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I think that varies depending on the individual, male or female. What I want as a woman can differ greatly from any other woman. Yes we are complicated creatures but once you find who embodies what you want, you will know. Good luck in your search!

Ta Good point!

I dont think anyone really knows exactly what they want I do believe however we know exactly what we need , as Ralf said that is as individual as we are .
Too many women & men have a preconcieved ideal

Getting to know someone & if they indeed have the qualities we desire & require takes time .



Time is a scarce comodity these days
I think here lies the problem

i believe they do. The key is listening to what she is saying, asking, requesting, talking about. Not just nodding and going "yes dear".


We tend to be over emotional but that has a lot to do with not being listened to. What a woman says and feels can be two different things

Yes dear..

I think that this is not a gender specific question. Its more about that people know when they've found 'it' .. the 'one'.

As others said, it all takes time to get to know someone. The sparks can be there.. that first attraction, the interest. But only time will reveal if 'it' will work. I agree that everyone seems to want to rush, not take the time to get to know someone. The McDonalds drivethru relationship. Shoot in .. pick what ya want .. and off ya go ..

I believe too that qualities one finds attractive change not only as one matures but also as life throws curve balls into the mix.

I think that if there is a simple answer ..it would be this ......

its about finally meeting the person whos imperfections make them perfect in your eyes.

yes sxc666 thats right. i think sorry i wasn't paying attention can u run it by me again

well i for 1 dont actually know what i want but i do know what i dont want.
there are times when i go gee thats what i want but when you get it, its not actually fulfilling in the way i imagined.

sorry i am not very helpful

try pleasing your own likes and see where it takes you is the only advise i have

cheers and good luck

i hope i'm perfectly imperfest then

We are not mind readers, we dont know what a females wants all the time, and when we slip up, man, its all our fault... what a women wants, and what a women needs, are two different things, females want everything, males on the other hand, are happy in getting some of the things, we except, we cant have everything, so maybe females should learn to be a little more patience, if us meer males cant quiet get it all together all the time for the meer females...

thats the trouble with today relationships, its one sided, more for the females, and if we fail, thats fine, there are always a dozen more males to ya place,,,, next... the balance has gone....and who cares if i offend females, they know its bloody true....

and did i read all comments in this forum, "yes dear" i did.....

WOOOOOHOOOOOO .. vent it out baby i mean maybe

but yes you are correct

Hi maybe Thanks

NO don't put us all that one boat, we are individuals just like men are, but its just frustrating trying to find that one grain of sand on the beach that is our match.

I think that is a bunch of bullshit to be honest.

I think the trouble with a lot of males is its easier to say she was a 'bitch' or she was this or that. Than actually look at what happened and what went wrong, and take some of the blame, learn from it and move on.


IF you meer males can't get it together, then you need to start learning and not put it all on the womans shoulders.

I rest my case

i was not agreeing for the rest of us women .. i was only agreeing to my experience and knowledge

Im tellling you from a male's point of view, your's is a females point of view, either way, this is what we get from the females, as im not in the habit of decussing my hassles with females, about relationships, i can only go by what i hear....

i believe you females should learn how to talk things out, instead of assuming we meer males know what you lot are thinking about...

who the hell wants to be the same as everyone esle... thats what makes a relationship, its two different people here, if you want someone that can read ya mind, marry a clone!!! problem solved!!!

sorry kiwi I was really answering maybe sorry just clicked on you I always do that, have to be more careful.