My wife is having an affair with my best friend

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monda

loule, Faro Portugal

My wife is having an affair with my best friend
And he is still my friend, weird ?
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Demi7 Demi7

Bad Kreuznach, Rhineland-Palatinate Germany

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
that you are still fiends..well that is one thing but she still being your wife..THAt is something else!
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monda

loule, Faro Portugal

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
Well we are still married but yesterday she had to move in with him. He will realize, probably today that he is being used by her. She will destroy him as she has done me.
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Demi7 Demi7

Bad Kreuznach, Rhineland-Palatinate Germany

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
I am sorry but if my friend goes to bed with my partner..that is not a firend. Both are not part of my inner circle anymore..that you can bet on. I could see if you are divorced and later a friend dates your ex because they know each other and so on..totaly different story. Man you have nervs
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monda

loule, Faro Portugal

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
It's not his fault. She has an illness, depression from when her mother walked out on her when she was 4. The affair helps the depression but today it will be much worse. She has done it before then she saw a doctor and got better but it's returned.

Me and friend are working together today an hour away, the drive will be interesting !
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monda

loule, Faro Portugal

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
Also he is totally in love with her, he told me and I can see it in his face. He will pay for it when she leaves him cold soon.
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Demi7 Demi7

Bad Kreuznach, Rhineland-Palatinate Germany

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
I am sorry but u are not ok in your head. .Seems to me you all 3 got what u asked for. I am out of here. I can not stand bull like that. Sorry
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manofire manofire

cork, Cork Ireland

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
Well maybe she will offeer you sloppy seconds
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monda

loule, Faro Portugal

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
Very funny manodick
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monda

loule, Faro Portugal

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
Demi7: I am sorry but u are not ok in your head. .Seems to me you all 3 got what u asked for. I am out of here. I can not stand bull like that. Sorry


Look depression is a terrible thing it ruins lives, my wife is very ill and I cant help her now. I wont have her back as its the 2nd time she has done this, I must protect the kids.

Today was good with my friend, it worked as therapy for us both. But he is going to get hurt.
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TomThe67er

Kristiansand, Vest-Agder Norway

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
Does it hurt to be an Idiot may be the better question!
What a stupid question dude!
If thats true...time to man up
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monda

loule, Faro Portugal

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
I asked the question to see if anyone else ever saw this unusual situation, yes it is weird.

I manned up six months ago when I saw this coming, she wont get therapy so I moved to another part of the house, detached myself from emotionally, wrote her a letter wishing her all the best with who ever its going to be. Remember I have been through it before 18 years ago. This time she cant come back. Also we have three children,the friend is their friend too and they come first. 2 days in to her moved out they are handling it very well.

I am relieved it's over, the tourcher has ended and I am free for the first time in 25 years.

Which why I am on this site.
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Demi7 Demi7

Bad Kreuznach, Rhineland-Palatinate Germany

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
TomThe67er: Does it hurt to be an Idiot may be the better question!
What a stupid question dude!
If thats true...time to man up

your right ..only nuts and wimps take this and use those excuses...wow I would never want someone like that around me. I can not stand people with no back bone at all
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Demi7 Demi7

Bad Kreuznach, Rhineland-Palatinate Germany

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
not weired at all just shows that you are in need of a doctor nothing else. You are not the only weak person on this planet but that is not very atrractive to normal people unless they have a mental problem themself ...doh
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monda

loule, Faro Portugal

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
That only really funny demi7 because you dont know me. I've done the anger thing before but this approach is working so much better.

Day 4 of her moving in with him, she has spent every night on the sofa crying. I am getting no pleasure from this because she is ill.

He on the other hand is a shaking mess, only just realising what he has got his self into.

I have given him the details of a local therapist now he has to try and get her there. Good luck with that because thats where I failed.

The friends of each side are finding out now and it is all swinging in my favor, even their friends.

There is no winners in this situation but I have learnt after 25 years how to handle it, but it still aint easy.
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monda

loule, Faro Portugal

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
Ok I will close this thread with an update. 10 days after she was asked 'to come and get her things', it's gone full circle.

They were just over and we got everything laid out and sorted.

The conclusion is everyone, kids included is happier, so all is well.

I made it clear the (half) house is still hers and she can treat it so.

She is still in a mess whereas the friend is in love with her and up for the challenge of keeping her.

The short version of this story is that the depression and stress got so much for her that she opted for a quick fix solution but then realized she went past the point of no return.

Oddly we will probably get on better now as friends but 25 years of history in love ain't easy to shake off.

Everyone likes an happy ending don't they.
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chris27292729 chris27292729

IOS island, South Aegean Greece

Re: My wife is having an affair with my best friend
manofire: Well maybe she will offeer you sloppy seconds





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