Hello_you: Hey everyone, I been away for a long time and recently returned to say hi. I've notice an increase in anstiness scince I was last here.
And I've just been reading the "rules" whaich are obviously not followed at all and not policed, as evry thread that I've meandered my way through is full of obvious breaches. I agree to an extent on this point, however I think a lot of people need to realise this is a free site, and a good one at that. The mods surely cannot be expected to babysit adults.
Now, as far as I'm concerned, to a degree, a forum or chat room is created by it's paticipants and they kinda own it more than the site creater - to a degree. This is a very good point, sometimes what we should ignore, we accelerate by replying. Keeping in mind though, no-one runs these forums, it is an open forums that should be welcoming new people, we are not all going to agree, but as adults we should respect we don't agree and move on. I have seen some members that resemble school yard bullies, and its just not nice.
Anyways, my question to you all is; do you want to have a forum that is full of nastiness (to the degree this one is) or would you rather it was more civil and pleasnter place? Of course I think the majority of people come here to unwind, not get wound up. Ive seen people open threads seeking advice, and they have been torn up for it, remembering again that this is an open forum and people are able to speak on any topic they wish, If you don't like it, you don't have to reply move onto another thread. I think a lot when you are new also, you haven't got to know the individual regulars character, and sometimes it can come across harsh, but I don't think a lot of it is intentional. I have seen constantly people whining about being ignored..........what are we 5? if you feel you are being ignored don't stop posting it may just be that other threads interest us more, or we don't actually think a reply is necessary,or we simply don't have anything in common with the reply. And last but not least, we don't feel it warrants a reply
Now, don't getr me wrong I'm not saying you should or shouldn't be one way or the other. I just want to know a lot of peoples opinion.
Now there's reasons to have it one way and reasons to have it the other. I'm just asking for personal preferance.
These are just some of the things I feel. My pet hate I must say is people that post and act like they know you so well, when they haven't been here long and lecture about the way things should be done. Get to know me/us before you make heavy comments.
And the flat out trouble makers who enter the threads,what they get out of it I truly don't know.
In the real world not everyone is going to get along, in my opinion it is the same here.
But flat out attaching people because you are a sad insecure person, is pathetic.
The forums can be a great place, but I believe we need a variety of people to make them even greater.
