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can anyone tell me if they get the same treatment,after i email or send flower to a lady on C.S ,that most of them cannot be bothered to open or reply.i thought that was the idea of them being on here

I get messages and flowers from men on here and i dont answer them.....but that is because my profile actually states that i dont want mail or flowers sent to me and if i do receive them i will not answer them.
So if men actually read profiles why on earth do i still get mail and flowers?????.
Also my profile used to say i was looking for men 28 - 38 before i changed it but i still used to get responses from men over 40??????
So i guess some men dont bother looking at womens profiles and just send messages for the sake of it or maybe they just want something that they cant have.

I get the same, i'd say to say that 50% of guys don't seem to read the profiles before they email or flower. Having said that it shouldn't stop guys from making the first move to email or flower someone just read their profile first to see if you have at least one thing in common other than the air you breathe.

that is not what my question was,when i do read a profile and decide i might like that lady to get in touch,they hardly bother,and as for man who write and dont read the profile it is their problem,they are only kidding themselfs

you might be right /but the other 50%do

This also depends on how interesting you make your e mail to the ladies.........not just a simple hello lets get it on sort of thing

Statistically men write to ten women and only one answers, and only with one of 10 that did answer it goes more than three letters.


Make your messages stand out.
Make someone wait for your reply because there will be Something.
Do not expect if you pay a compliment and give your tel No you are in the front line.
Do the job of finding common interests yourself.
Sell what you are, not what they possibly want you to be and then you do not comply or get bored.
Tell about yourself before interrogating.
Tell stories from your life experience and what did you do instead of saying I am such and such.
Too many compliments are boring, tell a joke.
Remind of yourself with a flower, give a credit that at the time of reading there was no chance to answer and then it just slipped.
Etc...

Best of luck

No, the ideas are different.
If the idea is to find a match...some just have physical requirements that you probably don't have...

Please, the language is the same: No answer, not interest...

You'll be fine!

Sadly true.

you need to read this all yourself practice what you said ,as everything you wrote has been said already,i can only speak for myself ,not like some on here who think that they can speak for 50% of all men or women on here,but if you request that you do not what mail or flowers ,why will i what to send you them,i was just asking a question and not having a go at anyone,javascript:emot('');
professor

Some replies are very funny indeed,like the one you gave, Lisa.
Ok so you meet a guy somewhere outside CS. How do you know how old he is? Do you ask him? If you find him terribly exciting, and he is outside your age bracket, do you dump him? And if he lies, and says he is younger or older? but you still like him, what happens then?
unfortunately, the age of each and every one of us is given on this site, and it is automatically updated, to make sure that no one gets caught out.
So you will know the age before knowing the person. Which in your words would eliminate the person from your interest page. But if you had to meet that person in real life, before knowing his age, or his true age, you might have found him quite a treat.

And how do you know how many chances you might have thrown away already by doing so? Then of course one hears how little serious mens' approach is to CS women. Hope there are not a lot like you, or we guys would find it very difficult to latch on to some younger or older women.
As for the profile, can you really describe yourself in a profile and in a few words?

About sending flowers to a woman, what do you want to send to attract some interest? Are'nt flowers always appreciated by women, except those who suffer from hay fever??

One of my recent girlfriends was 27 years old. We met in a "real life" situation. She liked me a lot, and it made no difference to her when I told her that I was 61 then, but it would have ruled me out on the site using your inch tape.

No hard feelings Lisa, just my opinion.

Antcus - what women say and write and what they mean are totally different............... Lisa keeps sending me emails and flowers and stuff and I keep telling her she's way too old for me, but does she listen? No Sir!

(just joking, Lisa)

Antcus - when you and I get into a nursing home and some hot geriatric chick chats us up......... will we really care if she is 81 or 85 years old?

"Some replies are very funny indeed,like the one you gave, Lisa." By Antcus

Well i always strive to be funny.......But in all seriousness everyone has there different opinions on age gaps in relationships and i personally wouldnt date someone who is 10 years or more older (or younger for that) than me. If that makes me wrong in some peoples eyes, so be it. I am who I am and if you dont like it thats your problem.

I was not getting at other people that will consider dating older or younger men, i just think some men should read profiles before they send mail or flowers and save themselves the time.

[I reply and thank anyone who sends me a flower. I find it to be quite a compliment. If anyone takes the time to give you notice and contact you, they deserve to be acknowledged and appreciated. Treat everyone the same way that you want to be treated]

[quote=Ladymack][I reply and thank anyone who sends me a flower. I find it to be quite a compliment. If anyone takes the time to give you notice and contact you, they deserve to be acknowledged and appreciated. Treat everyone the same way that you want to be treated][/quote]

Hmmm...to bitch or not to bitch...
OK, some of you, guys, already know me and my big mouth.
Besides, that's one of my favourite subjects and, to tell you the truth, one of the reasons why I decided to stay away from CS for a while. But, now that I'm back, I intend to reply to all of the mails/flowers I receive so, all of you guys ready to apply for the "Prince Charming" position, take a seat and read carefully...

