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Elley - you're a good guy; believe it or not I'm a good guy too!

There is NO need to live in the past....... we can have regrets but we have also learned things too which equip us for both the present and the future.

You have VERY deep issues. You probably need some help to overcome them, but then your present and future can both be better than anything in the past when you were in the bubble of unreality.

What the fuck is wrong with reality? Can't you be both in tune with the truth and also be happy? Is a false bed of roses better than a bunch of lilies with thorns attached? Does the angle of your erection have a direct relationship with your mental wellbeing?

Think things out.

The truth maybe hurts, but living a lie hurts more.

Forgive yourself. Forgive the assholes who hurt you - both women and maybe even some men if they diddled you in some way in business or friendship or whatever.

Feel the joy of being both alive and better informed about your own emotional being than when you were younger and in love and believed shit that just wasn't true!

You're a good man. Live life NOW and also feel a sense of excitement about what tomorrow will bring you.

The past is dead............. carpe diem!

Hey Rob,thanks,I,m getting there,thanks to lots of folks in my life and not a few here too,present company included.

Nil carborundum

Tis true,one foot in the bubble an one in the mud sounds good to me.

Hey, for once Roberto is talking realy good sense!!!

Imagine ..... would your life be better?..... if you`d lost your legs?,... or your arms?.......or were trapped inside a helpless body...? NEIN fellow ..... you got EVERYTHING you need to have a good life now!

Once upon a time .... a surfer guy (son of a preacher man) in SA, said to me he believes that God enjoys enjoying LIFE thru us .... so when he surfs, and catches real good waves ..... God is enjoying him/herself just as much as the surfer is! Cant be much fun having created all this and not have a body to enjoy it with...? ... so thats why He/She created people..... ha ha haaaaa

I going back to bed now, to nurse my `flu ... me and God got `flu.

Does God love wearing fluorescent pink trousers?



Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

Wise words Rob,and flattered you took the time to write them for me.I,ll take what I can from them.Tis true I got some very deep issues an Iza workin on em every day.

I am going to address those issues right here an now,if I may,in my own way....

Dear deep issues,

Please fuck off an give me some peace,let me live a little (this feels a little like Primal Scream Therapy,well,a sort of slightly subdued version ). I wanna live,I wanna have fun,I wanna have peace of mind, I wanna shackamatack with some lovely young(ish)nubile nymphette....er the rest is kinda private,ok.

(Aaaaaahhhhhhggggggggg................)

What´s living in a bubble? Feeling protected and cosseted? If so, that stops for most people when they reach adulthood and start fending for themselves doesn´t it? You´re lucky if you stayed inside your bubble until 40!

We encourage our young to burst their bubbles, be independent, (well not so much here in Spain) and go out into the big bad world.

That´s a good thing I believe.

Remember that old tv programme The Prisoner?

If things are going well, it's easy to coast through life. It's only when we hit problems that we realise this is the real world. Most people don't even get the experience of everything in the garden is rosy, for some, life is one long struggle.

Be thankful for the good times and learn from the bad. I'm not the same person I was 30 years ago, nor would I want to be. My life experiences have made me the person I am and I realise you have to love and respect yourself before you expect anyome else to.

Perhaps you think too much?

Either about the past, or about the future?

Stop thinking so much, and you will be more in the NOW. JMO

Peace comes if we allow it to be there.

It's not easy.

I feel huge resentment right now.......... this instant!

I had a session of emotional freedom therapy this morning but I still feel huge anger, but most of the time I'm happy at least on the surface.

Elley is a good guy, but he harps on the past like a broken record; I did so for several months and then got 90+% cured - maybe I'm just a lucky bastard!

I think that once the bubble is burst that it is impossible to go back. Reality is something you deal with.
Stay fit in body and mind and enjoy the little things like being fascinated by ants protecting aphids on a plant (I did that one summers day for about an hour it was amazing)

Ah, EFT. Great to hear that, Robert.

Keep tapping, you will get there. Maybe tap on the resentment?

Do you also you it for yourself? The EFT I mean

You can download the entire manual off the official EFT site.

Good advice, woofy.

Sure thing!

Some theme music.....



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nj8GJ6rM1mA

Ahh... reminds me of them there good old days at the ice rink...

I think I may have been a little misunderstood here,or perhaps didn,t make myself clear,tho Jan got closest to it.

I wasn,t carping on about the past,I was just seeking points of view about the passage from innocence to experience really,(Great English Poet William Blake dealt with this subject in his Songs of Innocence and Experience as did American author J.D.Salinger in his seminal novel Catcher in the Rye).

What I was asking was,is it better to go back to blissfil ignorance (if that was possible)or to continue to confront reality with eyes wide open ? Is it better to face full on the true horrors of what it can be to be alive or do you cover your eyes when it comes to the scary bit in the film at the movies ?

I wasn,t carping on about the past,I was asking a valid question relating to the human condition.

Clear ?

Thanks guys.

PS Joseph Conrad also addressed this thing in The Heart of Darkness (" Oh the horror,the horror....").

NOT true!

You've carped on the past almost ad infinitum!

The thing is thisd - people like you!

The past is dead, deceased, gone 'forever'....... we ALL need to move on - myself as well as everybody else!

"Where shall I look for Enlightenment?" the disciple asked.
"Here," the elder said.
"When will it happen?" the disciple asked.
"It is happening right now," the elder answered.
"Then why don`t I experience it?" the disciple persisted.
"Because you do not look," the elder said.
"But at what?" the disciple asked again.
"At anything your eyes alight upon," the elder answered.
"But must I look in a special kind of way?" the disciple went on.
"No. The ordinary way will do," the elder said.
"But do`t I always look the ordinary way?" the disciple said.
"No, you don`t," the elder said.
"But why ever not?" the disciple asked.
"Because to look you must be here. You`re mostly somewhere else," the elder said.