. Or at least has a few times. I don't think being attracted to some people and not others is shallow either, but that was the original premise of this thread. I'm just disappointed with one guy in particular, with whom I had a very strong mutal attraction who couldn't handle the very thought that I had children. He's never even met them.

Some dudes are cut out for it and some aren't. That's life its like a show bag full of shit in some cases..

Too true.

I'm usually a lot more afraid of the mother than the kids.

Kids don't bother me and I keep thinking I want some of my own but it's one of those things that you have to want in your life and be ready for, especially if it's a ready made family. Some aren't cut out to be Dads and some should never be allowed the option, but there are quite a few that are willing and accepting.

some are like that ...i have to say thats a good question but us blokes will never find out the real reason behind that ....

Just as us women will never find out the reason so many men are too. Except the old "its human nature" which seems to cover everything.

thats weird .... bourbs usually has something deep and insightful to say, but i suppose the people who get there first must've taken away his thunder ^_^ nyu ^_^

Rather than going into the sociologically conditions, the feminist anti-feminist movements, emancipation, political correctness, over political correctness and mob mentality , that led to the excess of materialistic preset mind condition in todays global capitalistic American 5 minute world, I'll instead offer meaningless "Dr.phil" feel good counseling:

Now Son, every body in todays world in different you need to "get real" and deal with any issues that arise when your on a date with a women rather than judging them and and making them judge you because of your psuedo hostility that there getting from you, you need to make an effort to get to know them. and once they see that your making an effort to know them then things can really kick it off.

That's because you haven't met me.

I think men are the same. Physical is the thing that catches the eyes, then the chemistry comes later. That's how things work. imagaine having to look at soemone you detaste the look even though he is tender and sweet. Close your eyes when you talk?

Tried closing my eyes with an ugly once during sex but when you open your eyes fark you get a fright.

How did he get into bed with me in the first place? No way!!

Hi Rumba
Hate to be the one to tell you this but it cuts both ways, some men are exactly the same.
Good luck

Both men and women can be like you described.

If you always attract one stereotype then ask yourself why. It is best to remain open-minded when meeting people. Try not to give out negative vibes because the opposite party can pick them up.

I have made some bad mistakes on first dates but I learned from them. I am still refining my communication skills.

I suppose your observations come from your past experience, have you noticed whether it is some particular age group/social class? It may not be relevant but worth a thought.

I assume its because of their childhood, if at the age of very early teens they got too many hormones (mainly through our western diet) will causes them to grow up to quickly and they miss a stage of development to adult.You can tell them by the way the will whine about a situation for ages like a young child would. It would also manifest its self in other behaviours also, I guess such as being shallow and judgemental.

Well.. it's all supply and demand, I guess.
Men are trying to entice women by telling of their riches and women are trying to entice men with their looks - because in most cases it works.

If men would stop advertising their wealth and would stop accepting women that are after their money only, than women would stop looking for those "qualities".

And if men would stop looking for good looking women and let them get away with murder if only they're good looking enough - than women might decide they need to work on more than just their looks to find a mate.

Of course there are exceptions to every rule - like not every person is a slave to the fashion, so is not every woman/man slave to the above "rules".

Some of us walk to the beat of a different drum.

I have been a single mum with a young child. And it was my conscious decision that I did not want to date at the time. Not because of the shallow men but because of my own shallowness, I suppose.

I just did not want to introduce a man into my son's life. No, that came out wrong. Working in the field that I do I have many male friends and they were all quite a good influence on my son as he was growing up.

But I did not want to introduce a step-dad to my son. That's better said. Because I wanted to protect him. At the time I was young and probably a bit over protective. But it was a decision I made and I stuck with it. Refused to date for 13 years. Of course I got out of practise, lol.

Do I regret it? Not at all. I loved the time we spent together or the fact that he still thinks his mum is invincible and can do it all. lol.

When he took a year off after high school, to go traveling in Europe, I decided that it might be time for me to date again. After few false starts, I found a guy, moved in with him... couple of years later was kicked out - because a clairvoyant told him I'm not his dream woman.

I could have laughed until I peed in my pants, if it wouldn't have been so damn ridiculous. Sure, there were other problems but...

So I took 'sabatical" from dating again. Had to get some self confidence back...

These days I'm happy to be on my own again. Don't need a man to look after me - but I wouldn't mind some companionship.

Going to find it here? Don't know. But it seems what I did find is some interesting people to chat with.

Gee You must have had a lot of bad luck or bad experience with women to make you so cynical.

I am (usually) nice to men on internet dating site. However I do get really angry if they persistently ignore my reply to say they are not what I am looking for. I had to block a few people because of that. I think respect for women's wishes is the key. What made my blood biol was that a certain man ( 13 years younger) emailed me and I replied with the standard" Your profile does not fit what I am looking for". He abused me with a return email and block me. That's totally uncalled for. It is a site where there should be no racism, no discrimation of age and sex. This man's reply clearly showed that he was a racist, an arrogant sod and precisely why I could see through his profile and picture that he would not be right for me.
We all have our preference ( for me it is a "hair" thing). So if there is no physical attraction in the first place, I would skip the profile moving on to the next.
Judging a book by its cover, or a man by his hair?
I will probably settle for a very romantic bald man who is prepared to pamper me all day and night.