Dating with disabled person (on wheelchair or other serious disease) (37)
Years back, in my 20s I dated a lady in wheelchair. I can honestly say that it is very possible to make it work, although difficult if one had an active lifestyle and is not prepared for the handling of a person whom you have to help in and out of the car (tall pick-up truck). As well and doing outdoor activities on rough surfaces such as dirt areas, camp sites and rocky shores at waters edge.
Oddly enough she broke it off with me because she "felt like she was being a burden and slowing down my lifestyle."
Oddly enough she broke it off with me because she "felt like she was being a burden and slowing down my lifestyle."
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Cristovao88: Is a relationship of healthy and disabled people possible? Could you date/marry someone seriously ill? Say what you think, please.
There are many, many traits I would prioritise before someone's health, or 'disabilities'.
(I don't feel comfortable with the word 'disability'. I think we're all differently abled.)
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Excelent poll man, and I felicitate you. For my experience my dad was in a wheelchair for 8 years of he's life before living and he had next to him a saint, my step mum. She gave 8 years of her life to my dad, and I am certain if this was for a whole life, it wouldn't have change for her.
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I share your concerns. Im in a chair too. Im finding out its very possible. In todays society, it may take some time to find someone with similar interests that can see the real you, but I still have faith they're out there! I got some encouragement when I had a similar poll a while back. Keep your courage up and remember, just like jac379 said and she told me the same, "we're all differently abled" Datings hard no matter what your ability, Ive been on both sides of the chair...
Now if jac379 would just move to my city...
Now if jac379 would just move to my city...
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I dated a man who was born with spina bifida. He was wheelchair bound and one of the sweetest men I have ever known. I don't doubt that we would be together now if he hadn't passed away.
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Alexandro10: Excelent poll man, and I felicitate you. For my experience my dad was in a wheelchair for 8 years of he's life before living and he had next to him a saint, my step mum. She gave 8 years of her life to my dad, and I am certain if this was for a whole life, it wouldn't have change for her.
and I always say this....with his death , my dad bought two tickets. One for his life ( it wasnt a life that he had ) and he gave the ticket of life to my step mum .
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Alexandro10: and I always say this....with his death , my dad bought two tickets. One for his life ( it wasnt a life that he had ) and he gave the ticket of life to my step mum .
You are very spiritual and insightful Alexandro
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serene56: You are very spiritual and insightful Alexandro
Thx serene
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Imonwheels: I share your concerns. Im in a chair too. Im finding out its very possible. In todays society, it may take some time to find someone with similar interests that can see the real you, but I still have faith they're out there! I got some encouragement when I had a similar poll a while back. Keep your courage up and remember, just like jac379 said and she told me the same, "we're all differently abled" Datings hard no matter what your ability, Ive been on both sides of the chair...
Now if jac379 would just move to my city...
Now if jac379 would just move to my city...
The only place I'm moving to is one within walking distance of my daughter and granddaughter!
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jac379: Oh.
I looked at your profile yesterday and thought you're a nice looking fella.
If you want to feel like a normal man, I can quite assure you it's perfectly normal for people to underestimate themselves.
The thing is, we don't have to be 'normal'. We can be extraordinary, if we choose to be. We just tend to think extraordinariness is something bigger and scarier than it really is.
I looked at your profile yesterday and thought you're a nice looking fella.
If you want to feel like a normal man, I can quite assure you it's perfectly normal for people to underestimate themselves.
The thing is, we don't have to be 'normal'. We can be extraordinary, if we choose to be. We just tend to think extraordinariness is something bigger and scarier than it really is.
but sometimes we need to think back, to achive the ( extraordiness ) in ourselfs. There is a lovely saying ... never forget where you are coming from.------ This poll is Archived ------
Cristovao88: Is a relationship of healthy and disabled people possible? Could you date/marry someone seriously ill? Say what you think, please.
Challenging in some ways, yes but absolutely it's possible! it wouldn't stop me from being with someone I wanted to be with.
Don't give up, you sound like a really nice guy
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Hi, I'm sure you know, there are many DatingSites for people with 'disabilities' I don't think that your disability should define you,then again, it is not easy and it's being politically correct to pretend it is.
I worked with a Blind Girl [she had a guide dog] and she was always going on Dates, had been married to a man with his sight and was always going here and there. She had a fantastic attitude. A co worker said to me 'She's in Denial' I thought that cruel and jealous. ~ She was simply a positive person beyond words.If a man was in a wheelchair and wanted to meet me, that wouldnot put me off.. Who do I think I am ? We all have disabilities, some are visible thats all.
