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About me and who I'm looking for

About me:

I love who I am -- most of the time. Want to extend that love to a special woman. "Chemistry" plays a big part in a "mate" search. And, then, love is a choice! (AND, there are those times when that self-love gets side-tracked and I go into my male/Mars "cave" only to come out stronger.) Lived in Hawaii for the last (eek!) 40 yrs. I enjoy my work--love problem solving--with my hands as much as my mind--after having had about 4 somewhat unique careers. Have made more $ in the past. Values? See my ideal match. Baggage? I'm afraid so! Have I identified/handled every bit? No way! When issues arise and take control my God/Higher Power/Creator of the Universe/meditation comes through for me. Raised Presbyterian. Enjoy Buddha's teachings and knowing an all-encompassing God/Creator who provides for me.

Pics- Clean-shaven, 2001; dolphin: 2007; Grandson: 9/2006; others: in-between.

A good catch? Lots of time and communication--together will provide that answer for you. (It’s been said: 'He's a good one, a "keeper"'. What more can I say? lol) Two courses in 2007: "The Illuminated Life", “Boundaries”. Both opportunities to shine a light on the past and be in the now! Re-reading The Road Less Traveled (1978, M. Scott Peck), a profound look at life/love.

My match will become a best friend. She'll think I have a great sense of humor, maybe a bit obtuse. I'll look forward to spending time with her and she with me. We'll want to end our workday early just to have more time together. We'll participate in some same activities; sometimes we'll be close by, each doing our own thing. From time to time we'll talk about our relationship, especially when we "need" to. We'll nurture that communication; maybe even develop our own "rituals" or exercises to get us back on track. (We'll definitely understand that we'll get off track from time to time.) Basically, we'll be fruitful and have fun together; otherwise, we'll figure out how to make it fruitful/fun again.

I'm looking for:

My ideal match is happy with herself just as she is at this moment and wants to continue to grow. She agrees that love is a choice and, yet may lapse into lack of self love at times, only to realize the choice and grow stronger as a result.

She values honesty utmost. She’s my #1 supporter while I do my best to provide her with a happy, financially stable life. Her values (& mine): Honesty, integrity, support, empathy, spirituality/spiritual growth, love (incl. sexual*), respect for self and others, intelligence, touching, openness, non-judging (a goal: to the extent that a human can be), not needing to be “right”, sensitivity, drug/smoke free (occasional alcohol ok), active, adventuresome, sense of humor, frugality**, sustainability (let’s provide a better world for our grandkids), mindfulness! Whatever attributes I find in a "mate" I'll have to--and want to--provide the same or be complementary (and complimentary).

She may have baggage, but be well aware of it and be handling it as best she can -- with a program in place that promotes daily growth. Rich or poor, she will want to share her life as it is and as it may become. The journey will be important, not necessarily the destination.

She'll know that baggage gets handled only through continued emotional/spiritual development throughout one's life.

At home at the beach, hiking, w/“locals”, at the Kahala Hilton.

*Sexuality (& love)-She’ll love emotionally, mentally, by choice, and sexually. We’ll both want physical sex to be more than simply an animal/physically-pleasurable act. It will be emotionally/mentally loving as well!

**Frugal-She’ll share my concern for the planet and subscribe to a “less is more” philosophy. I will use 1/2 a paper towel if that's all I need and refuse a plastic shopping bag for one or two small items. (Goes with my concern for the planet.) Oh, and yes, the mortgage company and I have a serious relationship - my house in the middle. A “sugar-daddy” I am not.