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Have you ever thought about why you´re single? I have heard so many times the usual "well you know, she wasn´t ALL that..." or " yeah he was nice but I want someone more good looking" I want to be swept away...etc.

Does this happen? Does this exist...or have the countless romantic movies turned our heads against us?

Contemplate this...50 years ago you were pretty much restricted to your village or maybe neighbour town. Today the world is our playground. People say love has no bounders, I say internet busted those bounders.

And then we have the looks. We get totally flooded with pics of men and women that has been fixed in photoshop, yet we idealize them and as teenagers we put them on our walls. I asked my cousin that is 17 what a woman should look like, he replied Jessica Alba. Yeah great she´s cute, but how many Jessica Alba do you think there is out there? He thought for a second and said: Well, I don´t care, that´s what she´s gonna look like. *Well I had Heather Locklear on my wall so I should really shut up now LOL*
Question is...are we looking for something that we can´t get? Have we fallen so hard for the PR that we all think that we are better than we are, and spend our awaken hours looking for someone waaaay over our heads? I guess...that´s why internet has come in handy. The huntingfield has grown vastly from that little village...

But, will we be more happy with that woman/man 10000miles away than the girl nextdoor? Is it so important to find happiness that we spend our few precious hours of freetime looking on internet, when he/she might live a block away?

Who knows....

Thomas

Does it happen,you asked.

I belive it does.
There is such thing as being swept away by someone and feeling the butterflyes.....but... then in a while the reality kicks in

And since today we are no longer preasured as much to have a familly as soon as possible(..parents demanding grankids excluded ) and like you said- our chances are no longer limited to the place you can reach by foot in one day and not even metiong the fast tempo of living and the preasure to be successful at the youngest age possible... and yes, all the "perfect" people with "perfect" bodies and lives...What a confusion!

I think we all suffer from a lack of patience and toleration when being in a relationship. When it comes to a problem - and i always does, sooner or later- we rather run then solve it. Find someone else. There are a lot of other fishes in the sea, right? The "beauty" of bigger market... And internet is perfect that way- you can move faster from one person to another, not really knowing what you might missed though..

But I still belive love has nothing to do with so called perfection. I am one of the lucky ones who have experienced love and it has nothing to do with six-pack and big wallet. At least not in my case
In fact- i find that more intimidateing couse im more aware of my imperfection (..here we are, the preasure of being perfect again.. lol) But you get my point.

I do wonder somtimes though..- why internet, why look here and not around the block..?

And I can help thinking maybe I just dont want to find it jet adn look around what is out there....
or maybe is it really just that I get soft in the knees hearing forign accent

That´s a good answer. I think most of us online has experienced deep love in one way ot another and might be a little confused on if we really want that again. Because who in these days have the courage to open up their hearts to someone, riskin everything again? Feeling voulnerable and constantly thinking if you´re good enough for that person?
I know I would if I ever get in that position again

Well I agree.
Though in my case the problem is not couse I would be affraid of being hurt again.. Never really thought of it really..( thanks ).. Jet I just am in a way looking for that feeling again..

I mean, dont you find it even more difficult now knowing that what you are looking for has nothing to do with prefection? her looking like Heather for instance lol Jet you know you want to feel something special- which can not be defined with blond hair, long legs and.. well all the rest that comes with I think that is much harder to find and no easy to define...- just, the butterflyes as i say

Though...you can´t win the lotery (again) withouth buying a ticket , right

So I dare you festis- be happy with yourself and spread you love!

Yes I guess it´s harder nowadays. I´ve cast perfection aside before. If the souls doesn´t match what´s the point. And in the other hand, I don´t think I will ever be looked upon as a"trophyhusband" anyways

I believe it´s all about being an upstanding and nice person and treat people with the respect they deserve and all good will come. And if it doesn´t come *again*...well hey, then I have made some people happy during the way and that´s not so bad

Interresting conversation, you are having with Rachel, Dear Thomas.

Now, that I have reached the age of 41 and went through quite hard times in life, the answer to your question seems clearer to me than some time ago.
I have lost my job 3 times due to short sighted profit orientated managers. I build a house and the company went bancrupt with all my savings. I married and my former wife ran away with such an above mentioned manager.
I looked desperately for a new partner for some time in the internet without success.
Now, that I thought I have nothing to loose, I somehow woke up, said to myself not to participate in this hunting for job, money and love.
And after ten years of suffering I am not afraid anymore and nobody can threaten me.
Finally, as a free and independant man, I walk upright and smile. And when I am in peace with myself, I could be happy with the girl from next door (e.g. my first love as a kid), or the one from my town (e.g. the blonde one from high school I once kissed), or a woman from another country (like my ex-wife).

At least I am curious what life will bring in 2007.

Wish you good luck.


Jochen

LOL


T, you ´re absolutely right! U give respect and u get it back, simple as that

I belive all things in life happen for a reason and at the right time. And that the beauty of life is just to enjoy it the way it is now, and not to think all the time: "Ah if only..."

So cheers to being single and the fact we will again one day experience that first kiss and walk on the clouds and feel there is nothing we can´t become and do ...Oh what the hell! Im feeling like that right now!

Jochen,
I really wish u all the best and that u will find Mrs. Right soon

U def deserved it!