I worked with a Blind Girl [she had a guide dog] and she was always going on Dates, had been married to a man with his sight and was always going here and there. She had a fantastic attitude. A co worker said to me 'She's in Denial' I thought that cruel and jealous. ~ She was simply a positive person beyond words.If a man was in a wheelchair and wanted to meet me, that wouldnot put me off.. Who do I think I am ? We all have disabilities, some are visible thats all.
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Cristovao88: Is a relationship of healthy and disabled people possible? Could you date/marry someone seriously ill? Say what you think, please.
I'd say probably not. Which wouldn't be because of stigma - people do have an utterly absurd hierarchy of values when it comes to health conditions - but because of a genuine concern for my quality of life and the quality of life of my kids. Still, I wouldn't say that it's impossible.
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Cristova, I have some things to say to you young man ok?
Point one You are a good looking lad, make no mistakes about that.
Point two disabled people CAN make a contribution everywhere, dependant on their abilities and chances given, This also applies to romance you are a young man with lots of love to give I can tell.
I had an accident in 1996, it left me paralysed for almost a year, ive twice lost my eyesight (short-term) I was full of fear, and worry upset despair,also anger.. I was lucky I had friends, family to encourage me, today I am able to do most things I used to I NEVER forget that today is a great day regardless of anything else, ive learned to appreciate the small things in life a lot yes.
You can find love, its a fluid thing it can change as we know, however if we take care of love it can blossom. Love ive come to realise is many things, love yourself, I was unable to for a very long time, especially after the accident, I hated myself. slowly the "me" rose out of my self-denial and I found someone, it lasted three wonderful years, I too was in a wheelchair for a while, I found that as such I had to SHOUT to be even seen. let alone heard, I know my friend how it feels yet you have to live, enjoy life and realise whoever we are, we are all nor garanteed " love"..enjoy the site and who knows someone may just turn up when you least expect it
Have a good day Cristova :)
Point one You are a good looking lad, make no mistakes about that.
Point two disabled people CAN make a contribution everywhere, dependant on their abilities and chances given, This also applies to romance you are a young man with lots of love to give I can tell.
I had an accident in 1996, it left me paralysed for almost a year, ive twice lost my eyesight (short-term) I was full of fear, and worry upset despair,also anger.. I was lucky I had friends, family to encourage me, today I am able to do most things I used to I NEVER forget that today is a great day regardless of anything else, ive learned to appreciate the small things in life a lot yes.
You can find love, its a fluid thing it can change as we know, however if we take care of love it can blossom. Love ive come to realise is many things, love yourself, I was unable to for a very long time, especially after the accident, I hated myself. slowly the "me" rose out of my self-denial and I found someone, it lasted three wonderful years, I too was in a wheelchair for a while, I found that as such I had to SHOUT to be even seen. let alone heard, I know my friend how it feels yet you have to live, enjoy life and realise whoever we are, we are all nor garanteed " love"..enjoy the site and who knows someone may just turn up when you least expect it
Have a good day Cristova :)
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I'm still learning how to be "extraordinary" ;) I'm on my way to accept who I'm. Had no problem with it, until fell in unlucky/unwanted love. Since this moment I'm trying to handle it. Faith helps a lot.
I know one guy, deaf. His girlfriend (a stunning beautiful woman) met him in mosque, found him very awkward, but so lovely! Now they're the sweetest couple on Earth. But he's also very handsome ;)
I know one guy, deaf. His girlfriend (a stunning beautiful woman) met him in mosque, found him very awkward, but so lovely! Now they're the sweetest couple on Earth. But he's also very handsome ;)
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Cristovao88: Is a relationship of healthy and disabled people possible? Could you date/marry someone seriously ill? Say what you think, please.
Too damn right I would, I have a disability myself but wether I did or didn't I would still a date a woman in a wheelchair, we're all born equal
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Hi again Cristova, its never easy for anyone..this love-thing mystifies most of us!
Ive been in then out of love in and out of (girls) favor, only to find another one thinks im great then finds another!
its the way of this crazy world I think
Keep your head up ok?
Girls shall we make a poll of how handsome he is?
Ive been in then out of love in and out of (girls) favor, only to find another one thinks im great then finds another!
its the way of this crazy world I think
Keep your head up ok?
Girls shall we make a poll of how handsome he is?
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Don't give up.. and don't 'settle' for something you don't want, just because things may come a bit more difficult for you.
You seem like a lovely man and I certainly would give you a chance.
As for preferring an able bodied woman to a disabled one, I can understand what you are saying. It would be more difficult for two disabled people to have a relationship. Not sure if this is the right place to have a poll though? I think that people's opinions may differ from place to place. How are women in your country feeling about this?
You seem like a lovely man and I certainly would give you a chance.
As for preferring an able bodied woman to a disabled one, I can understand what you are saying. It would be more difficult for two disabled people to have a relationship. Not sure if this is the right place to have a poll though? I think that people's opinions may differ from place to place. How are women in your country feeling about this?
