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Love should be forbidden for the sake of the health of the nation, god save us from love. Course I,m just a twitter and bisted old bugger wot fell off twice and can,t get back on. So listen ye not for I have sinned and refuse to trespass in that valley again. Amen, a man.

That's beautiful...so romantic...

..I agree that to be in love, one has to suspend one's analytical mind for a moment, and give in to the irrational, because infatuation is irrational...

but what's the message??...Love is worth it at any price??...

...if life is not worth living without romantic love, then I would agree with the gist and thrust of the quote...

...but imagine knowing you're wrong, and being in love??....

...doesn't that make love impossible??...or at least compromise love enough to downgrade it to a lesser beast?

I would find anything written by some dude called 'Alan Bottom' rather 'suspect'!

Oh! 'Alain Botton' - sounds so different in French, n'est-ce pas?

"They should prefer the risk of being wrong and in love to being in doubt and without love."

I prefer to believe that I am right and loved, than to be right or wrong and unloved! However to be in the wrong and still loved is a bloody miracle I strive to make possible.

For, it's like this you see...... we all make mistakes and we are all wrong, but a woman must really love you to forgive you and once she nolonger loves you she shall use every last breath to denounce you and make you life Hell on earth!

So, the answer is simple - ensure that a woman always loves you.... for if you fail there is only one thing you can do to make life bearable; and that's to take her to the very very top of the Eiffel Tower on a wet and windy day and lovingly say:

'Goodbye! Farewell! Adieu! Can you fly, my love?'

I took it in a completely different way.

I didn't think it was romantic - it's about Doubt killing love.... doubt about the other person's feelings, doubt about if the love is real / substantial, doubt about your own feelings.....

Is it worth thinking too philosophically / rationally about a relationship you're in and rationalising / killing that feeling of being in love, but on a level staying safe in the head / protected from an illusion of love that might one day explode in your face when it comes into contact with reality???

loving someone is not easy... specially is someone's been hurt or wronged one way or another... trust is something that takes a while to build up and grow.... some people are more trusty than others and the ones that are more trusty than others are usually hurt more than others.... but there again, by the same mathematical or whatever law, these people can enjoy love in a better and more open way, a more rewarding way. (am I making sense?)

I think that it is true that to love one has to lower the barriers and take the risk...

wasn't there a saying that said.. "nothing ventured, nothing gained" ?

Yup........ you've got to take the risk to allow yourself the true wonder of love - if you are scared of being hurt you just put up barriers to possible real happiness; to hold back on love is like looking a gift horse in the mouth or biting off your nose to spite your face.

Something is wonderful then you just know it is wonderful, but if you cringe on the edge of happiness refusing to let go of your fears and insecurities you'll never soar or fly or have faith or trust or know true love ever again - something like that?

yes , I suppose its the--- 'it is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all"

Yup! (even to have loved and lost and loved and lost and loved and lost and loved and lost and loved and lost than NEVER to have loved at all!)

Right?



I dunno....maybe there comes a point when one shoud just accept defeat and curl up in the foetal position and die quietly?

Whadya think?

--- I suppose one can only accept things for what they are --- and if something better comes along--- "move the cheese"

I'm a natural lover!

Yogurt - no flavouring huh

Morning sis

'Love is like a mousetrap, but when you run out of cheese all you can do is sit and watch others having all the fun'

Who said that?

I did.

Dammit!

precisely

"love, love, love...
the word should be
easy to feel
love, love, love...
if it's not easy, you don't feel it"

This is the chorus of a song i wrote and me and my friends recorded it. It's a beautiful song!

Im sure it is a lovely song cristina ---and one can spice it up a little with strawberrys

Thanks love

I agree....... and if a woman isn't easy to feel you shouldn't bother trying to feel her - no, that sounds awful!

That brings out a mixed message. Love shouldn't be 'easy' - gives off the wrong sort of vibes, but I get your drift.

Love should be wonderful and natural, love doesn't have to be all huge sacrifice and angst, BUT when the going gets tough love should STILL be there........... with that warm glow of happiness of being together to face whatever challenges life has thrown at the two of you.

I agree, though, that once people are struggling in their relationships it seems that something is missing, and if it's love that is missing then it ain't easy!

Many, many people love each other though and have problems - they need to listen to your song and realise that if you DO love each other it can be 'easy' cos you have the most important thing - that love for each other that 'things' cannot destroy - right?

Another quote for all you bachelors and bachelorettes out there....

"Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone there who can understand what we are saying, in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved."