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I was having a chat with the guys at work last night and they were lamenting my pathetic relationship status.
They believe that I should relax and let love find me but, well, my track record doesn't speak well for itself.
So, I thought i'd put it out there for the voices of wisdom....
is it better to go searching on the internet sites like we are shopping for shoes or should we just kick back, live our lives and not try, hoping that one special day true love will waltz on in???

L.M

Personally I think if you go looking to hard you will end up in a relationship for the sake of being in one, not for the right reasons.

I personally believe you should just let it happen as frustrating as it gets sometimes. Good luck

I don't know. All I know is you never know whats lying in wait around the corner for you.
But I do think you should look very long and hard at the prospective person you think you may fall in love with and check them out thoughrouly before committing.
But have fun trying

Voices of wisdom


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Oh thanks for the laugh.

Now with that out of the way.

I don't know. I personally feel its a bit of both. If you don't advertise no one knows your shopping. And by casually advertising a friend of a contact may make a suggestion to a contact of a contact who comes a knocking to say hello.

I walk down my main street and I look at this one and that one. But I don't approach. For unless they're in the market and shopping as well, your just being a prick a nuisance and some other things.

But if you try too hard you end up in the situation sxc mentioned. And you don't want to be there either.

Take for example a large factory. A hundred or so plus employees. You don't know everybody. They maybe on a different shift and you only pass occasionally at change over. but you hear from someone who heard from someone that she's recently widowed and looking around.
Hmmmmmmmmmmm I think I remember this scenario from the school yard.

So some advertising is advised. But don't grab the first one who applies just because your lonely and your thinking your sell by date may be just about up.

Good one ay.....

Must be Friday

My thoughts both. Because sometimes love don't always come to you so you have to find it. Or to some people love will find them. So it's a 50/50..

Tricky question!!
My advice?...search every nook and cranny...look high and look low....always be prepared to follow the rainbow, wherever that leads....but....and this is important!
Never go in search for Love! It has a habit of keeping one step ahead!
and it will come to YOU!....when you very least expect it!
In the meantime....you just have to relax and make friends and chat to whoever and.....keep following your leads and look deep within your own heart!!

All my friends ive known for 20 years or more soooo I know all their friends...HavnT met anyone theRE that floats my boat, so friends intros are out !
I work for myself so fellow workmates intros dont happen .
I know all the kids friends dads nothing their either ...
So unless I fall ova someone in coles & dont let him up till I get his number how the hell am I gonna meet someone ???
Ps concidered this seriously at one point Internet dating !!!Great way to meey a wide variety of people.
Searching for love sure ,might be tricky & maybe youll have to kiss 100 frogs before you find your prince but hey at least your dating !!!
Not staying home watching Tv !!!!
Ive met a nice man ,Lived within 25 kms of each other but have never crossed paths ,been seeing him for 6 weeks,early days yet but ,we click, its good but unless i went looking ide have never met him or him Me ....So I gotta say

SEARCH

S. I think when the time is right we choose to have a relationship, sometimes it works out for a period sometimes not. There always seems to be opportunities to be in one but whether we are making the choice out of our own needs is another story. Perhaps the internet gives us an insight into whats out there and people in similar situations, I personally don't expect much from it but then I suppose I wont be disappointed if nothing comes from it. You really have to look a little bit though, it certainly isn't gonna just jump up and slap you in the titties. I don't want to date anyone I work with, been there done that, big mistake.

It will find you

I feel very much like others in the way that we need to let the love just happen and not try too hard. But it is good to have ago at the internet, have contact with opposite sex and make some good friends with both sexes. And if love is meant to blossom it will............ :-)

If you want to find a partner, then you need to look!

Don't attack it like you were possessed of satan, but at the same time you need to put in some kind of effort.

I'm wondering if being single bothers you, or if it's your workmates giving you a hard time about it that bothers you.

Hey all,
I think my thread came across wrong... it was more a philosophical thought to ponder on than an individual request.


Bourbon, I miss being in a relationship for the main reasons of affection and the obvious sex but i enjoy being single. The guys at work weren't hassling(well sort of in a friendly big brother way), they were scoping me out cause one of the guys there is single(but only split from a marriage of 23yrs for 10 mths.)
They are telling me he's right in front of me and we're soooo well suited. Which we are. But he's not ready and I won't go there. And as Polanski said, he's a work mate = potentially messy!
But there were some interesting perspectives here.
I think that you do have to make it be known that you're available... but not just to anybody. And i can be kinda particular. In fact, an opportunity fell in front of me this morning on my way home.

Tell you about it in high's and low's

But for the main part, I did post my profile here as a way of putting myself out there but it's the forums and the potential friends on here that are way more interesting.

L.M

Kizz,
I think it's great you met someone...way to go girl.
I have a few friends who've hooked up with then married people they've met on dating sites. It's a great way to meet someone and get to know them without the physical getting in the way.

Hope it continues to go well.

L.M

state what worked for you when you find that love? I've never looked for it might be why I still haven't found it but then maybe I have.

i believe that in time, if love is meant to find us then it will. things will happen if they are meant to be.[color=fuchsia]

i think that if love is meant to find us then it will come in time. if it is meant to be then there is no need to look for it.

hi!

i definitely think it should be a little of both. Start with just relaxing and letting love find you and if you think its taking too long, go out there and find it.

But you know, really, the more you think about not being able to find that elusive someone, the more it will stress you out. you can look but not be bothered by it too much...by not thinking too much about it too.

say, it's kind of like waiting for a cab, the more you look at your watch and think that you might be running late for an appointment, the more agitated you'll get but when you just try to relax and watch the people in the busy streets, you'll realize the cab's there infront of you and you have more than enough time to spare...it's not a very good example but i guess what i'm saying is, keep your mind free and focus on other things because as all of us closet romantics would say, love will come my way.

imo

I have 'agonised ' over this claim ----for years! I think it is a bit of both. Sometimes, love just does 'waltz on in' ---- but very rarely. Hence,I am a strong believer in that "nothing will happen" sitting on your deriere watching silly,'make believe' television shows or being a couch potato.You have to go out and show the world that you have something to offer something to someone who is in the same position as yourself. I hate using cliches... but life is hard and it can be very, very, lonely. Thus, I will try almost anything to find what I am looking for, and that is LOVE, because I DO believe in myself, in that I am a good guy who deserves the best!!! Today, the Internet is the new medium of finding love. I hear of other people finding and establishing meaningful, long lasting relationships, so....why can't I ??? !!!I hope these comments help.
Best wishes,
EmileAli