So you meet through CS, talk a bit, and there's a definite something. Whether you meet up, or just keep the talk going for a while longer to test a few reactions, exchange photos, get on Skype; what's on your checklist? What makes you think, heyyyyy I think we have something here?
This is a rubbish list because I would pick more than one myself! But for me someone who was obviously enjoying my company obviously has superior sense and if they made me feel attractive and engaging, and not as if I wanted to run a mile in the opposite direction, I find that very appealing. Add any obvious ones that I missed!
I voted for 3 and 4....if he makes me feel attractive is important and we won;t "click" without that :) but it should happen naturally...not feel "fake or forced."
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VivianLee: So you meet through CS, talk a bit, and there's a definite something. Whether you meet up, or just keep the talk going for a while longer to test a few reactions, exchange photos, get on Skype; what's on your checklist? What makes you think, heyyyyy I think we have something here?
This is a rubbish list because I would pick more than one myself! But for me someone who was obviously enjoying my company obviously has superior sense and if they made me feel attractive and engaging, and not as if I wanted to run a mile in the opposite direction, I find that very appealing. Add any obvious ones that I missed!
Choosing a partner is not like buying a car. You only find out about a lot of the things you like about each other, through time. At first, obviously it's of a materialist sense, as people tend to go with something pleasing to the eyes.
I do have to be physically attracted to them. It won't go any further otherwise, That doesn't mean to say he has to be a Greek god, although that would help , but I personally have to be attracted to him. After that, obviously he has to have a lovely personality, intelligent, same sense of humour as me, kind, interesting, and fun to be with. If I don't have fun with him, and enjoy being in his company, it won't work.
I think a more interesting question may be, if we were to build our ideal partner from scratch, what would he/she be like... The physical has to come into it then. Otherwise you'd be left with a few innards floating in mid-air!
VivianLee: So you meet through CS, talk a bit, and there's a definite something. Whether you meet up, or just keep the talk going for a while longer to test a few reactions, exchange photos, get on Skype; what's on your checklist? What makes you think, heyyyyy I think we have something here?
This is a rubbish list because I would pick more than one myself! But for me someone who was obviously enjoying my company obviously has superior sense and if they made me feel attractive and engaging, and not as if I wanted to run a mile in the opposite direction, I find that very appealing. Add any obvious ones that I missed!
It's not a concious checklist.. but it's definitely sub concious. The brain has a funny way of weighing up a few things and balancing off the pros and cons automatically... like, if a woman is on the chubby side of things... but she has a really pretty face and nice eyes and the chubbiness was distributed in a somewhat feminine way.... then she gets a pass.
Now, on the other hand, if some woman was an annoying little Ms. prim with a chip on her shoulder.... she bloody better look good. Or in my case most of the time... if she's a psycho... she better had some serious redeeming features to pull her across the line. Unfortunately for me, many of the psychos do. lol
MADDOG69: It's not a concious checklist.. but it's definitely sub concious. The brain has a funny way of weighing up a few things and balancing off the pros and cons automatically... like, if a woman is on the chubby side of things... but she has a really pretty face and nice eyes and the chubbiness was distributed in a somewhat feminine way.... then she gets a pass.
Now, on the other hand, if some woman was an annoying little Ms. prim with a chip on her shoulder.... she bloody better look good. Or in my case most of the time... if she's a psycho... she better had some serious redeeming features to pull her across the line. Unfortunately for me, many of the psychos do. lol
So you would date an annoying little Ms. prim with a chip on her shoulder, or a psycho.....if they were attractive lookinf enough??
VivianLee: So you meet through CS, talk a bit, and there's a definite something. Whether you meet up, or just keep the talk going for a while longer to test a few reactions, exchange photos, get on Skype; what's on your checklist? What makes you think, heyyyyy I think we have something here?
This is a rubbish list because I would pick more than one myself! But for me someone who was obviously enjoying my company obviously has superior sense and if they made me feel attractive and engaging, and not as if I wanted to run a mile in the opposite direction, I find that very appealing. Add any obvious ones that I missed!
Everything you listed is appealing to me. The trick is finding and keeping it.
MADDOG69: if a woman is on the chubby side of things... but she has a really pretty face and nice eyes and the chubbiness was distributed in a somewhat feminine way.... then she gets a pass.
Spot on. And if a relatively attractive woman makes the most of herself regardless of size thats the same in my book
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What is attractive? Do you have a checklist that must be met?(Vote Below)
This is a rubbish list because I would pick more than one myself! But for me someone who was obviously enjoying my company obviously has superior sense and if they made me feel attractive and engaging, and not as if I wanted to run a mile in the opposite direction, I find that very appealing. Add any obvious ones that I missed!