About me: i am a reliable, kind and caring friend with a busy lifestyle (2 jobs for now, 9 foster cats, a home, yard, and car to maintain on my own). love cats, like to read, like doing art and seeing it. in the past i have tended to follow people to see where they might take me. i don't want that anymore because it leaves out the important element in a relationship: what i want and who i am. i do like to go out and try new things that someone is interested in, but i want to lead sometimes too and find out what i am interested in. i want to be able from the start to have some kind of control in the relationship because being a follower has left me alone again and again. very interested in psychology and human nature in general. i also love to stay home and nest and to visit others' homes. very flexible but want equality too.
I'm looking for: someone who will walk beside me, not in front of or behind, that will be my equal instead of my slave or my master. want a friend and a lover, a sister and a mother, a partner. someone who will stick with me in good times and bad (for either of us) and who will not always let me get away with being my antisocial self. it's a tough job. but surely there's somebody out there strong enough to manage it. i want someone who is equally happy at home or out doing familiar things or out doing new things. i don't need or expect a lot of money to be spent. walking in a park or sitting by a lake watching the sunrise is good enough for me with the right person. just be open to the moment and gently guide me to find who i am. hard to know this when you're always following someone or giving in to what they want.