explorador: I know the rules how a good girl should do, I read it here, you suppose to go slowly, write loads to each other, talk on the phone, send messages, go to dinner dates and meet each other’s friends and family. I have neither patience nor interest for following those rules whatsoever anymore. I was a "good girl" all my life and I am tired of it and I am certainly not looking for a husband ever again.
I live in a remote place. A guy has to go long and difficult way to visit me here, he has to be sober and motivated. When we both hope on a relationship and have sex on our first meeting, do you call it casual sex?
My idea of casual sex was when people are drunk and don’t know what they do, meet in some night club and have a one night stand.
One shouldn`t be defensive about what one chooses to do. You live your life as best as you know how - sod what other people think of it - you pay your own way...and the one who pays gets the choice.
Casual sex? Ja, just like it says - casual - not serious.
How, why, and whichever way you choose to do is your private business.
When you make it a public issue and ask opinions, then you gonna get opinions - diverse ones, some you wont agree with, and others you like that re-inforce your own mindset.
But, is not a good idea to put labels on those who don`t think like you do. Take what works for you, and discard what doesn`t.
Good luck in your search. I hope a gorgeous hunk of he-man arrives and sweeps you off your feet!
