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dito

I always thought it was the other way around, so...

It's a niche question.

Yes, of course there are many more single mothers out there than single fathers. I can only presume that it is harder when you have to 'sell' the 'package deal' to a prospective new boyfriend. But there are men who want to know the answer to this question, like me.

Only last month I had someone new at my work show interest in me but back off once I said my weekend was spent with three kids.

That's fair enough too, because for the foreseeable future I have a long term commitment for a lot of my spare time and money. I can't just piss money up the wall on an exotic romantic holiday like a non parent, because there's always something better I could be doing with it.

Not to mention a toxic ex, which no matter what, I will still have to deal with for a long time yet. Sometimes it a bit much to expect from someone new, especially if they are not a parent.

Yep some of us with the Y chromosome are in the same shoes.

Cheers

very true and the toxic ex's are very draining of your energy at times too, especially over a long period of time.

it will take a patient and understanding person to tolerate those situations.

bol

if a girl wont accept your children then she's not the one for you. they are part of your life whether they live with you or not, im in the same boat myself, but there are girls out there that can appreciate the fact that you arent just that cold you can switch off an old part of your life to start a new one, dont be discouraged there are some nice girls out there.

pauljb72: if a girl wont accept your children then she's not the one for you. they are part of your life whether they live with you or not, im in the same boat myself, but there are girls out there that can appreciate the fact that you arent just that cold you can switch off an old part of your life to start a new one, dont be discouraged there are some nice girls out there.

Hi Paul Agree with you 100%.

really dunno bout this one im sure each lady without kids has different opinions id never give up my little girl for anyone shes part of me and will always be guess single mums are on the same level so it may be easier but again every case is different

ploughingstar: really dunno bout this one im sure each lady without kids has different opinions id never give up my little girl for anyone shes part of me and will always be guess single mums are on the same level so it may be easier but again every case is different

I know I haven't been at this internet dating thing for long yet, but there aren't too many guys interested in a girl with four kids

i think it takes someone that has children to appreciate the fact that you have too, its something most people wanna do at least once in their life, so a girl that doesn't have any you might wanna rule out of your hunting ground just to save heartache, its rare to find a girl that knows she doesnt want them unless she's in her 60's hehe.its all personal choise some people are good with kids some are'nt what can ya do? its hard to move into a childs life when you arent one of the parents.

I have 2 say, if a woman is like that then your better off without her!
Your children and u deserve better... Good luck in your search. x

Spoken like someone with children.

For those of us who do not have children, we see the world from a different perspective... Why should we be burdened by your children? And yes, they are a burden. We have the freedom to do what we want, when we want... without having to take children into consideration.

It's the same whether it's a man or a woman without kids. We have a lifestyle and if we wanted to throw that away for children, we would have had our own... we certainly don't need yours.

Now where things get really tricky is when a woman with kids meets a man with kids... that rarely works because the man wants the best for 'his' kids and the woman wants the best for 'her' kids. Some will dispute this, but it is a reality.

Now where things get really tricky is when a woman with kids meets a man with kids... that rarely works because the man wants the best for 'his' kids and the woman wants the best for 'her' kids. Some will dispute this, but it is a reality.



A while ago I was in this situation It wasnt because of wanting the best for our own that farked it ..Itwas we were both so dayum busy him with his me with mine , both workin well seein each other was just about impossible not to mention being alone anyway.I am a full time mum I am looking to date a manwho either a]has no kids or B} has kids but they dont live with him C} Has kids that live with him but is so farkin rich he can hire stax of help.
Kizzy

You've left your options open... I can't understand why you're still single.

I know farkin bizare hey !! !
Although the fact that I am enjoying the dating various men so much may have something to do with the settling for any of them seems rather unappealing to me right now ....

Have I become a serial dater????
perhaps...

Why does that sound almost criminal?

or do what I do.. and don't date ... makes life so much easier

Does that mean you're cancelling our date?

you haven't made one for me to cancel silly

Well... I just happen to have an opening

and you'd like bourbon to fill it