sxc666: What does when you're not there mean?
OK - I think what I'm trying to say with that remark is, for whatever reason or reasons people or persons fall for you, it is because of how they think of you and about you - it's their own thought processes.
Admittedly, these thought processes or whatever you want to call them are triggered by, or legacy of, stuff you've done, things you've said, how you've been, how you look, etc. etc., but those thouhgts and processes are more active or intense or whatever when you're not there.
When you're with someone, you don't really think about them because you're with them - you do think about them, though, when they're not there.