On Being Friends

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BOBANBOBAN Pozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia
Tulefel: On being friends…

Have tried to answer that few times, and never could fulfill the task… People who contact me via mail and IM here take up this subject rather often. And that always makes my brain gear into stupor: I just don’t know what they are talking about. There were days when I asked to define what they mean with “being friends”, don’t do that anymore. He says “being friends”, I kill the conversation.

For me a friendship has to survive “war, love and poverty” (stolen from O. Henry).

If there’ll be a war, and we find ourselves on different side of the frontier, will you remain my friend?

If I fall in love, and he leaves me, and I’m devastated of grief and impossible to deal with, will you remain my friend?

If I’m so poor (no money, no home, no clothes, no food, no nothing) that it’d be embarrassing for the most people to admit the acquaintance with me, will you remain my friend?

And if the answer on any of these questions is “no”, then we are not friends. Have never been, will never be. In my terms. And I have no idea what “being friends” means in this hood…




You know it... i know it..........friends are not perfect


we are not perfect...........bouquet
Tulefel Göteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden
BOBANBOBAN: You know it... i know it..........friends are not perfectwe are not perfect...........



Who are “we”? Are you talking about yourself in plural?grin



I am perfect by every rate… blushing




bouquet



BOBANBOBAN Pozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia
Tulefel: Who are “we”? Are you talking about yourself in plural?
I am perfect by every rate…


on a scale from 1 to 10...your a 11...wink


can we get married now???bouquet
Tulefel Göteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden
BOBANBOBAN: on a scale from 1 to 10...your a 11... can we get married now???




Well… I’ve been asked before… but I can’t say “no” to such an attractive man…blushing

Yes, I will…

…but only once and very fast.

My place, your precautions

giggle



Lagoona22 Bugibba, Majjistral Malta
I'm so happy for both of you. I think you'll make a really hot horny pair. May I be the first to congratulate you??....CS is breaking out in weddings tonight!!...banana cheering

Tulefel: Well… I’ve been asked before… but I can’t say “no” to such an attractive man…

Yes, I will…

…but only once and very fast.

My place, your precautions
Tulefel Göteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden
Lagoona22: I'm so happy for both of you. I think you'll make a really hot horny pair. May I be the first to congratulate you??....CS is breaking out in weddings tonight!!...



What means “horny”?



Lagoona22 Bugibba, Majjistral Malta
Horny means wicked....like the devil's horns, ya know?....blushing angel

>>>>>>>>devil

Tulefel: What means “horny”?
Tulefel Göteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden
Lagoona22: Horny means wicked....like the devil's horns, ya know?....

>>>>>>>>



Well… everybody cannot be that straight as you. But are you sure you want an invitation to a two wicked people’s wedding… You being so perfect and all such… what will you do there, if I may ask?



Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria
Amaryllis: No, you are not being off centre, Sommer. I understand very well what you are saying. I really do care about all of you, the friends I've made in EU Forums and I do enjoy being here with you guys.

Should 'the one' for me come from here just like you with your man, I will still be here as I'm sure he would understand just like how the Captain understands your presence here. But whether the one for me should come from here or somewhere else and he would mind my being here, I will give his wishes more consideration than my desire to be with my friends here. It is a matter of priority. I believe that when I am in relationship with someone, I should put that relationship first than anything else.

Nobody is indispensable, Sommer. There will always be other people who will be happy to fill in other people's shoes. When one leaves, there will be others to replace her or him.. and the forums will go on as usual .. the other person eventually forgotten.
I see what you are saying Ama. And of course no person is indispensable, if we all dropped off we would be forgotten and the place would survive. I certainly remain here for the people, and if HE asked me to choose, which I know he never would, and me being here hurt him, then I would take that into consideration. There are certainly many ways a person can stay in touch with their friends, I can and I never really miss those that mean alot to me from here, because I can be in touch with them in other ways. I do miss Elley and Flower and Nina, who was one of the first people to welcome me here, 18 months ago, the rest I am in touch with privately. Oslo is one, although I am in touch with her, I do miss her jokes and her picture threads and her smartness. Daft I know and there is one person that I miss deeply.

I suppose I am feeling a bit down today, I can't shake it off for some reason. And during my dark and bleak days, the people here got me through and I do miss them. Completely silly. But I just cannot help it!



Lagoona22 Bugibba, Majjistral Malta
I will marry you....I did the priesthood at online college. I come from South Africa. We have an old Zulu tradition which says the priest sleeps with the bride to sanctify the union, but I suppose that would be pushing it a bit....angel

Tulefel: Well… everybody cannot be that straight as you. But are you sure you want an invitation to a two wicked people’s wedding… You being so perfect and all such… what will you do there, if I may ask?