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kelsann: Don't give up.. and don't 'settle' for something you don't want, just because things may come a bit more difficult for you.
You seem like a lovely man and I certainly would give you a chance.
As for preferring an able bodied woman to a disabled one, I can understand what you are saying. It would be more difficult for two disabled people to have a relationship. Not sure if this is the right place to have a poll though? I think that people's opinions may differ from place to place. How are women in your country feeling about this?
You seem like a lovely man and I certainly would give you a chance.
As for preferring an able bodied woman to a disabled one, I can understand what you are saying. It would be more difficult for two disabled people to have a relationship. Not sure if this is the right place to have a poll though? I think that people's opinions may differ from place to place. How are women in your country feeling about this?
I don't know. In my country disabled are mostly closed in homes. So do I. But as far as I know and see, people often treat us like aliens or mentally disabled. I can see it in their eyes. In Internet it's much easier. People can meet me without obstacles, stereotypes, see who I am.
What you think about idea of strerilization of disabled? In Europe more and more people agree with it. To stop spreading diseases. To stop pathology.
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Cristovao88: I don't know. In my country disabled are mostly closed in homes. So do I. But as far as I know and see, people often treat us like aliens or mentally disabled. I can see it in their eyes. In Internet it's much easier. People can meet me without obstacles, stereotypes, see who I am.
What you think about idea of strerilization of disabled? In Europe more and more people agree with it. To stop spreading diseases. To stop pathology.
What you think about idea of strerilization of disabled? In Europe more and more people agree with it. To stop spreading diseases. To stop pathology.
Where in Europe has the sterilisation of the disabled been suggested? This is the first I've heard of it
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If you'd read forums (those liberal), you'd see. More, they say we shouldn't have any social pension, because most of us don't (in fact, can't) work. No work, no bread. Lately neoliberals are becoming stronger.
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Cristovao88: I don't know. In my country disabled are mostly closed in homes. So do I. But as far as I know and see, people often treat us like aliens or mentally disabled. I can see it in their eyes. In Internet it's much easier. People can meet me without obstacles, stereotypes, see who I am.
The internet can open doors for many of us.
Cristovao88: What you think about idea of strerilization of disabled? In Europe more and more people agree with it. To stop spreading diseases. To stop pathology.
I seem to remember the last time eugenics was popular in Continental Europe it didn't work out too well.
I kinda think each person can make their own choices about having children, but as a potential carrier of the Cystic Fibrosis gene, I do fully support the concept of genetic counselling so that people can make informed choices.
I'd certainly be interested in how supporters of involuntary sterilisation think it could be enforced without breaching European human rights legislation.
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Cristovao88: If you'd read forums (those liberal), you'd see. More, they say we shouldn't have any social pension, because most of us don't (in fact, can't) work. No work, no bread. Lately neoliberals are becoming stronger.
That's certainly not the sentiment in Ireland, I can assure you...and thank god for that!
Ridiculous carry-on!
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Cristovao88: If you'd read forums (those liberal), you'd see. More, they say we shouldn't have any social pension, because most of us don't (in fact, can't) work. No work, no bread. Lately neoliberals are becoming stronger.
Well, we all have our 'disabilities'.
For some people that means they feel a need to have power over those least able to slap them upside the head (as the Americans say.)
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jac379: Well, we all have our 'disabilities'.
For some people that means they feel a need to have power over those least able to slap them upside the head (as the Americans say.)
For some people that means they feel a need to have power over those least able to slap them upside the head (as the Americans say.)
Its pretty sad when prisoners are treated better than the elderly or disabled.
Cris
Jac
Unlao
Hope Easter is going good!
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fishinandshootin: Its pretty sad when prisoners are treated better than the elderly or disabled.
Cris
Jac
Unlao
Hope Easter is going good!
Cris
Jac
Unlao
Hope Easter is going good!
hiya Fishie
Very good thanks, hope the bunny spoilt you
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unlaoised: hiya Fishie
Very good thanks, hope the bunny spoilt you
Very good thanks, hope the bunny spoilt you
He did a little. I got chocolates in my inbox, which really made me smile. This is the only time of years bunnies come around me. they heard a rumor I was armed.
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fishinandshootin: He did a little. I got chocolates in my inbox, which really made me smile. This is the only time of years bunnies come around me. they heard a rumor I was armed.
Aw...no real, luscious chocolatey ones?
You wouldn't shoot a cute little bunny, would you?
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unlaoised: but but...I'm an Afri-can
But your not a person who needs a few new holes...
Funny you don't look African!
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fishinandshootin: But your not a person who needs a few new holes...
Funny you don't look African!
Funny you don't look African!
Albinofrican
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