john1903: am i ugly?
Just before replying to this, I was about to post a thread asking for the option of "seeking both men and women" in the profile. (As I am SEEKING neither but reply to all)
But doing that, and THEN answering your Q, would seem a little...
So I don't.
You are in NZ for GS... Women there are like women in Sweden, they don't date, they just make up their mind. Most often before we even arrived, by some unknown mathematics.
It's not your look, it's not even your attitude. It's pure luck.
So, loads of luck to you!