Lagoona22 Bugibba, Majjistral Malta
Oh....hug for Princess...here...>>>>>>hug kiss

Sommerauer71:
I suppose I am feeling a bit down today, I can't shake it off for some reason. And during my dark and bleak days, the people here got me through and I do miss them. Completely silly. But I just cannot help it!
smoky Unterland, Zrich Switzerland
Lagoona22: I will marry you....I did the priesthood at online college. I come from South Africa. We have an old Zulu tradition which says the priest sleeps with the bride to sanctify the union, but I suppose that would be pushing it a bit....
Hoi, you forgot to mention to her the part where she first has to produce a tribe of children to prove her fertility? .. and then the actual wedding comes in about 20yrs time when you saved up enough money to invite the entire town and all their relatives to the celebration? - inbetween the times she must just acknowledge, by being permanently pregnant, that she is Betrothed to you.cheers
Tulefel Göteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden
Lagoona22: I will marry you....I did the priesthood at online college. I come from South Africa. We have an old Zulu tradition which says the priest sleeps with the bride to sanctify the union, but I suppose that would be pushing it a bit....



Well… My Zulu-pope, first I’d like to know what the fiancé-to-be has to say about the subject when you ask him face to face. If you’ll survive the answer…

Good luck!



Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria
Lagoona22: Oh....hug for Princess...here...>>>>>>
Thanks Dad, Granma is gonna sort me out... I am actually smiling though, because I remember when I first came, back in Jan 08 and people welcomed me and I did think 'I cannot do this, it is all banal drivel' then I came back months later and did another thread and you, you horrid man called me Victorian Ice Princess! Always makes me smile...



Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria
Tulefel: Well… My Zulu-pope, first I’d like to know what the fiancé-to-be has to say about the subject when you ask him face to face. If you’ll survive the answer…

Good luck!
You are the best Tulefel. Tulefel, folks gave me a special coin ya know. When we met in the city and we got through a bottle of wine man cigarettes in what? An hour? I showed it to Captain and he asked me where I got it from.
Tulefel Göteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden
Sommerauer71: You are the best Tulefel. Tulefel, folks gave me a special coin ya know. When we met in the city and we got through a bottle of wine man cigarettes in what? An hour? I showed it to Captain and he asked me where I got it from.




A year ago I’ve come to Göteborg for the first time, they at my present job, have given me 4 weeks to show what I can. I fell in love with the place from the first sight and didn’t want to leave… I went to a quay and threw a coin into water before I left… and they phoned a week after and told me that I’ll be employed.

I don’t know, you may laugh, but I believe that the coin made its little bit in providing some luck… I’m superstitious…

When I see here couples announcing their unification, I get scary… so many disappointments, lies, disasters make one hard even inside… And suddenly this coarsen soul gets feelings and they are answered… it’s so fragile, the slightest puff of breeze, one careless word can destroy it… It’s ridiculous but I get a desire to protect, to help somehow…

I wish you good luck, I mean it.

rose



Sommerauer71 Salzburg, Salzburg Austria
Tulefel: A year ago I’ve come to Göteborg for the first time, they at my present job, have given me 4 weeks to show what I can. I fell in love with the place from the first sight and didn’t want to leave… I went to a quay and threw a coin into water before I left… and they phoned a week after and told me that I’ll be employed.

I don’t know, you may laugh, but I believe that the coin made its little bit in providing some luck… I’m superstitious…

When I see here couples announcing their unification, I get scary… so many disappointments, lies, disasters make one hard even inside… And suddenly this coarsen soul gets feelings and they are answered… it’s so fragile, the slightest puff of breeze, one careless word can destroy it… It’s ridiculous but I get a desire to protect, to help somehow…

I wish you good luck, I mean it.
The quay is beautiful isn't it? We were there on Friday!

I would never laugh at you, but I will smile at you. Yes there are so many lies with couples here, but I know it was fleeting, Captain and I have been in this for eight months now and I guess we are what you would call a success story. Although many would love to see it fail. Just to have some grubby gossip.

Tulefel, I could sense that in you. Your desire to protect, like when I was picking my lip. Straight away you suggested a therapy for me.

I have to say, I was very touched when you handed me the coin. it goes in my safe box, along with the angel pendant minus the chain, my granny gave me as she passed away.

You are a wonderful lady, one that touched my soul, very much so...



BOBANBOBAN Pozarevac City, Central Serbia Serbia
Tulefel: Well… I’ve been asked before… but I can’t say “no” to such an attractive man…

Yes, I will…

…but only once and very fast.

My place, your precautions


OMG....i was out for two houers and now i have a new , future to be wife

(what do you mine only once and verry fast)....grin

my precations???...like watch left and right before you cross the streat???

(ok .. am a smartass)uh oh
Tulefel Göteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden
BOBANBOBAN: OMG....i was out for two houers and now i have a new , future to be wife

(what do you mine only once and verry fast)....

my precations???...like watch left and right before you cross the streat???

(ok .. am a smartass)




A woman said “Yes” to you and you ask questions? For me it looks like you are retreating… Have regretted your proposal? tongue



Fine!devil



Thank you for shown attention and good luck with someone else

sad flower



Lagoona22 Bugibba, Majjistral Malta
I think you guys make wonderful friends...can we quickly kiss and make up??....we need as many weddings as we can get here....

uh oh

Tulefel: A woman said “Yes” to you and you ask questions? For me it looks like you are retreating… Have regretted your proposal?
Fine!
Thank you for shown attention and good luck with someone else




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