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well smoky... I always thought it was romantic and soapy opery lol but not when it comes to deciding which one to choose... I am feeling like Bridget of the Diary lol at the moment. Poor girl what a choice!!!

Oooooooh my heart is bleeding for you......

"When in Rome, do as many Romans as you can" - Bridget Jones-"The edge of reasons"

No idea of the hread anymore but it's great to see you again picky one

My dear Jacko,always a gentleman...

and I'm not? ~sniff~

Of course you are Rusty.. You just don`t know it

Hi Picky One - I think I remeber you from a loooong time ago

Bite your tongue, Rusty!
Of course you are...
Missed me, huh?

Hi, Kitty!
Yes, I've been here from the Cretacious Period.
Is it inappropriate to say "Good to see you're still here" ?
Kidding, honey...

There you go Maruska - the ANSWER to your dilemma has arrived, in the form of PickyOne....... When in Malta, do as many Maltese as you can. Why should you HAVE to choose, just date them alternate week-ends, and the one who woos you the best - wins!

At the end of the day --- reach into the depths of your soul and find which one you truly love - if the answer is not there date both and others - keep your spirit true and free the answer when its there will come naturally

If I had the courage to do that!! You will never believe that it crossed my mind, but as I said earlier, I don't want to hurt anyone... even though I know deep inside that at the end it'll be only me who's going to hurt because I'll never forgive myself for not being more daring.

It would not be fair on neither of them becuase they are both so nice... one has some things that I fell for, the other one has some others... but since I've been in the situation where I have been dropped for someone else, in a relationship which was going for six years, I don't want to do the same to someone else.

Hi Maruska,

I do not usually pass any comments on personal relationships; but I feel that you need some time to think clearly and properly.

Ask yourself a few questions:
1. If you were in a "stressed situation" and left this guy and then you want him back. Do you really believe that he would have accepted you back after he is seeing some one else?
2. If the answer to 1. above is yes - would you believe that he would really drop his present GF to take you in his heart again?
3. Do you want HIM or his MUM? Are you buying a package? This goes for both guys. What was the hurry to rope you in to meet MOM?
4. Are they both MOM's boys? If so their affection is only childish and will soon wear out when exposed to the difficult situations of marriage.

Please accept my apologies if I sound too much paternistic. If you werer my daughter I would have given you the same advice.

Good advice, Bedraline .... yes, usually a good idea is to reverse the situation and look at it again.....

Dear Bedraline,

Thank you very much for your insight. I really appreciate it, and you are right... the things you wrote up here all have been in my thoughts lately... even before this guy came back to me, I got worried about why this guy I am seeing wants to rush things... but then, when I met his family, they all seemed nice enough. It's such a close family that maybe that is the reason why he wanted me to meet them all... but still I am so mixed up in my feelings.

I would like to thank you all for trying to make me see things clearly the way they are. Obviously as for the guy who is back, I really don't know that much about him and if the situation was reversed what would have he done... would he have taken me back? Not very sure from my experience with guys!!

Maruska,

Your Life is yours and no one of us can tell you what to do.
However it seems that all of us are giving you the same basic advice.
Kick every one out of your life and start afresh. Do not let any guy use you for testers. Your are the lady and you have the power to use the crawling guys for testing. Use that Power and you see us all men beg you dearly.

Use brains for gains. Soft hearts are only good for Candy ... if you know what I mean.
Take care

and ive been here more than year and havent meet anyone not even someones mum

Exactly!!!!!!
Hey Maruska,

How many people you know are always looking but still don't have anybody to think about or be with?

You had/have? two.

May sound a bit rough......

But mother in laws do not make part of any relationship picture. It ALWAYS spells trouble when mummy comes in as spokeswomen for the guy.

Wish you luck my love

Well... first I have to excuse my friends in here because I left for the weekend without saying anything.

then i have to update you now... during the weekend I finished with the guy i was seeing... maybe he did not mean any harm but i was really embarrased when he was angry with me just because i was laughing a bit load with my friend... we were talking about the times when I worked with her at Mount Carmel Hospital... so you can guess, or the maltesers here can!! anywasy, that pulled the final straw and took some people's advice and i was not sorry for anyone, neither myself and taken a decision.

I then got back with the other guy. We met, he's sorry for before and wants to make up for the lost time but we decided to start afresh. I will surely keep you all updated and thanks for the comments & advice. it helps a lot to have friends to talk to when you are down.

THANK YOU ALL

Well, things worked out okay hey? Good. Thanks for taking the time to update us.