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he has a great point .... words are cheap and they can say anything ... actions are so much better at showing what's in a persons heart..

Your mate must be a sad character! Doesn't he want to hold hands with a woman? Be able to tell her he loves her? Doesn't he want a relationship in which two people exchange deepest dark secrets?

Or is it enough to be successful with plural women...?

Naturally in the end actions are what matters, but a refusal to say sweet n yummy stuff amounts to emotional anorexia!

Sorry you're leaving, BTW, Elley... best of luck! xx

Ok please ditch any prejudices... all my boyfriends held my hand even as we were middle aged. It's a bonding gesture, wonderful. Here's a moral story (well maybe not moral but anyway...):
A lady asks her husband since 30 years why he never tells her she loves her. He says, "what, I told you I love you when I married you! And I can assure you that if that ever changes you'll be the first to know!"

Obviously you ignored your mate's advice and hence you are in deep doo doo as normal.

There is absolutely no need to bare your soul and deepest secrets to a woman just because you want to get your leg over and feel guilty about it!

Tell her the truth.

Tell her the truth but there is absolutely ZERO need to hell her your whole life story before you fumble with her naughty bits.

Look at it the other way - do YOU want her to tell you every sorid detail of her life before you make it even more sad and sordid?

Think about it.

We are nolonger innocent virgins.

Grow up.

A man has no need to tell his life story to a woman and vice versa........... the past is mostly dead - thank God!

Good evening, Elley,

I could tell a man how much I feel about him a whole lot more in actions than with words. I agree with your mate, in a way; but it takes one with your own wavelength to understand that. Nevertheless, if one's partner want to be reassured by hearing it, words will never go amiss. It's still an act of kindness, don't you think?

I think with true love, there is no limit to what you can do to please each other. And you won't mind it a bit.

Regarding telling your darkest secrets, if it will make you feel better, why not? We keep things to ourselves thinking it is so awful for others to hear, but more often than that, it is just in our minds. If a person really loves you, she'll accept you just as you are, including your past -- no matter how sordid it may be.

I loved to see my dad holding my mum's hand after they had been married 63 years - not immature at all!

taking care is part of love, isnt it? show her, tell her... but not too much or she will get bored

you could apply that to a prostitute !
but you aint gonna take her home and treasure her ?
what a load of cobblers.......
he sounds like a shag-shit not a romantic decent guy
ask a few women what they think
but you better stand back ???

my God! guys... Elley dear,
what does it take to be romantic and to tell and show a person you really care... does that make you less cool? if there's real love and understanding, there are no more blind corners nor dark secrets, cause all has no such importance anymore... you love eachother for who u are... we all did some stupid stuff way back and it's part of the past. Open up men, and sure won't be so hard to get and keep ladies at your side.