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I received a very nice mail yesterday from a young women, who wanted to invite me to come on holiday with her and her boyfriend, they are engaged.

obviously I really wanted to go?

Look it is more than likely a joke!!! Right!!!!

But if not what motivates a women to seriously get involved in something like this?

Rosemary west, myra Hindley(terrible spelling)

How do women get so caught up in the sexual fantasies of their partners and do their partners love them more because of it or are they helping them to become monsters.

how strange!!!

Is there even an outside chance that the man is caught up in his girlfriend's fantasy?

Interesting....firstly moral judgement aside, why jump to the conclusion that this offer is motivated by the boyfriend?...There are many bisexual people out there, who don't mind taking a stroll on either side of the tracks...having said that, let's face it, threesomes do tend to be a fantasy belonging to the male fraternity. But as one postee put it the other day, once you develop a taste for the exotic (be it chemical or sexual) it is habit-forming, and one keeps looking for the next "high".

Do their partners love them more because of it??...dunno, but my guess would be that swinging and threesomes as often leads to break-up as not...

So are you going?? ....please keep a travelogue and maybe blog it...(only kidding)...


My opinion??...don't touch it with a bargepole...what this amounts to is, someone is using you as a convenience and a plaything, and the whole escapade will end badly, and you'll never see them again...oh gosh, how tacky...JMHO

Bingo...

Some very good points -

yes it could be the womans fantasy - yes there are bi sexual people, yes and this is a fantastic point if you get into highs, chemical, sexual, you could add risk as a high it becomes addictive.

I am openminded and not someone who only feels comfortable in a world where I understand everything and everyone agrees with me.

HOWEVER

In my opinion and my experience - the majority of women that get caught up in this do so to maintain some sort of control over their partner. Lets face it some men will never be happy with one women, by getting involved the women is in control in some way.

Women do not have the same selfish gene that men have - this is what i like most about men, women and its probably for many reasons - we bare children, we are nurturing e.t.c. religious upbringing, putting sex and love as one. lots of issues. But so many women become obsessed with their man and he becomes the centre of their existence. So they use swinging as a means to control his desire, become part of the fantasy it also makes it strickly sexual and the risk of the partner falling in love with another women is minimised.

Any women who gets involved in this activity will come out of it with a certain sense of worthlessness, maybe not!!!

Interesting all the same

For the record i was not in any way considering the offer, just thought it would make a lively thread

Some very good points -

yes it could be the womans fantasy - yes there are bi sexual people, yes and this is a fantastic point if you get into highs, chemical, sexual, you could add risk as a high it becomes addictive.

I am openminded and not someone who only feels comfortable in a world where I understand everything and everyone agrees with me.

HOWEVER

In my opinion and my experience - the majority of women that get caught up in this do so to maintain some sort of control over their partner. Lets face it some men will never be happy with one women, by getting involved the women is in control in some way.

Women do not have the same selfish gene that men have - this is what i like most about men, women and its probably for many reasons - we bare children, we are nurturing e.t.c. religious upbringing, putting sex and love as one. lots of issues. But so many women become obsessed with their man and he becomes the centre of their existence. So they use swinging as a means to control his desire, become part of the fantasy it also makes it strickly sexual and the risk of the partner falling in love with another women is minimised.

Any women who gets involved in this activity will come out of it with a certain sense of worthlessness, maybe not!!!

Interesting all the same

For the record i was not in any way considering the offer, just thought it would make a lively thread

Hi SG, I like it. By saying some outrageously controversial things you think people will respond to you. Way to go. Get things livened up around here. I'll look out for the next time you're in your usual intelligent mode though.

best i apologize for this too, i guess.

Yes, maybe the broader theme to this thread could be sexuality and manipulation....certainly a complex subject..

[quote=Sungod]Some very good points -

"In my opinion and my experience - the majority of women that get caught up in this do so to maintain some sort of control over their partner. Lets face it some men will never be happy with one women, by getting involved the women is in control in some way."

I have never ever heard of a threesome leading to a healthy future, they all always break up in the end, sooner rather than later. Mind you, I stuck with the norm and that didn,t last neither, so what do I know.

Solution??....try a foursome next time....you never know....maybe there's safety in numbers....

safety in numbers

I know that I am perfectly capable of loving more than one woman at the same moment in time (it's even happened to me very recently) even though it goes against my own morality;

however,

I only have one penetrative 'dangly bit' and would be confused as to whom I should donate it at a specific moment in time and then I'd feel guilty that I'd not be giving the other lady 100% of my awesome attention................... so, on reflection, I would not be interested in a threesome made up of myself and two gorgeous women!

The other possibility? One woman and two men?

No thanks!

sorry, but this sounds like a thread to provoke sexual innuendo. Especially as your profile reads that you want sexual encounter.

You have a "dangly tonge don't you"

No its not you have gotten me very wrong, have any of my other posts tried to do that, why would i start now!!

I was reacting to some surprising mail and just asking a question.

Anyway what is wrong with sexual innuendo, this is a dating site for gods sake.

In relation to my Intimate encounter - not sexual intimate

I chose this because it was the only choice that seemed remotely romantic -

short term
longterm

sounds like airport parking, very unromantic or interesting.

I like the sound of an intimate encounter - it does not exactly specify time, but it could be forever and it should be intimate, how intimate its going to be it did not specify.

I have had alot of life experience not all good i am afraid, same as everybody but now at the bold age of 36 soon to be 37 I have decided that I am going to live my life and really make the most of it.

I love debate too and as a toastmaster, check it out toastmasters international, i do believe its important to keep things interesting.

no i dont think its a thread to provoke sexual innuendo because i got the same message from a woman in greece wanting a threesome and i dont mention sex at all in my profile. well no i dont think i do. let me get back and have a check. could be subversive.

threesome, foursome, alonesome, nonesome....

does it really matter?

these are just sexual preferences...

if two or more people are willing, then I see no problem to anything they might want to experiment with as long as it's not hurting anyone.

fanntasies are fantasies.... but....

is it good to keep them in a box?

no...

I don't think so.

i just dont know if cs is the right place to try your luck but suppose she thought it was worth a shot. think i would go on a site leaning that way if thats what i was after. must admit i thought it was a joke when i got it. cripes can you imagine tipping up for a 2 week holiday not knowing what you were getting into bed with. could be great or scary.
not that id know. if ive done it i cant remember. gin has a lot to answer for.