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Had more to say too you but there you are in the bar again typical ''' .

awwwwww martia i was floatin' between the bar and other threads, you could say anything ya want, or you could have come to the bar too, i'd have shouted you a few

Hi I did read what you said and I understand where you are coming from.You just have to follow your heart it will tell you when and if you are ready to find someone.We have all been badly hurt one way or another and it takes time for the scars to heal.This forum is great and its the people on here that make it that way.
Lots of people pop in and out of this forum but on this site there is a strong core group who give each other support and dare I say love. Us humans fall in and out of lust all the time.But true friendship is forever.

Growing old is mandatory.
Growing up is optional!

Trying to change to to fit yourself into someone else's image of what you should be is an exercise in futility. Did it for 10 years 'til I became someone that my old friends and family didn't recognise but it didn't work.

No matter your age there is never enough singles in your age group handy. Though I have seen some stats that suggest there are a lot more single women over 50 than men. Though that could be singles actively looking for a partner only, not sure.
I do know that on average women do live quite a few years longer than men but I wouldn't expect that to be a major reason for a lack of blokes at your age (maybe in 20 years).
My ex father-in-law was single for 20 odd years before he remarried so there is always hope (thank goodness)
The only thing I can suggest is to stop looking for a partner and instead look for friends.
I have seen a number of people who present a very different persona when they are "looking for a match" often unconsciously but it can be seen as a falseness by others. When they "give up looking" they finally show their real self and end up caught in fairly short order. I think the best relationships are those that develop from a good foundation of friendship first.
I am wary of rushing into a relationship too soon as a friendship is something to be valued and it is much easier to go from friends to lovers than to go from lovers to friends.
Better to find out what the "real men" (as in not artificial not the self aggrandising 'macho' men) in your target age group are doing and join in just for the fun of it if you then meet someone then well and good, if not at least you are doing something you could enjoy.



p.s. I also knit but never got the hang of a crochet hook, maybe I should join a crochet club?? Mmmmm

Don't beat yourself up, Martia - perhaps it's just that you haven't yet run across anyone worthy of you.

The same idea in here

It is easy once you really really want it and can define exactly what it is you want .. the mind is a very powerful thing.. and we all have the ability to manifest what we desire once we truly decide that is what we want

cool. i want a beautiful blonde nympho that that neve winges is reasonably low maintence, is loyal, loving, n generally just a pleasure to be with

actually that may be asking a little 2 much. let me revise that ok realistically she doesn't have to be blonde

good move ........ trust me man , blondes ae trouble

pssst. just between me n u i think it is just females in general

now there's a thought , you may just be onto something there

Knitting is fun.

Hi Martia,great post a little bit of honest sincerity,most of the men and some of the women won,t know what that is.There are many ways to approach the situation here and one is assertive training,women of your age do sometimes attend assertive courses to get them in the drivers seat and this is usualy the best way to handle a man,even tho they allways want to drive!Men are terribly disorganised,so all you have to do is organise one!they have been mothered all their lives first by their mother then the mother replacement girlfriend who was allso silly enough to pick up after him!The problem exists for men to and mainly the problem is that we are dealing with children.The average person is a child never got out of their child and will probably remain in their child till they die.They find a mother for life and if all turns to custard there is allways the great father in the sky!???To grow up you first of all need to face your own mortality,you are not going to heaven you will not live forever!we get one shot at this thing called life,what will society remember you for?????

ok i may have agreed with you on the god thing ....... but you got no hope of me backing this one up lol

the best way to drive me AWAY is to get assertive and pushy.

how sad that today's women is still believing that men don't grow up well we do at least men don't care about looks how much money a lady makes as long they have a job and to find a women your own age is slowly becoming well unbeliveable

I beg your pardon it is clearly obvious that you have not been in a relationship with a normal male.Looks are the first thing on their agenda just put that to a few of our handsome males on here I am sure they will soon put you right.
For guys that have no confidence in themselves maybe'' but even those men can look Ok if they dress in trendy clothes get a good haircut and taking about a dozen pic's of yourself or much better than that get someone else to take them.

Its no good getting the poor me's with a photo up that looks like a serial killer, stand back and smile then see what happens.

Martia

always a treat waiting to see what your going to say next lovely lady

Really so what's your alternative the bloke next door

Molly where you been hiding .. have missed you