1. Please take into consideration that, being Romanian, chances are I'm not happy with my job and my secret dream is to work really hard for my money in the "world's oldest profession" field.
Don't be shy,drop a line...

2. Please assume that I'm in the Romanian Welcome Committee so, if you visit my country, don't forget to inform me about that and maybe we can have a good time together...if I know what you mean,right?...
3. If you see me online, please send me a catchy, meaningful message, something like "Hi, sexy!" then check whether I opened it or not. If the answer is yes and, what the hell, I'm not replying, don't think that I was not interested; maybe I'm just senile and I forgot.
Please do me a favour and send another one and don't forget to mention "You're so hot!" (that's what always turns me on, trust me).
Still with me?...'cause that's not all.
Now that we already established that I'm senile, the next logical step is to IM me (twice, if possible ). Don't take my rejection as a NO (it's a well known fact that we, women, don't know what we really want) so leave another message asking me if I prefer to talk to you on Messenger. You finally got it: I'll feel much comfortable with you on my "friends list", on my personal adress.
Again, don't be shy! Push, baby, push!
4. ...and the last one, I promise
If I already know you, saw your posts here, talked to you before and thought you were amazing, please keep some liiiittle details for yourself, you know, as a belated surprise. Don't steal from me the pleasure to find out, much later, about your addictions (although alcohol is one of my favourites, any sexual preference expressed in the most dirtiest way possible will skyrocket your chances with me, so you know ).

That's it for tonight, guys. If any of you recognizes himself here, don't delude yourself: yes, I WAS, probably, talking about you.
Hope to hear from you soon...I just hate waiting, hoping and wondering...

[quote=the_picky_one][quote=Ladymack][I reply and thank anyone who sends me a flower. I find it to be quite a compliment. If anyone takes the time to give you notice and contact you, they deserve to be acknowledged and appreciated. Treat everyone the same way that you want to be treated ][/quote]

Hmmm...to bitch or not to bitch...
OK, some of you, guys, already know me and my big mouth.
Besides, that's one of my favourite subjects and, to tell you the truth, one of the reasons why I decided to stay away from CS for a while. But, now that I'm back, I intend to reply to all of the mails/flowers I receive so, all of you guys ready to apply for the "Prince Charming" position, take a seat and read carefully...

1. Please take into consideration that, being Romanian, chances are I'm not happy with my job and my secret dream is to work really hard for my money in the "world's oldest profession" field.
Don't be shy,drop a line...

2. Please assume that I'm in the Romanian Welcome Committee so, if you visit my country, don't forget to inform me about that and maybe we can have a good time together...if I know what you mean,right?...
3. If you see me online, please send me a catchy, meaningful message, something like "Hi, sexy!" then check whether I opened it or not. If the answer is yes and, what the hell, I'm not replying, don't think that I was not interested; maybe I'm just senile and I forgot.
Please do me a favour and send another one and don't forget to mention "You're so hot!" (that's what always turns me on, trust me).
Still with me?...'cause that's not all.
Now that we already established that I'm senile, the next logical step is to IM me (twice, if possible ). Don't take my rejection as a NO (it's a well known fact that we, women, don't know what we really want) so leave another message asking me if I prefer to talk to you on Messenger. You finally got it: I'll feel much comfortable with you on my "friends list", on my personal adress.
Again, don't be shy! Push, baby, push!
4. ...and the last one, I promise
If I already know you, saw your posts here, talked to you before and thought you were amazing, please keep some liiiittle details for yourself, you know, as a belated surprise. Don't steal from me the pleasure to find out, much later, about your addictions (although alcohol is one of my favourites, any sexual preference expressed in the most dirtiest way possible will skyrocket your chances with me, so you know ).

That's it for tonight, guys. If any of you recognizes himself here, don't delude yourself: yes, I WAS, probably, talking about you.
Hope to hear from you soon...I just hate waiting, hoping and wondering...[/quote]

Ok ok, i already promised not to do most of those stuff again, you didnt need to bring it out like this

and i think you need to check back on some things i said, cuz:
I didnt say "messenger", it was "massage"...

but the rest you got correct on me

Ok ok, i already promised not to do most of those stuff again, you didnt need to bring it out like this

and i think you need to check back on some things i said, cuz:
I didnt say "messenger", it was "massage"...

but the rest you got correct on me

Another one who thinks I'm senile and double-posts his reply...