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I'd say so. I totally understand the desire to open up to a man and let him into every corner of your life, past and present, but I don't think it should be done in the initial stages of a relationship....

vitamines and a two hour holiday??



and a glass of orange juice, of course.

I'm thinking about this.......

but then.... tell me....

when is the right time to open up??


I know that a first date is not exactly the best time to say one's had a change of sex recently or something else that might be considered a bit drastic.... but there again.... what is drastic if we're talking about being open?


If I've had a change of sex... Ithink, I would tell on the first date, what's the point of waiting? -

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! -

I wish you'd told me that before we made love for the first time!

You know a man should know in advance if he's making love to a man or a woman or an 'I'm not quite sure' - my self-esteem (let alone my willy) is wilting!

And you think it's funny!

I honestly thought you were 'all woman'!

You deceived me!

How could you?

I can't tell my parents - they'd be so ashamed of me!

I'll have to tell my psychologist - and if he laughs at me I'll have to kill the little runty man......

Then you'll be indirectly responsible for murder!

I hope you can sleep well at night!

I'd call you a bitch, but even that's not true now - what are you!

an alien

ok then -

'Alien bitch!'

Does that sound 'right' to you?

NO

You know, it used to be a huge dilemma to me - like, if I don't show all sides of my character and moods at the start, then I must be "deceiving" the person; if I do, it may put them off/scare them... (you know how most men are about handling a woman's emotions )

Until I heard of viewing it like selling an expensive vehicle to a potential buyer - you don't exactly start out with its shortcomings and possible defects, but rather make the buyer really fall in love with it, and then when he's already made up his mind you might warn him that it does consume a little more petrol, or to pay attention to this or that part during maintenance. Same with a relationship - NONE of us is perfect all of the time, none of us can claim they never have any "moods" etc.... Most of us have made mistakes in the past that we're not exactly proud of... But to start out with it would be the same as talking a buyer out of buying the car?

Sorry to be late on this one. But I am always late anyway!!

The best thing to do on your first date is TO LISTEN more than talk. This way your partner will talk more as everyone likes to be listened to.
Hence the English saying "Silence is GOLDEN".

If we think of our honesty being thrown back to our faces; Then thinbk of the Maltese saying:(translated)" If you tummy could contain a loaf but could not contain a word; what are you expecting others to do??"

So Listen and get excited but ensure that the box taking your "shit" does not have any springs inside.

I can just imagine the couple who are meeting for the first time at a caffee, bar, or restaurant...

complete silence.... what a way to get to know each other!

sorry, I had to laugh...

it makes me think of the couples that sit at bars, restaurants and have nothing to talk about... that is sad...


I think that a healthy bubbly conversation is really good, listen AND talk and debate... if you listen more than you talk, you could be taken for one of those spies like james bond thing.... and then secretly writing everything down in a notepad under the table cloth to go and report to the papers!

I'll stop now...

Wow, a spring loaded bog, I want one,like now!

Chocolate time.

worse than that its grab a bottle time and run for them there hills

there you all go again, name calling and you are so turning me on. and that is one thing i have never been called, "alien bitch". is that like a strange bitch or what?? i can be that

honesty is the only thing i am capable of. i am not smart enough to lie to often anyway. it is so much easier to keep your story straight telling the truth.

but the one thing i do to much of is spilling. i tell to much to anybody and everybody too soon. my life is an open book and i know not everyone is intrigued by it as i am.

so sorry you had insults thrown at you. and your own words used against you. try not to take it personal. me, i don't want no drama and am sure not going to engage in name calling. or if i did i would win... i go for the jugular. i am so mean, really. but no drama is the best, just shake your head and walk away.

i always come away from things like this and ask myself, "where is the good in this"? What lesson can i learn from this. sometimes the answers don't come easy but i always find my answer and am better off for it. most of the time the best lessons hurt the most. oh god i have really learned enough!

thank your friend for ??something and move on, a little smarter and better off.

First mistake - buying a car and finding a partner for life are not the same...

Cars are much more reliable than people hahaha

Save the bad news for later theory, hook them on your line and then when the hook is firmly wedged in their throat and they are in the bag tell them the bad news.

Sounds like game playing to me. Not the right way to start a relationship. Good for flirtations or just some fun with people that you are physically attracted to. For anything real, you have to be honest from the start. The thing is you may think they are hooked and have spent months biting your tongue and smiling sweetly like a girl after 1.5 valium, but they may still leave you when you suddenly become your real self. They may still be scared off.

I am a great believer in honesty, and believe that a whole heap of relationships don't work because people are so busy trying to win the object of their desire, that they fail to see very blatant differences and major things that actually mean they are not suited to the other person. The rolling stones said ' you don't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you just might find, you get what you need' - Its kind of like yes people, some people actually believe that if they agree with everything the other person says, the other person will like them more. Not true!!! unless you are a bully and a fascist. I like attitude and love people who are honest, who disagree with me,(not for the sake of it, because they actually do not agree with what I am saying) However, i do not like facists, bullies and know it alls. The best are people who say 'you have your opinion', 'i have mine', we can discuss it, argue it out, but we don't have to have the same opinion at the end of the evening. However we both deeply respect the others opinion and the right of the other person to have that opinion. Its what makes the world an interesting place...

Honesty is the best policy!!! Relationships, real ones should not involve games.

To be honest is to be yourself.There will be always people,which could use your own words against you.But you should be never ignore them.Just don t worry about them and continue your own way.
I think every person has a way.It depends of yourself how you should going on that way.
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