kizzy, I am woman like to be treated right and I agree with you BUT, guys are not mind reader and from what I have read in the chats must be confusing for them, they all have the inbuilt animal instinct mating, sex.
and if you talk smutty between girlfriends what sort of messages are you sending out to them. I don't know if "I am married looking for a turn on and an icon spitting out whatever" was a quote from something sent or just a bit of what everyone calls fun chat, but whether its directed from female friend to female friend, these guys are going to read it and take it as a message to get dirty with you unwanted or not. Maybe I am wrong, but I don't think so, if you don't want skanky messages then advise all female chatters, don't get skanky in the chat room. It doesn't get the nice guys, it encourages the creepy ones.
.........Molly............